Whats wrong with my grandma?

Question

My grandma is 77. When she was in Cambodia before living in the U.S, the pul pot(the Vet that practically destroyed Cambodia) was there. they killed my grandpa and my uncles. only her and my mom survived. now, she is very sick. everyday she says shes "really" sick. she complains everyday. shes so annoying now. she always goes in my room and starts to be nosy. my mom takes care of her everyday. more than she takes care of my family. and if you dont listen to my grandma, shell start crying and say your mean and a bad person. she is sooo selfish. she likes to play slots a lot. she has a gambling problem. A BAD ONE. The doctors cant cure her sickness. She has leg cramps, high blood pressure, and if she smells any chemicals shell get sick for almost a week. lately, shes been coming up with excuses. like now she cant sit in teh back of the car anymore because of the material on the chair and stuff. she is giving me stress everyday freaking day.

WHAT IS WRONG WITH HER? =[

Answer 1

I think you should have a bit more compassion and empathy towards your grandma. She has been through so much, people close to her being killed etc.
Your Grandma just craves love and attention as she knows she won't be around for much longer. Bear it and spoil her rotten.

Answer 2

Sounds like your grandmother is sick...77 years old is not young. Each person ages differently. She might really be sick with the leg cramps, high blood pressure, and the chemical sensitivity...Remember, there is no telling what kind of chemicals she was exposed to when she was living in Cambodia. This could account to her sensitivity to chemicals and materials. Sounds like she is scared and insecure as well...How would you feel if your husband and brothers were killed? The gambling is probably something that brings her a bit of pleasure. Also, she grew up in a different culture than you. Just try to sit and talk with her. Maybe she is scared, and just needs to affirm that the family loves her. Talk with your mom, and get your mom's view as well...She won't be with you forever, and you could miss out on some great stories about your mother when she was a little girl, and even some stories about your grandmother.

Answer 3

You need to put a keyed lock on your bedroom door. Consider getting a little job after school or go study at a friend's house so you don't have to hang around your house.

Her gambling problem could well be the onset of dementia... it happens a lot. She will literally gamble away her entire Social Security check before buying groceries. Some will get so far into it that they get in trouble with the local mob.

Ask your mother to take a walk around the block with you, then use that time to TALK with your mother: Your grandmother looks to be sliding into dementia... the gambling habit and all the other bad behavior is both a symptom and will not get better on their own. Your mom needs to take her to a different kind of doctor for a mental assessment so she can get a medical power of attorney to handle your grandma's affairs for her... and will probably be using that to put her into an assisted-care facility when the time comes... which will probably be sooner than your mother thinks.

Mention that there are some medications that actually aggravate a gambling problem... so her medications need to be examined.

Answer 4

look,dont feel bad,im going through the same thing with my 94 year old father whos had a brain bleed last winter when he feel twice striking his head twice. hes got alzheumers disease which was made worse by those falls.its not easy taking care of a senior with these problems,hes like a baby and he is fiesty and will start fights with me 24/7.physically hes healthy,i on the other hand have high blood pressure and the stress im under is monumental! i only hope i dont get sick,then the family will have to find someone else to care for my father.now,thats trouble!

Answer 5

I know what it feels like to be sick all the time, and it is horrible and you do feel miserable. I am sure that she thinks she will be like this the rest of her life. I have a nosy mom, and it is because they don't have anything exciting in their own life, so they go looking for it. If you have anything personal find a hiding place for it. Your mom feels like she has to take care of her mom, you will feel the same when your mom gets older, Our parents become like little children when they get older, especially if they are sick. Your grandma has had a hard like with lots of disappointments and heartaches. It would be hard to live through a war in your backyard and losing everyone you love and being alone with a child. Try to be patient and love on her, she needs you. When you get older you can mvoe out and be one your own.

Answer 6

O.K. Your grandma is 77 years old, almost 80. She is trying to copy with life at that age. She's not herself like when she was much younger. People change when they get older. Have compassion. Give her some easy task to do, even if it's just folding napkins. Look up dementia.

Answer 7

She's getting old. I say that with respect. You probably won't have her for very many years. I know it's stressful but try and understand. Is it really so hard of a thing for you to treat her with a little compassion? You would make them all proud to have a more gentle spirit and it would help you to enjoy your family more. It's worth a try.

Answer 8

Hve compassion. Try understanding her, she had lots in life. Her life is short and she is suffering.

Answer 9

there's nothing wrong with her. she's old and dying, this is part of the process. she's had a tough life, i hope yours is better.

Answer 10

I'm sorry to hear this but I have no idea I suggest that your family should check her into a good nursing home. not the terrible inexpensive kind. Once again I apoligize I don't know hon. But thats the best I can think of right now.