help! this is pretty important?

Question

when my sister arrived in new delhi, my cousin called us, then he talked to me, then he gave the phone to my sister for us to talk, then when my mom came on the phone, my cousin talked to my mom for 2 minutes, then he talked to me..is it rude that my sister didnt talk to my mom when my cousin called, nor did he talk to my mom about my sister..

Answer 1

this is such a big problem......... i cant handle it

Answer 2

Oh good golly - this was probably just an oversight due to the excitement of the phone call, the fact that your sister had just arrived and was getting settled in, and that everyone in New Delhi that was on the phone was a little preoccupied at the time due to your sister's arrival. If your mother wanted to know about your sister, it was her place to either ask the cousin about her or ask to speak with her. It doesn't sound like anyone was being intentionally rude. Just sounds like your sister was likely tired from the trip and wasn't thinking about being polite and your cousin was just trying to be considerate by calling you all and he was having a "duh" moment because he was busy taking care of your sister who had just arrived. I wouldn't read too much into this. There are so many things in this world to be stressed about and to get riled up about. This is minor. I'd pick up the phone (accounting of course for the time difference) and call your sister in New Delhi and see how she is and then put your mother on the phone to talk with her. That should settle things. Stewing about and talking and worrying about it without doing anything about your concerns solves nothing. Life's too short to get so easily offended at family members for something you perceive to be a huge slight. Family is too important to cause conflicts over minor things. If your mother wants to know how your sister is doing, then call her. Simple as that.

Answer 3

Here is the rule on phones. You are not supposed to butt in. Your sister should not have asked to use the cousin's phone... unless MOM SAID, hey cousin, put sister on the phone.

It is also rude for the cousin to hand the phone to sister and say... hey you, you had better talk to mom... even if it is not your idea.

It had to be Mom's idea. Sister is not the rude one here. Really, no one is. And if Mom wanted to talk to sister, she could have made a second phone call... or of course ask cousin if sister was available to talk to her (mom).

That's the real deal on phone manners (in this particular case).

No one should be made out to be rude for not talking on the phone during a phone call they either did not make or if the phone call was not for them to begin with.

Answer 4

Sounds to me as though your more concerned than your mom is. It was really nice of your cousin to call when your sister arrived. This way your mom and you are assured that she arrived safely. Don`t put alot into this matter. Life is way to short to worry about the small stuff.

Answer 5

If everyone was as confused as your question, then I'm sure it wasn't rude. Everyone was probably just talking as quickly as possible to get off the phone & not run up the bill.

Let it go!

Answer 6

i took me a few more seconds to figure that out... um... did your mom not want to talk to your sister. i would just ask your cousin about it. ( if your, u know "buddy buddy")

Answer 7

OK that is really confusing but ya i think it is. Ok i re read it but ya it is rude. Maybe something just happened between them.Sry.

Answer 8

its not important at all. very often in those group calls, people forget who has talked to who and so forth. tell anyone worrying about this not to worry.

Answer 9

No, she was talking to your cousin...

Answer 10

this question is stupid!i'm not answering it!