is it bad that i still.....?

Question

okay so when i was 6 my parents split up and got devoriced because my mom was cheating on my dad with another guy. i live with my daddy now. And visit my mom every wednesday and eveery other weekend and when im there all she does is yell at me. and she just had my lil sister about a year ago and now shes prego with my new brother due in janurary and i dont have a room there. and i never want to go to my moms. is it bad that i still cry about the devorice?? and is it bad that i hold all my feelings inside and push them to the side? and put all my friends feelings before my own. and that i am always smileing and all happy and all my friends think i am always like that but i am not really like that at all. if they ask me whats wrong i just lie and smile saying "oh nothing". is it bad that i lie to my family and teachers (NOT FRIENDS) about it?? cause my one teacher seems like she can see right through me and behind the mask. is it bad that i lie to ALL of them about it??

Answer 1

You know it's not right to lie don't you? Of course you do...you're a sweet hearted girl...it's just really hard to deal with isn't it?

Most people that lie, do so to hurt someone or steal or escape the consequences of their actions? That's not you though is it?....but you are hurting someone by lieing....YOU!!!

Let the truth set you free...start by talking to your dad and other family. Your teacher DOES see right through you; but until you will admit there is a problem, there's nothing they can do to help. Let the people that care about you help you; rather than let the lack of love your mother is giving..suck all the love out of your life.

Start by talking with dad.. and let him know in advance that you need to talk to him about a VERY serious problem in your life and that you NEED his help... don't be afraid to cry when talking to dad...it really tends to prompt us dads to action...I can't bear to see my daughters sad.

I'll pray for you and may God bless you!

By the way, my wife still sheds a tear sometimes when she thinks of all the pain her parents divorce caused (very similar to your situation) and she's 37 now...your not silly, just a good, sweet, girl!

Answer 2

okay... I'm the perfect person to answer this question.... My mom has been married three times and divorced twice... yes it hurts and it might feel like no one can understand the pain you're going through, but I can because I went through the same thing basically... Yes its bad to lie and I'm pretty sure you know that too... We all know right from wrong.... Now don't go about telling everyone your business because you're holding something inside but you should tell someone and it should be someone you trust whether its a teacher or relative and not a friend because you need an adult mentor yes its fun to talk to friends about this, but they don't always know the best solution.... you know you're going to do whatever you want to do after reading this, but make the right choice and you know deep down what that is.... good luck!!!

Answer 3

What is bad is that you don't feel good about going to your moms. I think you need to speak to your mom and dad and ask if they can send you for support with a professional counselor. Many other people have felt the same way. It is your mother that needs to know how she makes you feel. If you start the healing process now you will have a better relationship with your parents soon. I am guessing that yes you teacher and others can see right through your false front of "happy go lucky". It's not bad to have hurt feelings it's bad not to make them better.

Answer 4

It's not everybody's business what you are going through, but you should talk to somebody about it. Somebody you trust, of course.
It's quite understandable that you are unhappy about events. You had a family, your mom broke it up, she's not nice when you visit [are you nice?], she's having new children that get to live with her and their family.
But it's reality, so don't let it ruin your life and your future. Be thankful for what you do have. A part time mom is better than if she just abandoned you altogether. But it's still a pain and a grief. And she obviously doesn't appreciate what she has done to you. But, be polite at least and benefit as much as you can. The new siblings are not at fault, of course.
Remember, when you are older, not to do this to your children and husband.

Answer 5

It would make you feel better if you could find someone to talk to about everything. How about that one teacher that you think understands? Talk to a school counsellor. Of course you still have feelings. That's normal. But it helps to get them out by talking to someone. I hope you find a very kind person who will listen to you with great kindness and understanding.

Answer 6

im sorry:[ i think its ok that u still cry bcuz u remeber the old days and wish that nver hapendd i m rellly sri stay stroong and u have to let ur feelings out cuz they will bottle up the crackkk.im really sorry i hoped i helped

Answer 7

You should be happy that you have siblings. Well half-siblings anyway. If your mum yells at you just tell your dad and stay at his house. You might feel sad because she is having your new baby half brother and because he is born, there is no room for you. Just stay with whatever suits you.

Answer 8

no of course not if u still feel that way try to express ur self by drawing or writing a poem then maybe those around u will get a hint of how u feel

Answer 9

I only know one thing about all of this.....what's bad is not talking about this with your father.

He's there to help you get through problems and unhappiness in your life....so tell him how you're feeling about everything....and he will help you deal with all of this.

Answer 10

You are hiding a broken heart. Please tell your school counselor. You need help.