How do you deal with an over stressed and angry dad?

Question

All my dad does is scream and yell when ever you make one mistake, or raise your voice to him. Its embaressing when he does it infront of my friendsand my sister never comes home now because of him. I'm mostly worried about his health.

But one of the worst things about him, is that after he has one of his episodes he act like a five year old, he walks around in his underwear, shakes his butt, can't stand being in a room with out my mom, and he can't take care of himself on his own.

Is there something mentaly wrong with him?

Answer 1

in today's economy everyone is under a lot of stress.
alot of people do not know how to handle it,so they do things that make little to no sense at all.Pay closer attention to the families money problems and look for the stress points.You may believe your dad makes good money,but we live lifestyles according to our income of several years ago.With the price of fuel and the housing market and mortgage problems,your dad could be fighting things you know nothing of.Try to understand the things your dad is facing in this new economy and you might find the reasons for his stress.Make yourself seen and not heard as much as possible,but always willing to help when he is of a mood.Hopefully things will ease up and life will get back to the way it was.

Answer 2

Stress is the only reason for that kind of attitude. Dad yells sometimes he doesn't really mean it ,or he just want to express his authorithy. It maybe something or some issues around him. Why don't you talk to your mom and ask her what could be the problem, you may want to team up to help your dad. Try to patch up things between you and dad. Help your sister and talk to your mom about it. Seems you are mature enough to do it. You can help make your home a happy place, just be good.

Answer 3

she is upset with you because she married you thinking you would support her, but instead she is left supporting you. If you are having a hard time getting a job, go apply at a job you think is beneath you. Subway, Mcdonalds, etc. They are almost always hiring, and your wife will be much happier that she isn;t the only thing holding the house together. Think about it, what if she gets laid off because they have company issues and is unemployed. You wouldnt be able to even have your lights turned on let alone eat dinner. Give her some credit, you should really be going over the top to make her happy instead of bi+ching about how grumpy she is. She has the weight of supporting multiple people on her shoulders right now... do you expect her to be happy about it??

Answer 4

Wow. Well, yes, there may be something wrong with him,.. he may be bi-polar and your mom and him may even be experiencing problems and he can't handle them. Perhaps work or money issues have him stressed out. I know because I tend to do that with my kiddos sometimes. But if you are a teenager you may be experiencing a battle of wills right now and don't understand why your dad demands certain things from you. Sometimes if we get to know somebody,especially their past, i.e. their childhood, etc., we can understand their actions a little better. Maybe you can catch your dad in one of his better, calmer moments and tell him how you feel about the way he behaves and his yelling. it's not cool to yell at your kids. I know. but talking definitely helps. Ask your sister to join you, she's hurting too.

Answer 5

It sounds like he is under a lot of stress and you are just in the firing line. Try and give him some space when he gets like that and also, this is the hard one, try not to retaliate, once he has finished just say nothing and he will eventually realise that he was out of line. My dad was the same and he used to sing silly songs after yelling at us or when my friends were around but it was because of his stress full job. When I tried to talk back to him he would lay into me so I learnt to just shut up and look at him in the eye. Just stay out of his way and learn how not to be when you have kids.

Answer 6

What is wrong with him is what is wrong with society in general. The idea of a nuclear family is fairly new and very stressful to juggle looking after kids and making a living at times. He sounds stressed out. The burden of child rearing and earning a living ought not be so combined. Where are your grandfolks by the way? Off enjoying their retirement?... So were mine.. my poor folks..

Answer 7

I could see that if he drinks. But obviously if he has "Episodes" like that, then there might be...If it just started lately - than yes. I think he has bipolar. If he walks around in his underwear, and shakes his butt - like alittle kid, maybe he has bipolar.

He should go to a doctor and get checked out for a mental illness. I hope everything gets alright :) God bless.

Answer 8

yes there is something mentally wrong with him. I am a father of teenagers. and my kids tell me if I am acting wierd.His underwear thing is a way of attracting attention in a extreme way. Call him out when he is doing it and tell him you dont like it.Ask him why he is doing it.You'd be suprised how much he cares about your opinion. Tell him to stop. He probaubly will.

Answer 9

Thats weird but I can help you with one part my dad had to take anger management classes because he got mad and couldn't control it after wards I think that it really helped
it is 2 yrs later and he hasn't had a break down since

Answer 10

Could be, sure sounds like it. I would talk to your mother and see if she can get him into the doctor for a check up. You know, people act really weird when they have tumors or new medical conditions. He needs to be evaluated.