Hi there,
Any advice on the following conundrum would be greatly appreciated :)
My twin brother and I seem to be "at war" with our parents almost every day. Our parents seem to believe that we do not help out enough in comparison to the privileges we recieve ( laptops, xbox 360, tvs, math tutoring, cars,horses and tennis etc) . I'm not trying to portray myself as the patron saint, I know I'm not perfect. I can be very argumentative and sarcastic, and I have often been labeled a smart alec. The problem I seem to be having is that I am begining to feel extremely angry and I am displaying this to my parents in a way I wish I could prevent. However, they refuse to let me walk away when I feel this anger build. They are now threatning to take away every privilege my brother and I recieve, they say that if my attitude does not improve soon they will send me to bording school overseas (probably The Netherlands)! I don't know what to do anymore, they won't take me seriously. Any advice?
2007-11-23 20:43:39 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have tried on many occasions to sit down with them and talk, however we all end up shouting and nothing is achieved.
I do not wish to go to boarding school, my parents own an accounting firm and I would like to see more of them, not completely be disowned by them.
2007-11-23 20:52:34 · update #1
Erm, people have been interpreting that I am a guy... (probably because of the twin brother thing) My brother and I are fraternal twins... I can't have a man to man talk since I am female.
2007-11-23 21:21:31 · update #2
Do discuss the issue with your parents, seriously, good family ties are very valuable...If previous attempts have failed, try being the adult, and not shout, just remain calm and try to explain what exactly your problem is, and (very important!): listen to their problems as well! You obviously need to compromise (and so do your parents). Only when both parties realise that, you can work things out.
Have you ever thought about not taking these "priveleges"? An Xbox/car/laptop is nice, but is it worth arguing about with your parents?
2007-11-23 23:11:43 · answer #1 · answered by Bas L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No offense...but it sounds like you really have only two choices here...
shape up or ship out.
Why don't you try being grateful for all the stuff they provide for you...and if you're not grateful for it...you can send it to me, before you ship out.
Cars horses tvs??? man I had to buy my own clothes with money I earned from a full time job while still attending high school...while my parents bought my little sister all kinds of stuff. Get a grip and show them respect and thankfulness..they don't have to give you anything but food clothing and shelter.
They don't listen to you because you aren't mature enough to show gratitude and respect.
Mature and they will listen...respect by parents is EARNED. they have earned respect by providing for you needs and luxuries as well...now it's your turn to earn yours...be a man not a whiny brat...and they will treat you like a man..and not a child.
2007-11-24 05:02:18 · answer #2 · answered by Kenneth 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
There are many facets of life,one of which is the child and adult-hood, when you have the affection and patronage of your well wishers. During the adult-hood a person may try to be on his own.Sometimes the wave length may not suit with the parents.
Therefore my sincere advice is to underplay your emotional feelings and go with your parents till such a time you can be on your own.
2007-11-24 04:55:04 · answer #3 · answered by pavamana 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You and your brother should sit down with your parents to talk about what is happening between you, and suggest family counseling...it might help. Good Luck!
2007-11-24 04:50:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
your parents have an abnormal amount of control over you. until you cast off this burden, you will always be under their control. sorry.
2007-11-24 04:46:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes parents are just like that.
Talk to them, man to man, and tell them you have other things to do than their stupid chores. Tell them you have your own commitments and you cannot be there for them all the time.
Tell them you will be more than willing to help AFTER you have looked after your own affairs.
2007-11-24 04:49:46 · answer #6 · answered by TopDog 2 · 1⤊ 4⤋
call them on it.
go to bording school.
trust me, if they LOVE "YOU", they wont send you.
tennis? horses? wtf? send me 2,000 so i can get my lisence back then ... yer kinna spoiled nuckah.
2007-11-24 04:49:52 · answer #7 · answered by AMPED_UP_JESUS 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋