PLEASE HELP I'm really worried about my grandmA!!?

Question

My grandma is 72 and lives alone my grandpa died in late August. She lives 10 mins. away from me. I want to talk to her just to talk cuz I love her nd she's my grandma. She doesn't drive and I'm just worried cuz my grandpa died and it makes me worry alot. She's on the phone with someone else cuz it rings once and then goes to voicemail. She has it set likethat and its been like that for about an 30-45 mins. It worries me. I'm scared. Please help!!! She doesn't prefer talking on the phone. Please help I always worry over nothing!!

My grandma's house is ten mins away in a car on a walk 2 hours i guess?? it's 10 after 9 pm where I am on Thanksgiving Day The operator isnt on there in the US anymore. I asked mymom what to do it is her mom. My grandmas phones go dead easily and she would have noticedit. She has one phone that get soff the hook easily-i started crying cuz my mom doesnt knowwut2do i wuld beg my mom to drive me but she wont cuz its late and she hates nite driving. I'm so scared-if i would go to her house-id think the worst and id be so scared omy ghosh please help me I dont even have an appetite im depressed please help thanks sooooo much!!!!!

My grandma's house is ten mins away in a car on a walk 2 hours i guess?? it's 10 after 9 pm where I am on Thanksgiving Day The operator isnt on there in the US anymore. I asked mymom what to do it is her mom. My grandmas phones go dead easily and she would have noticedit. She has one phone that get soff the hook easily-i started crying cuz my mom doesnt knowwut2do i wuld beg my mom to drive me but she wont cuz its late and she hates nite driving. I'm so scared-if i would go to her house-id think the worst and id be so scared omy ghosh please help me I dont even have an appetite im depressed please help thanks sooooo much!!!!!

My grandma was tired when she came over to my house for Thanksgiving my mom took her home w/ me at about 5 I talked to her at about 7:45 pm then I havent talked to her since and its 9:12pm thanksgiving night She goes to bed arround now

Answer 1

Hello, Have you checked on the home devices that you could monitor her without worrying so much? There are so many devices and security programs that help elderly that live alone. There is a device that will let you know if someone is moving around the home or if she has even fell. There are some that will automatically go to 911 if she needs help. She is not really that old but at my age 43, I can understand the worry. Maybe you could get her a pet. I have a good friend who is 84 and her husband is in the nursing home with Parkinsons and Alzheimers. She had never lived alone until he went to the home. I got her a dog and it gives her reason to get up and gives her something to do. Take care of the baby her pet Ben. Hope this helps

Answer 2

Alright, calm down and take a deep breath,she is only 72 years old, not a helpless ancient! I'm glad she has such a caring grand child as you appear to be but it is not for you to be stressing out on her behalf; she has children to do that,surely? This will be a difficult time for everyone in the family,adjusting to a loss and the n trying to understand the real needs of an elderly person without making them feel that they are being watched over all of the time and not trusted to take care of themselves..your worry for her is based upon the fact that you lost your grandfather recently and this has forced you to face up to mortality....which is always hard .
Wait for another half hour and then try calling again, if you still can not get hold of her and you have someone to go with you then you might make that ten minute trip..but if she is talking to a friend or close family member then she may be talking about her situation and feelings and could be on the telephone for a long time. I think that you have got to try to trust her, she has a telephone and can call if she needs anything or anyone. As you live so near to her you might drop by on your way home in the evening and spend quarter of an hour chatting to her about your day and hers.have a cup of coffee or tea or whatever,maybe even take round some cookies to share..and then you will know if she is looking and sounding well or not and if not, you can talk to your mother or father about it and share this burden of responsibility you have taken upon yourself.
I won't tell you not to worry because at present you can not help but do so; only try to find ways of minimizing that worry, of being able to remind yourself that a couple of hours ago she was fine and so on.

Answer 3

Well, your grandma probably doesn't like to talk with people on the phone because she is sad about her husband dying. It's perfectly fine for you to be concerned, and she will probably be happier in a while. I'm sorry about your grandpa. Maybe you can walk over to her house and talk to her. She would probably enjoy the company. Hope I helped!

Answer 4

Call the operator "0" -- and tell them you are worried about her. They can tell you if there is a "voice" on her line....if she's talking to someone. Maybe she doesn't want to be interrupted right now or something too? But the operator will do that - they can check the line from their end.

Answer 5

regrettably I spank my son, so i does no longer be the desirable to respond to this, besides the incontrovertible fact that i could tell Grandma, that while you're thoroughly grateful in taking peace of suggestions that he's in her care on Sundays which you ask that she does not spank him, That their are many different kinds of self-discipline, ( timeouts case in point, and which you have chosen to parent him with out actual reprimand, and that anybody looking after him is to do the comparable, if she nonetheless does not seize wind, supply her examples, ( Like how could you experience, in case you left me to observe Pookie, ( a favourite poultry or cat, or canine of hers) and it have been given out of hand, could she choose you to smack the poultry??? that style of element, help her to be sure that by making use of spanking him even once you have made it sparkling which you do no longer choose him spanked is nearly a disrespect to you and your words.

Answer 6

Hi! As others have said, maybe you could go over there. If you live with your parents or a parent, maybe one of them would walk or drive over there with you, since it seems unusual that she's on the phone that long. (I'm saying maybe drive, as I don't know where you live, and at night it's probably safer to drive.)

Answer 7

Give it 24 hours and if you still can't reach her then drive to house, or if you can't drive get a lift. If she doesn't answer the door then you might want to use a spare house key, if you don't have one then get ahold of one from someone who does.

Answer 8

Her phone could be off or have a dead battery and exhibit the same response as one ring and voice mail.

Answer 9

I am so happy you worry about your Grandma,leave her be,just check on her occasionally to make sure.You are a good grandaughter,mine on the other hand completely forgot about me.God Bless you ,child.

Answer 10

Take 10 mins to walk over there and spend sometime with her, i'm sure she's ok and will feel much better with you there :^)