I have been suffering from postpartum depression since my daughter was born, she is now 18 months. I had a very rough childhood growing up. But now my parents act like there perfect condeming me, for saying "no" and also not letting my daughter stay the night with them (they live an hour away and my mother just got back surgery, she can't watch anyway), and when she goes over there house, they want complete contol over her, and basiclly tell her that she dosen't have to listen to me. to day on thanks giving in front of my husband and daughter, to me I am destorying my daughter( I got pregnant the day I got married, they told me to have an abortion, when she was 3 months they told me I need to give her up for adoption to them). That my daughter is perfect I shouldn't say no to her. Just let her do what she wants. I admit i do have problems, But my daughter has a nice home, Plenty of food & water, My husband works full time and I am a stay at home mom, i dont' go to clubs,drink,or smoke.
2007-11-22 14:15:25 · 5 answers · asked by Jessica c 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I love my husband very much, and he says, I'm a great mom. that it will get better as therapy goes on. Which I know is true. I have been getting therapy and taking meds for my depression since it stared.
2007-11-22 14:23:48 · update #1
The only reason i am worried about moving away is my parent will try to take me to court saying I am unstable, and try to take my daughter away.
2007-11-22 14:24:56 · update #2
Great parent duh I hard life "I was mosleted you idoit" Children need structure and love. I not supid and tooka parenting class and read lots of book. Nothing prepars you to me a full time mom and it's much harder with depression. I love my faily very much, thats why I ask sujestions to maybe make things a little better.
2007-11-22 14:29:52 · update #3
Great parent duh I hard life "I was mosleted you idoit" Children need structure and love. I not supid and tooka parenting class and read lots of book. Nothing prepairs you to me a full time mom and it's much harder with depression. I love my family very much, thats why I ask sujestions to maybe make things a little better.
2007-11-22 14:30:54 · update #4
THE FIRST THING TO DO , IS SIT YOUR PARENTS DOWN AND LET THEM KNOW THAT YOU ARE THE MOTHER AND THEY SHOULD ABIDE BY YOUR WISHES FOR YOUR CHILD! THEN CONTINUE WITH THE THERAPY AND GET MENTALLY HEALTHY! SET BOUNDRIES FOR THEM! GIVE THEM A LIST OF YOUR RULES FOR YOUR DAUGHTER. IF THEY DON'T ABBIDE BY THE RULES, THEN KEEP HER AWAY FROM THEM! THEY CAN'T GET HER AWAY FROM YOU UNLESS YOU AND YOUR HUBBY ARE BOTH UNFIT AND THEY HAVE PROOF! THEY WILL HAVE A REAL TOUGH BATTLE TO TAKE A CHILD AWAY FROM IT'S MOTHER IF THERE IS NO PROOF!
2007-11-22 14:37:11 · answer #1 · answered by momma_m_47280 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound uneducated. You need some parenting classes and you need therapy on how to set up healthy boundaries with your parents. It appears your parents are smart and you - not so much... So they are doing what they think is best for your daughter.
Yes, you should move away and take parenting classes and get therapy. This way, you can become healthy. Food, water and a home doesn't make a good parent. A good parent has to actually KNOW how to parent correctly. The most important part of parenting what you say and how you raise your children. Take parenting classes!
2007-11-22 22:24:43 · answer #2 · answered by Dina K 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your parents seem to be the real problem. Not you, or your husband. If you have tried to talk with them, and continue to get that junk from them, then your husband is right. You should move to another town. Parents are suppose to be supportive and create a happy, loving atmosphere. If you and your husband are happy together, by all means move away.
2007-11-22 22:23:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Listen, I know you are depressed and that in itself makes it very difficult to think clearly and to also think with a positive light. Your parents cannot take your child away and I would DEFINITELY move. You need to keep your children away from them. They undermine your family, dishonor you and your husband as parents. This will NOT get better, this will get WORST. You mush honor your husand and children first.
These people are toxic and unsafe for your family on many levels. Just because people are family does NOT mean you have to have a relationship with them. It does NOT mean you have to keep them in your life. You owe it to your children to encompass them with people who are good, decent, honorable. Not emotionally and possibly physically dangerous.
Good luck.
2007-11-23 08:34:20 · answer #4 · answered by oh_my_its_linda 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you stay away from your family and keep your daughter away from her too. For whatever reason, you must not be willing to stay away from them on your own, and your husband must be pretty desperate to tell you that you should move away. I think you should listen to him. You're a grown woman, a wife and a mother, and you need to make your own life, and your husband is trying to tell you that. Pay attention.
2007-11-22 22:24:22 · answer #5 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋