why do i hate my dad?!?! help!?

Question

ok so deep inside i really like my dad.
i guess i take advatage of him
like if i go shopping with him i can get anything i want
but when we are at home and he asks for a kiss ( just on a cheek ) i get all squirmy and run away. and then i feel sorry because i hurt his feelings.
im kinda worried too
because he always does something wrong and my mom yells at him alot
and how i reject him whenhe asks for a kiss.
and how his parents are both dead when my moms are both alive
so it makes me wonder. does he every not feel loved?
would he want to commit suicide?
i hope not!!!!!!!!!
i really love him alot!
how can i show it more?

Answer 1

You should always make sure you thank you dad for buying you things and let him know that you mean it. I have to be honest. When your kids brush you off, it does hurt a little, but no, I don't believe your dad would hurt himself because of this. Don't worry about that.

It's not uncommon for teenage girls to try to put distance between themselves and their dads. At that age, running up to dad and giving him a big kiss just feels a little awkward, when just a few years before, it seemed perfectly natural.

Maybe there are other ways you two can be close, like playing cards or a game together or watching movies together. My husband and daughter liked to go fishing together when she was a teen.

Answer 2

This was a confusing question.

I highly doubt your dad wants to commit suicide, if he did... he probably would've already jumped off a roof or something by now. You're just making assumptions and getting worried for nothing.

I'm pretty sure all of us don't feel loved at some point or lonely, but that doesn't mean whenever people feel that way we automatically take desperate measures like suicide attempts. If you're so worried then the best loving you can give your dad is just to remind that you do love him even if you flinch when he offers you a kiss. Open up and tell him you're worried about him. Go spend time with him, WITHOUT asking for tons of stuff. Be nice, respect him and like i said just remind him every once in a while that you really do love him.

Answer 3

You no we only have 1 mom an 1 dad. I don't think letting ur dad get a kiss on the cheek will hurt anything besides you said it yourself he doesn't have his parents so he might be just cherishing the moments that he have with you. I feel you should tell him that you love him more an explain to him that the reason you don't let him kiss you isn't because you don't love him but it just makes you feel a little awkward an that you will try to work on it, but let him know all in all that he's a good dad an you love him. Just be honest with him so you don't have to regret anything later. Good luck. Oh yeah don't just go shopping with him because you no he will buy you things but go because you want to spend time with him because when you do things like that they will find their way of coming back to bite you in the a**. Trust me i no!!!

Answer 4

I doubt he wants to commit suicide,He probably is very discouraged and confused.
first you need to take an inventory of your own feelings and see the reasons you feel and act as you do.
you need not kiss him,but a hug shows affection as well
after you have decided your thoughts and feelings,ask if you and he could go for a walk or a coke,anything that would give you talk time.
Be strait forward and discuss the things you have come up with.Let him know your confusion and how much you love him.End with you want his help in this and want to make your lives better and more loving.
If he loves you,and i am sure he does.He will respect and appreciate your dilemma and will do everything in his power to make life better and will be proud to see the ways you have grown and taken steps to correct yours and your families dilemma.
Remember everything that affects you,affects the entire family.

Answer 5

Wow! I'm sorry but, I had to answer this question. For one, I do not think you hate your Dad. Not from what you wrote about him and his losses. It seems to me, you are maturing and starting to be empathetic, with your Dad. The reason I say this is because you say your Mom always yells at him. Then, you spoke of your distancing yourself from him. How he must feel lonely.

I cannot answer you about his loneliness but, I am praying that you will look deeply into the why's of things. Why does Mom yell at him? Why do you distance yourself from Him? I can tell you, I have lost my Dad and there is never another Dad! We only have one. In as much, I pray and ask God to give you the strength to have a heart to heart with your Dad. Pray, ask God to help you with the words as time is precious and our family is a gift.

I will be praying for you and for your relationship, with your dad to be a close and loving one. By the way, if I could have just one more kiss, on my cheek, from my Dad.....no words can describe the joy!

I wish you the best!
Gail

Answer 6

The best way to show him is by telling him how you feel. In fact you can write a nice poem about him. In your poem express how much you care about him, and you can write some of funny things you both done while you are growing up. I am sure your dad would be proud knowing you spend time to write to him a nice poem, after that give him a loving hug. God bless.

Answer 7

aww! he seems really nice. i think that you should kiss him when he asks for it and sometimes...just randomly kiss him on the cheek to show that you care and he isnt alone. also, when he takes you shopping, tell him THANK YOU! all the time. it shows that you arent using him and u appreciate what he bought and did for you. im sure he knows that you love him and that you are there for him but these are just things that will make his day! i hope i helped u. good luck!!!

Answer 8

Stop behaving like a brat and tell him. Hug him if you don't want to kiss him. Make him something special, like coffee or ice tea and bring it to him.

Answer 9

hate is a strong word, you don't hate him, you said it yourself you love him. try not to take advantage of him, and hug him when he gets home or when you get home, just run into his arms, it'll make him feel more important than anything

Answer 10

you dad sounds like he grooming you, for possible abuse and your mom is wrong to criticize him in front of you it make you less likely to feel loving about your dad, talk to both parents and tell them you want family therapy or ask your school counselor to do it for you. good luck