But they love thier son and show they love our daughter?
wt would u do in this situation? how much is ok?
It kinds of make me feel as if i will be only one singled out of my large inlaws family.
2007-11-22 15:33:00 · 8 answers · asked by abeer 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Did you marry a man?
Where is your husband?
If they can not be king to you, they forfit any relationship with the children. PERIOD
This should be coming from a MAN.
2007-11-22 15:37:53 · answer #1 · answered by tlindsey3417@verizon.net 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless you have the backing of your husband you will not win this, he sounds more loyal to his parents than he does to you and your child, this is the problem of arranged marriages, they are not a bond that is made with love and affection for the other spouse so it is not as important to your husband as it is for you, he sees himself as a man that is free to do as he pleases but you are his property and you should just do what is expected of you and his mother must also think the same, if I was in your position, I would leave because it will not get better without the support of your husband which of course means that he will have to tell his mother to mind her own business and he wont do that, you have nothing to apologise for, you should be getting an apology from your mother in law and another from your husband, a marriage is an equal partnership and it certainly does not include your in laws..
2016-05-25 01:51:29 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say no contact. If they can't be respectful to you, they are disrespecting their son as well. And don't think they wouldn't bad mouth you to your child when you aren't there. Is that ok with your husband? I'm sure it wouldn't be. This happened to me when I was young. My grandparents talked down to my dad, and talked about him in front of me. I'm and adult now and I don't associate with them much these days. Your husband needs to take the inniative and tell them this is not ok with him. Of course they will try to blame it all on you, because it's easier. Husband needs to put his foot down and tell them. And he should find out just what the problem is. They will look ridiculous, and he'll see they are being petty. If they love your daughter, and your husband, then they should show that by not being hateful to you.
2007-11-22 15:52:47 · answer #3 · answered by MomOfThreeBoys 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My parents did not llike my new wife and her kids and I told them if they could not accept my whole family that I would not let them spend anytime with me or my daughter either, it has been 2 years with no contact from them and I have no regrets what so ever. If your husband truly loves you he would find out what is going on and you can work through it, I hope it does not turn out like mine. My daughter is fully aware of the situation and she agrees with me on this. she does not wish to spend any time with them either until they are willing to accept my wife and all my kids as their own.
2007-11-22 15:50:06 · answer #4 · answered by rig_46 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
make them come pick her up and drop her back to you.Tell them your rules and insist they follow them.
But they have the right to visitation and remember one day your daughter will be old enough to ask questions and expect honest answers,you want everything you have done to be unreproachable.They will step in they're own pudding so to say.
As to how often,that depends on your schedule and plans.Make them request the time in advance so it will coincide with your schedule.Or if you need a break call them and let them know time is available if they are interested.
2007-11-22 15:54:09 · answer #5 · answered by Kirk K 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ask your husband to find out why they dont like you
dont worry
when i was adopted my aunt and uncle wouldnt come to my baby shower. actually for 13 yrs ive never ever met them before, i would see them in shoprite occasionally but i wouldnt talk to them
it was kinda sad
when my mom told me that i starting crying
they had a grudge on my family and my moms other sister,
and i have no idea why
my mom says that he just doesnt like us which is really weird
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2007-11-22 15:39:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't punish my child because I can't get along with her grandparents. Don't use your children like weapons.
2007-11-22 15:57:31 · answer #7 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever is in the best interest of the child is always the rule of thumb, not what is in your best interest.
2007-11-22 15:41:01 · answer #8 · answered by April First 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋