Family - November 2007

I'm a 16 year old tall, white male. I constantly find myself under severe depression. I'm a junior in high school, and I have extremely low self-confidence. My social skills are lacking and I have almost no friends. I'm not on any sports teams or clubs. I'm a great soccer player, and I once tried out for the team but embarrassed myself because my confidence sucks. I'm always worried about life after high school, and going to college. I hated here in LA, and I want to move back to where my parents were born Ireland. I dream and cry about moving back to Ireland all the time, and can't wait to get out of this hell. I'm in a big family with 3 brothers and sisters and very little privacy. I love my family with all my heart, but constantly find myself pushing them away. I don't have a computer or cell phone. I want a girlfriend, but it's kind of hard to get one when I don't have a cell phone, low confidence, and a family always in my business. My grades are slipping right now, but even if I was getting straight A's I'd still always be depressed about school. I feel like I can't bend over in class or do anything in front of class. If my teacher callls me to the front of the class, I feel very uncomfortable going up the aisle. I feel like I always have to be looking up in class, or girls will think I'm looking at their behinds. I have trouble for asking for things in class, and can't look at people in the eyes. I feel like I have no life, and I feel like I'm going to be a failure. I constantly find myself depressed, and feel worthless. I have sometimes thought of suicide, but I then think about my religion, and how I can't do that. I always find myself avoiding going anywhere where there are people, and I prefer to be by myself all the time. I don't like people in Los Angeles, and I view them as snobby people. I can't wait to move back to Ireland, and that's the only thing that keeps me going. My life just seems like a mess, and I feel like a failure. I need some advice on my life.

2007-11-22 20:02:16 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband, 1yr. old daughter, and I are house-sitting for my husbands aunt. They have three dogs, three cats and one goat. We are house-sitting for a total of 5days/nights. We were not told that we were not allowed to sleep in the master bedroom- but rather given a note to sleep in one of the childrens rooms. (The other rooms were two twin beds or one very untidy teen room) The bed in that room was hard as rock and a double- I fell off,and hurt my shoulder the first night. I should have not expected the master- but if I known we would have brought our air mattress- way more comfortable! On top of that, we get back to the house this evening to find two strangers in the house playing pool! WTF? Come to find out that it's the teen daughters friends. She had tried to call us, couldn't get ahold of us, but let them come over anyway! All of our stuff is laying out in the room they were using. Was she out of line in saying they could still come over especially since she couldn't reach us?

2007-11-22 18:10:34 · 8 answers · asked by dianadoubt 2

i really cant take it. im so frusterated!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i want answers!!!!!!! my mom thinks im the most anoyying person and i ... i just want to be with her. this is SOOOOOOOOOOOO weird! ok usually the teenager is the one who doesnt want to be around the parent n the parent is the one who wants to always be around the teenager. with me and my mom its VISE VERSA! I guess.......im just really attatched to her and she doesnt..... want me. And dont even get me started with my dad. He has to live 7 hours away for half the week, every week. and when he is home? he is buisy as hell! Hes a work-a-holic....i really do hate it. and when we go to amusement parks... my dad never comes. he hasnt been to an amusment park since i was 5.... and that was almost 10 years ago.and my brother...sheesh he is like... UHHGGG!!!! he doesnt want n e thing 2 do w/ me. hes 2 years older. he just doesnt like me. i really feel so alone

COUNCELING DOES NOT HELP FOR ME

2007-11-22 17:32:01 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

well you know it was thanksgiving and its a time for family! well my grandparents came down and my brother visited. but everything i said they got mad at/ proved me wrong. and its like why are you trying to make me feel bad about myself? and then my mom got mad at me like every minute. and my sister was pissed at me. then i just stayed in my room and heard them laughing and having a good time but when i came out they were immediately quiet and stopped laughing. and then i said something about being excited to go shopping tomorrow and my mom seriously sighed. and then i went back in my room to and said i was going to sleep early and when i was back in my room they were all laughing. its so weird. its like they hate me. i cant wait until i can legally move out. but what should i do in the mean time?

2007-11-22 17:27:48 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

My Father is in a postion where he can get a new truck every two years(or less).He's a Chevy Truck guy. That's all he's ever had. He drives the crap out of them, pays them off within the loan time, and gets a new one.Before he trades the old one in he asks if we would like it. "We" being my grown self and husband. Sometimes we're between cars or financially not well and we say yes, sometimes we say, "No thanks, we're good." But, when we're financially not well and take him up on the offer, we kind of have to explain (to friends and family that know we're too poor to afford it) that my Dad gave us the truck. Then they assume that my Dad is gazziloinaire and we're spoiled. We're lucky to have such help. My Dad gives us enough to do something but not enough to do NOTHING. I don't know why it is so hard for some people to understand the difference between being spoiled and Parents giving their young a fair chance at life.

2007-11-22 17:11:08 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

i know i have been complaining about my little girls father and me. well, i gave in and told him i would give it one more chance. i love him don't get me wrong and our daughter adores him. but i am scared and im so afraid of her getting used to having him back and then him up and leave. Am i wrong for feeling like this? Do i just need to stand back and see what happens or intervene before it does happen?

2007-11-22 16:11:13 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

so me and my family are going out to breakfast tomarrow morning, but i dont like breakfast!! what do i do???

2007-11-22 16:06:47 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

All my dad does is scream and yell when ever you make one mistake, or raise your voice to him. Its embaressing when he does it infront of my friendsand my sister never comes home now because of him. I'm mostly worried about his health.

But one of the worst things about him, is that after he has one of his episodes he act like a five year old, he walks around in his underwear, shakes his butt, can't stand being in a room with out my mom, and he can't take care of himself on his own.

Is there something mentaly wrong with him?

2007-11-22 16:02:26 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been talking to a married man for a few months... NOT SEEING HIM... just talking over the phone and we have met up a few times and made out and stuff like that. I am 21 and he is 35. We have liked each other ever since I started working at the gym that he works out at... there has ALWAYS been an attraction between both of us. Now... I feel like I love him and I have feelings for him. YOU CAN NOT HELP WHO YOU LIKE OR HAVE FEELINGS FOR,... I DONT CARE IF THEY ARE MARRIED OR LIVE ON A DIFFERENT PLANET. So please dont start talking a bunch of crap on me b/c we BOTH like each other. Anyway.. his wife kinda found out and he said that we needed to LAY LOW for a little while and I asked him if he still wanted to talk to me and he said that he will still text me. And im sorry to say this but something will probly happen between us... we both agreed to it and like each other alot. I feel bad about it tho... Do you think he will continue to contact me? and no he has no kids

2007-11-22 15:58:47 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

Our T-day dinner tasted great. It should, since I cooked it all. My sis in law A forgot to inform us she was busy when we planned months ago. She showed up at 12pm today and called her mom and grandma to come. Dinner wasnt until 6, since my bro in law and his family had his wife's family stuff to attend at 1pm. First thing my mom in law says when she arrives is that we should have already had the turkey cooked. It was all I could do to not scream at all of them. I am sick of mom in law and grandma only worrying about themselves and my sis in law A. Every family function is centered around A who has no children and arrives late to everything without the stuff she said she'd bring. I cooked the food she was supposed 2 bring today in addition to the turkey, dressing and casserole I was making. I also had a house full of way too early guests. How do I nicely tell my husband's family that we aren't hosting Christmas festivities here? They are just too demanding and self centered!

2007-11-22 15:46:20 · 7 answers · asked by MomOfThreeBoys 3

ok so deep inside i really like my dad.
i guess i take advatage of him
like if i go shopping with him i can get anything i want
but when we are at home and he asks for a kiss ( just on a cheek ) i get all squirmy and run away. and then i feel sorry because i hurt his feelings.
im kinda worried too
because he always does something wrong and my mom yells at him alot
and how i reject him whenhe asks for a kiss.
and how his parents are both dead when my moms are both alive
so it makes me wonder. does he every not feel loved?
would he want to commit suicide?
i hope not!!!!!!!!!
i really love him alot!
how can i show it more?

2007-11-22 15:45:44 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

There was a time when I was at 4-H camp and was told that I had to forgive the other counselor at the camp because of his family life he came from. does that give him the right to sexually harass and make inappropriate touching?

Ex-gf/bf whatever do you forgive them if they abused you, or just broke your heart, stolen from you, wrecked your car....

Your parents who abused you but some how seem to not remember that in their memories of my childhood. Or the sickening part is that they act one way towards you and are like angels or perfect teacher to others or specially other children, when you were treated like dirt.

What about that parent who seems to be the saint who sits with her sick mother in the nursing home day after day, but can't take 1/2 hour to come visit you when you only live 7 miles from that nursing home.

Tell me how do you forgive them, and move on, and still love them, and tolerate them at holidays and be able to spend time with them....

2007-11-22 15:39:54 · 6 answers · asked by Artist Wanna Be 4

k i was a strait a student in the sixth grade and in 7th i would get like a c in math twice but that was it.....and bs...............in the sixth grade we wouldnt do anything we would get about one assignment a week and fet all week to do it.....and now im in 8th im trying super hard and i got a 69(D+) in Math :(
now i feel like ive failed its my 1st year of art and i got a c-!!!!!im srry im not the best drawer and she only gives us like a day to work!!!!!well neways my dad is super strict with grades
and he gets mad if i have more than 1 b well i tried super hard to get an a in math and i did all my homework but on the tests i fail them cuz my mind just goes blank and my notes dont help!!!!should i hide my grades?????i dont know what to do i dont want to dissapoint my parents

2007-11-22 15:38:55 · 12 answers · asked by dorkxxxx♥ 1

But they love thier son and show they love our daughter?

wt would u do in this situation? how much is ok?

It kinds of make me feel as if i will be only one singled out of my large inlaws family.

2007-11-22 15:33:00 · 8 answers · asked by abeer 2

ok i have a grandmother who for somreason takes it apon herself to let my mother know about every thing and i really dont care about that too awfull much but she keeps saying that my aunt doesnt want to have any thing to do with me and i am pretty sure that if my aunt didnt want any thing to do with me she would let me know i have asked her before if she wants me to go away and she never gives me a straight foward answer and i dont know what do do about this i know i did somthing that i shouldnt have but i thought that me and her talked that out but i hear different from another person .... what should i do...

2007-11-22 15:30:34 · 6 answers · asked by frogy_poo_87 1

k so looooong story short.. my mom cheated on my dad, she lied to my sister and i, kicked my dad out, i came home about a month after the divorce to a stranger in my house.. turned out to be my moms boyfriend. dissowned my sister over my sister not liking the boyfriend pretty much.. (now my sister lives with my dad) and around this time i found out about my mom cheating on my dad. i found out my mom told her boyfriend that she made a mistake in wanting a family and kids.. and she feels its time to start focussing on taking care of her self and what she wants. she doesnt even care about me. she doesnt talk to me about anything except herself, i cant live with my dad because he cant afford to take care of me, and he doesnt have room. my mom doesnt know i know that she cheated and my dad doesnt know that im having a hard time living this way, neither does my mom.. when my sister told my mom how she felt about everything.. she got kicked out..

2007-11-22 15:24:07 · 13 answers · asked by Terra 6

Basically, my family is really small and not very close. I had a lot of hurts in my childhood.

While my family members are not horrible people, I just can't help but feel disappointed because they are not the family I wish to have. We are not close, I can't "tell them anything," we don't hug or show physical affection. Basically, I just don't feel that close to them and a lot of times they make me angry. We have a very ambivalent relationship.

We're all getting together for the holidays (which almost never happens) and I'm afraid it will be a difficult experience. My mom, in particular, knows how to push my buttons. I pride myself on being a really kind, thoughtful, caring person, but I feel like I'm the opposite around her because she can upset me so much!! Then I feel like I'm a mean and shameful person.

How can I learn to love the good things and ignore the bad about my family?

2007-11-22 15:06:37 · 4 answers · asked by quirkyfunnyone 1

im 14 years old
i want to know how could i get emancipation from my dad because he never treat me with respect he inorges me and i want money to buy clothes he always ask me y do i need new clothes for
he also never spent family time so wats the point of it and he never says great job when i do something good


i want to get emancipation and live with my sister how could i do dat?

2007-11-22 14:36:30 · 16 answers · asked by Tonii 3

Do you think that a grown step-daughter, working full time and living at home with her dad and I should be paying for her room and board? Now add three children to this and me the step-grandma of 14 yrs (they refuse to call me grandma), I got them up, took them to and from school, fed them, cared for them daily, went to school programs with them 'cause mom was sleeping, etc. We have taken care of them for 5 months. The daughter works nights and sleeps days. Sometimes she did not even come home at 3:00 AM (like agreed upon), because a boyfriend got in the way. Are we, the grandparents wrong for not asking for room and board and childcare fees, I thought so? If you asked a grown daughter to pay her way, how much would you think would be right? When we asked her to help out, she moved out and is not speaking to us at all any more. She has moved in with different people 7 times in the last 4 months (with & without the kids) since she left. How do I mend this relationship with her dad?

2007-11-22 14:33:56 · 4 answers · asked by Wodi2008 2

I am having trouble with my family. I have been married for 3 years now. My husband and I have a daughter that will be 2 in December.

What I don't get is why are my parent's telling my husband and I how to raise our child? My mother is the worst, constantly telling me what I can and can't do to my daughter. Her recent rant was that I can't expect her to have a certain bedtime (which is usually between 8 and 9 pm) and she is just upsetting me all the time about things. I have tried to tell her to back off, but still nothing is helping me. I am considering to move to Iowa from Arkansas for this and other reasons. My mother also has her once a week and it is causing marriage problems because my husband can only spend time with my daughter on weekends. How can I get her to see this?

My dad is also a big player in this, because he keeps reminding me about when our next child comes out (which is in May) that it needs to be at least 18. Why are they doing this to me?

2007-11-22 14:33:22 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been looking after our 14month old granddaughter since my daughter returned to work in April.We were invited to stay at some friends for the weekend and she told us she needed 4weeks to book it off.I only get her shift rota the week she is doing and besides my husband works shifts and we have only been away once in 8months.She works in a shop as assistant manager and works over quite a lot.My husband told her we wanted to go thursday evening as he didnt want to travel on a friday as he has a bad back and didnt want to be sat too long in traffic.Well to cut a long story short we felt we had been taken advantage of long enough and decided to stand our ground and instead of doing all the running about we have told her that they must drop and collect our granddaughter off at our house when she is working.Up to now when she works a late our granddaughter has slept at our house.On the days she does days my husband drops her off home which is a 36mile round trip,which makes it a long

2007-11-22 14:20:10 · 8 answers · asked by Big momma 2

I have been suffering from postpartum depression since my daughter was born, she is now 18 months. I had a very rough childhood growing up. But now my parents act like there perfect condeming me, for saying "no" and also not letting my daughter stay the night with them (they live an hour away and my mother just got back surgery, she can't watch anyway), and when she goes over there house, they want complete contol over her, and basiclly tell her that she dosen't have to listen to me. to day on thanks giving in front of my husband and daughter, to me I am destorying my daughter( I got pregnant the day I got married, they told me to have an abortion, when she was 3 months they told me I need to give her up for adoption to them). That my daughter is perfect I shouldn't say no to her. Just let her do what she wants. I admit i do have problems, But my daughter has a nice home, Plenty of food & water, My husband works full time and I am a stay at home mom, i dont' go to clubs,drink,or smoke.

2007-11-22 14:15:25 · 5 answers · asked by Jessica c 2

I am 23 yrs old. I started college at the normal 18 yrs old and I had 2 take out a loan and use my mothers tax return 2 determine how much financial aid I would get. My mother tried 2 scam (as usual) and didnt put my father down as a parent living with us. She wasnt working for a long time so she didnt have any tax returns after a while making me have 2 take out a greater loan.

I couldnt afford it anymore and she wouldnt let me use my dad and I was very nervous about debt but because of this I ended up owing my school thousands of dollars anyway. My sister got an AA from a community college so it was cheaper for her. I want 2 go back 2 film school because I am a writer now and I want 2 be a film director. I need an education for this.

My mother thinks that I ruined my chances the 1st time (my 1st college wasnt 4 film) and I was stupid 4 dropping out cuz I couldnt afford it. She says I should just 4get about it and do a me medical assistant training since I'm 2 old 4 anything else

2007-11-22 14:05:08 · 15 answers · asked by Vicky Lovers 4

2007-11-22 13:49:57 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

im 39 weeks pregnant and my brother has got social services involved with r family because he is suscidal and the social services has me and my baby down as people at risk but i dont want them involved in me or my babys life at all and there calling a meting which will have my midwife and consultant and gp involved pluse 2 police men can i just tell them i dont want them involved with us at all im scared they will take my baby away all because my brother is suscidle im really scared incase they take mi little boy away from me when he is born please give me some advice thanks very much...

2007-11-22 13:45:13 · 17 answers · asked by natalie 2oo7 1

my parents are sperated and living in two houses and every time my dad leaves my mom is so angry and hurt she runs after him and tells us that it is his absolute last chance and well i just wanted to know if i am wrong to tell her she is making the wrong desicion and that she can do better than him!!!!!!

2007-11-22 13:25:13 · 6 answers · asked by kaitlyn b 1

Every time I masturbate in my room, which doesn't have a lock on the door, I really get into it and I'll be standing there and my brother will come in and hit me in the testicles, right as I'm about to ejaculate! He's 17 and I'm 13 so I can't fight him, I can't go to my parents because they can't know that I masturbate to porn, and whenever I tell him to stop he thinks it's funny. I've thought about pretending to masturbate and when he comes in I can turn around and urinate on him... What should I do?

2007-11-22 13:03:06 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

My grandma is 72 and lives alone my grandpa died in late August. She lives 10 mins. away from me. I want to talk to her just to talk cuz I love her nd she's my grandma. She doesn't drive and I'm just worried cuz my grandpa died and it makes me worry alot. She's on the phone with someone else cuz it rings once and then goes to voicemail. She has it set likethat and its been like that for about an 30-45 mins. It worries me. I'm scared. Please help!!! She doesn't prefer talking on the phone. Please help I always worry over nothing!!

2007-11-22 12:58:07 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

i am so upset. i found condums in my moms drawer. i was looking for socks and she said top drawer. i looked in the other top drawer and it was going threw the socks looking for the ones to wear and i found a big pile of condoms! what does this mean! is she having sex! SHE DOESN'T HAVE A BOYFRIEND!

2007-11-22 12:43:15 · 66 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-22 12:28:18 · 21 answers · asked by back2wait 2