Since i was 8 I have had my step dad problems get worse and worse(that was when my little half sis was born) it has escalated to the point that whenever my mom isnt home there is at least 3 times that he makes me feel like i am a worthless little kid who crys at everything. he threw me across the room once when I was 11 because he 'thought i was attaking' my little 2 year old brother he has slapped me twice backhanded me once practically choked me another time because he smacked me in the throut so hard, but the last straw was when he pinned me down and yelled in my face, i ran away. they found me later that night because my friends parents called and told them where i was...after that my mom promised she would sign us up for councelling but it has been two months and that still hasnt happened, for a while i didnt have to talk to him if i didnt want to...which i dont...but my mom isnt a good middle man, and it is happening again, what should i do?
2007-11-24 14:12:34 · 21 answers · asked by Court 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am so sorry these things are happening to you. I went through similar things. Is he an alcoholic? It sounds like he is. I went through a personal growth class and in there I learned that my abuser was emotionally a child and was in competition with me for my foster mother's attention. It was more like a brother and sister deal than a Father and daughter. Dinner time was the worst. Screaming and nagging continuously. Your Mom really doesn't know what to do because she probably wasn't given the tools herself when she was growing up to know what to do. Perhaps she is scared of him as well but doesn't know how to do without him...I am going to pray that God will put a hedge of protection around you and your family so you will be safe. I pray that your step-father will get into counseling to help him be a better Dad as he doesn't understand his role as provider, protector and spiritual leader. I pray for you young one that your heart will heal from the bruising. Father I pray for the Mom that she will take her roll as a parent seriously and protect her children. Father, help the young lady to be courageous enough to talk to the school counselor or school nurse because, they, by law, have to help her. Thank you Father and bring comfort to the young one and give her a peaceful rest tonight. In Jesus name...
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2007-11-27 19:41:58 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi court, I am so sorry to hear this. A parent should never do this. If you don't get the counseling, I would seek out the Family services, a school teacher, or even the law. Child abuse is against the law. I will pray for your safety, and that your step dad change his heart for you.
If you ever want, e mail me.
†Prayer Warrior At Your Request†
2007-11-25 09:05:04 · answer #2 · answered by electroprayer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to the counselor at school; they should be able to help you. And if your step dad hits you or throws you or anything violent, call the police and report it. This will probably make enough of an impression on your mom and step-dad that they will get into counseling after all.
Your mom is a weak person to let this happen to her family. So unfortunately you can't count on her to protect you.
Maybe if you could convince her that it is her duty as a parent to protect her children from abuse.....
2007-11-24 17:40:41 · answer #3 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It breaks my heart and re-ignites a fury deep in my heart when I read this.
When I was younger that was my dad right there, and I was the youngest. I had to watch my elder brother almost die because he was trying to protect me from the monster.
I myself am now the mother of two children. My twins, Elijah and Eva.
But you don't want to know this, I am here to tell you what I did.
Yes, at first I tried to run away too, but I learned that it does not help.
I wasn't one to open up either, so I didn't tell anyone. My mother didn't believe either until she saw it herself, and experienced it herself. I then lived with a relative for a few weeks and called CPS, and while they investigated I constantly switched houses between family and friends so that he couldn't find us.
I'm sorry If I don't help dear. I truly am. Get CPS or the police or anyone and tell them.
I hope you stay safe dear.
2007-11-24 14:37:35 · answer #4 · answered by A W 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have the exact same problem. Except mine started when I was around 5/6 years old. My step-dad has done similar things in the past and now he goes for a more verbally aggressive form of abuse. I suggest you ask for help. From ANYONE that you can trust. My circumstances have lead to self-harm and suicidal thoughts sometimes, but thanks to the support from people I trusted I no longer participate in any acts of self-harm anymore. I am a 13 year old girl.
2015-08-17 07:38:12 · answer #5 · answered by Miksikayla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my, Court, I am so sorry to know this is happening to you. Hun, it is not right for any parent to backhand a child for any reason! Perhaps, you should gently, remind your Mom about the counseling and remind her of the abuse you are dealing with, when she is away.
As a Mom, my heart is very saddened by this situation! In as much, I hope you do not mind if I pray for you. If I ask God to change the heart of your stepdad as only God can do this, if he never seeks counseling! Prayer is a strong tool and it is given freely to us. God hears all prayers and I pray that he will allow your stepdad to see the hurtful things he is saying and doing...that he will stop this behavior and desire to be closer to you. May God take your situation and turn it into good as all good things come from God!
If you ever need to talk, e-mail me.
Gail
2007-11-24 14:26:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's doing all this to you, don't run away. Speak to a counselor at school and tell them you don't feel safe in your home. Let them know some of the things that have happened. They are required by law to call Child Protective Services and report it. They will investigate.
2007-11-24 14:22:09 · answer #7 · answered by Beckers 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 31 and unfortunately suffered abuse at the hands of my stepfather as well...to be honest, you need to tell your mom that you are getting counseling with or without her help. That you will tell someone at the school what is going on with him if she doesn't do something. It is your mom's job to protect you from EVERYONE, especially her HUSBAND. And you need to follow through on getting the counseling through your school if she doesn't do it. The problem with this situation, you will not be able to trust anyone and him doing this will ruin the relationship with your mom if she allows it to continue. I don't talk to my mom anymore.....so don't let it get to that point.
2007-11-24 14:19:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would talk the counselor at school. They can make him get help. Your mom is not going to protect you the way she should, you are going to have to take the next step. Even call the police if you have to. You need someone to intervene for you and your family.
2007-11-24 14:20:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call the police and tell them you fear for your life. That will get you in protective custody and your mom in front of a judge. This crap is illegal. If you are afraid to call the police, tell an adult at school or at church. They are legally bound to get you help.
2007-11-24 14:18:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋