I'm a 16 year old tall, white male. I constantly find myself under severe depression. I'm a junior in high school, and I have extremely low self-confidence. My social skills are lacking and I have almost no friends. I'm not on any sports teams or clubs. I'm a great soccer player, and I once tried out for the team but embarrassed myself because my confidence sucks. I'm always worried about life after high school, and going to college. I hated here in LA, and I want to move back to where my parents were born Ireland. I dream and cry about moving back to Ireland all the time, and can't wait to get out of this hell. I'm in a big family with 3 brothers and sisters and very little privacy. I love my family with all my heart, but constantly find myself pushing them away. I don't have a computer or cell phone. I want a girlfriend, but it's kind of hard to get one when I don't have a cell phone, low confidence, and a family always in my business. My grades are slipping right now, but even if I was getting straight A's I'd still always be depressed about school. I feel like I can't bend over in class or do anything in front of class. If my teacher callls me to the front of the class, I feel very uncomfortable going up the aisle. I feel like I always have to be looking up in class, or girls will think I'm looking at their behinds. I have trouble for asking for things in class, and can't look at people in the eyes. I feel like I have no life, and I feel like I'm going to be a failure. I constantly find myself depressed, and feel worthless. I have sometimes thought of suicide, but I then think about my religion, and how I can't do that. I always find myself avoiding going anywhere where there are people, and I prefer to be by myself all the time. I don't like people in Los Angeles, and I view them as snobby people. I can't wait to move back to Ireland, and that's the only thing that keeps me going. My life just seems like a mess, and I feel like a failure. I need some advice on my life.
2007-11-22 20:02:16 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm 52, but I had similar issues when I was your age. I couldn't wait to get out of school! My choice was to make a plan to finish high school early. I graduated after summer school of my junior year. Burying oneself in studies may seem like the wrong thing, but for you it might just be the best thing. We all get a chance in life to be socially accepted but often it doesn't happen in high school. It often happens later in life.
Keven Costner was my classmate in high school. He was boring. hehe Guess he showed us!
Oh, and my life doesn't suck either! Lovely wife, 4 kids, 2 grandkids. I love my work and I love my family. A total reversal from high school.
Everyone gets depressed. We all experience the same emotions. What separates us is how we channel them. Do you write poetry or play a musical instrument? <==hint
2007-11-22 21:05:10 · answer #1 · answered by Pragmatism Please 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get into activities that you like. To meet people, a social life is important. Not everyone will down-grade you. You don't need the snobby people in your life, I'm sure there's at least someone close to you that understands what your going through.
I know what you mean by low confidence. I think most us guys go through that. We just re-act in different ways. Hang in there bud. Hey, how are you getting to type on internet without a computer? Just curious.
2007-11-23 04:29:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is not easy going through the teen years, and so much worse when you have had to move away from your home country. You will get back there someday and you will feel differently one day. But in the meantime, please do as Major Tom says. You may feel shy about talking to strangers but believe me those help lines are life savers. It can really help just to talk to someone - believe me, I would never have survived a lot of similar experiences if I hadn't picked up the phone and called lifeline.
2007-11-23 04:20:49 · answer #3 · answered by ozinnz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
John, your problem is not unusual among men; and it's not a crime to be an introvert which I think you are. As an introvert, you are influenced by low self esteem and lack of courage to break the shell of depression and insecurity.
So, all you need do is to first change your mental attitude. See yourself as being great, attractive and useful to people around you. Secondly, believe in yourself that you can achieve whatever you set your mind to do, so, move to act on it. It does not mean you may not be disappointed when you set out to achieving something sometimes, but, it is the courage and determination to achieving it that you need to get over all obstacles.
Again, 'Never give up on whatever you set your mind to do'
Most times, the human mind is plagued with fears and negative thoughts, but, you must always reject any thought that does not conform to your wish or dream.
Lastly, John, I'll leave you with these words from great philosophers of our time: ' A man is what he thinks of himself all day', 'Whatever the mind of a man can conceive and believe, the mind can achieve', and 'No man can suceed in life with thoughts of failure and inferiority occupying his mind; and no man can ultimately fail when he is determined to suceed.'
John, do you know what I see in you? I see a great guy who has so much to offer the world, a guy who can conquer all barriers to his desires. But, the battle begins from inside of you while the victory lies in your mind. So, start claiming what's yours now.
2007-11-23 07:12:07 · answer #4 · answered by everforlove1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-11-23 04:11:47 · answer #5 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋