I want to cry right now. My mom hates me?

Question

i really cant take it. im so frusterated!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i want answers!!!!!!! my mom thinks im the most anoyying person and i ... i just want to be with her. this is SOOOOOOOOOOOO weird! ok usually the teenager is the one who doesnt want to be around the parent n the parent is the one who wants to always be around the teenager. with me and my mom its VISE VERSA! I guess.......im just really attatched to her and she doesnt..... want me. And dont even get me started with my dad. He has to live 7 hours away for half the week, every week. and when he is home? he is buisy as hell! Hes a work-a-holic....i really do hate it. and when we go to amusement parks... my dad never comes. he hasnt been to an amusment park since i was 5.... and that was almost 10 years ago.and my brother...sheesh he is like... UHHGGG!!!! he doesnt want n e thing 2 do w/ me. hes 2 years older. he just doesnt like me. i really feel so alone

COUNCELING DOES NOT HELP FOR ME

Answer 1

::::::hugs::::: find sum1 who u can talk too even if its not a councilor... *im here to talk if u need a friend* im sorry to read this cuz i wouldnt want any1 i know to feel this way... ::::HUGS:::

Answer 2

You guys are all overwhelmed by the world around you. Your mom is having issues with your dad being gone so much and she really needs a break from you. Don't take it personal, I'm not saying that you are the problem. I'm saying that life for your mother has become a huge burden that she needs a vacation from. Where it regards your brother, what he's 17???? He has something on his mind all the time and he can't think of anything else right now, this will pass.
Try to give your mom some space and help her out around the house.
Good luck

Answer 3

Why not? If you really are frustrated by what's going on, find a good therapist. There are plenty of people out there who can't help you; some even will answer your "question."

And while you may not have found anything worthwhile in counseling, what you're asking for is exactly what GOOD counseling can give you. Because you're not gonna find out why your mom doesn't want you around through Yahoo! And you're not gonna find how to deal with it through Yahoo! And nobody here is gonna be there when you really need somebody like a really GOOD therapist can be. Find one!

Because it sounds like your life really hurts right now. And like you don't have the skills to get those you love to listen to you so you can tell those you love how very much it does. A therapist can help there, too.

You're not alone. You're living in pain. Find help, real help.

Answer 4

Your mom doesn't hate you sweetie. You have to understand that she has problems of her own that occupy her mind....very adult problems that teenagers usually don't even think about or consider. When you're a teenager, you think everything is about YOU. For instance, the entire post, you described how YOU were mistreated from your mother, your brother, and your dad. At no point did you seem to try and understand THEIR point of view at all or take into consideration anything going on in THEIR lives. I'm not calling you selfish - it's just how teenagers are. Think about it this way: Your mother has a husband who spends half his time physically away from her and even when he's home, he's not really WITH her mentally. Like you said, he's always working. Your mom NEEDS attention and love from her husband....that's what every woman should expect from her marriage. The fact is, it doesn't sound like your parents have a very good marriage at all and it's obviously stressful and hurtful to your mother....and unfortunately, she probably takes that out on you when in reality,it has nothing to do with YOU at all. She's just dealing with some very serious, adult issues and adults tend to take out their frustrations on the closest person around....in this case, that's you. I'm sorry she's not acting nice to you but try being there for her and showing her that you're trying to understand HER life instead of just focusing on your own problems. She would probably really appreciate that.

Answer 5

Your mom doesn't hate you! She's probably stressed and busy during the holiday season. If you tell her that you want to spend more time with you, I'm sure she'll respond well. It's common for siblings to fight, especially when you're only two years apart. You'll get along when you're older. If you just tell your mom how you feel I'm sure she'll make you feel better. Your dad probably works so hard to give you and your brother all of the things you need like a nice place to live and good food and clothes and everything. He isn't doing it to neglect you. I'm sorry you feel this way but you should look at it differently and talk to your family about how you feel!

Answer 6

I went through that as a child. Books and animals were my best friend. I wish my Mom could have seen me for the girl I really was instead of an inconvenience, but she chose not to. You don't know for sure though if that's her choice too unless you ask her. If you have, and she's pushed you away, it's time to start counting down days to college, and to build meaningful friendships. If you have grandparents you need to talk to them. Don't forget they're still your parents' parents. They might get them whipped into shape. I'll cross my fingers for you hon.

If it's any solace, I'm a very good Mom. Not perfect, but no one is, but definitely warm and loving. My daughters tell me all the time I'm their best friend. Keep that thought close to you. You may not be able to change your own life but you can make a difference in your babies' lives when it's their time. I hope that helps.

Answer 7

I am sorry that you are feeling down right now. I went through the same situation when I was around your age. I was afraid to talk to my parents about the way I was feeling so I wrote them a letter. I was able to tell them how I was feeling and asked that they write me back in return. That helped me out a lot and got us through an akward situation. You can try the same with your brother. Or maybe record a song that sums up how you feel and leave it in your mom's car stereo.

Good luck and I hope I was able to help you out at least a bit!

Answer 8

How about writing a letter, calmly, to each of them telling them how you feel. Then ask if there is some way that you can mend your relationship with them. Make sure to mention how much you miss them, and really want a good relationship with them.

Sometimes it is easier to express yourself in writing, and also easier to get others to hear you out. Whenever I can't get through to my sister, I have always been able to work it out in a letter.

Answer 9

Hey I feel exactly the same way. A couple of years ago I went through the same EXACT thing. What helped me was that I wrote letters to my mom getting out all my feelings but never gave them to her. You should try it. It actually feels pretty good after.

Answer 10

take a deep breath! do you have any close friends you can talk to??? I think you just need somebody to talk to and no one in your family is there for you. Have you said anything to your mom or dad about this. They are your parents so they care about you and if your feeling down. Talk to someone!

Answer 11

I am soooo sorry sweety. What makes you think your mom finds you annoying? what does she say? Maybe she is the one with the problem.... I wish my son wanted to hang out with me,lol! Dad may be a work-aholic because he is trying to avoid issues at home.... I would need more info to advise you better...