I gave in to him.?

Question

i know i have been complaining about my little girls father and me. well, i gave in and told him i would give it one more chance. i love him don't get me wrong and our daughter adores him. but i am scared and im so afraid of her getting used to having him back and then him up and leave. Am i wrong for feeling like this? Do i just need to stand back and see what happens or intervene before it does happen?

Answer 1

I'm guessing there's a lot more to this story than you've put here.

Why are you that concerned about it? Has he burned you in the past? Has someone else, and you're just insecure? Has he ever hinted that he would not, for one reason or another, be there for his daughter?

I say, if you're going to give it a chance, really give it a chance. If you're sitting around waiting for it to all fall apart, or planning your possible exit before you even really get into the relationship, no, it won't work out.

If you really don't think a romantic relationship with him is a good idea, or you dont' think it will last long, don't get into it. Just because you and he aren't in a relationship does NOT mean he can't be present and be a great dad to your little girl.

That's just my personal opinion, but the only person who can make those decisions are you and him. Consider it all before you get into a relationship.

And BOTH of you need to decide, no matter what, your daughter comes first, so even if things don't work out for you as a couple, her needs are met first, and you are on the same page when it comes to parenting her.

Good luck.

Answer 2

It will not work if you are not seeking help from a family counseler All the issues of the past will resurface realy fast because nothing had been resolved

Answer 3

You are scared because you know YOU are responsible for the broken heart your daughter will soon have

Answer 4

whatever happens , happens!! if he really loves you and if its ment to be he will stay wit you forever!