My dad drunk? sober him up?

Question

he gets drunk once in a while but when he does, he usually goes around the house and breaks things. last night, he broke a sliding glass door and like half of our china. How can i make him sober really quickly. i heard of making him vomit by drinking salt water, drinking coffee and eating bread but wat else could i do in a situation like this?

my dad is a very strict azn who believes in a strong drinking with friends and talking to him about this wont help since he thinks he's always right (azn male supermacy ugh)
thx for all ur answers

i also realize that many people are asking about my mom. she is there trying to calm down the situation but since she is a small azn woman, she cant do much to stop it.

Answer 1

Pour ice water on him. You need to stage an intervention. His friends and family need to confront him about his drinking. Contact AA for more info.

Answer 2

Honey, where's your mother in all this? You need an adult on your side. If she's not in the picture, is there a relative or friend such as your clergyperson who could help? In any case, please understand that (1) you can't sober anyone up--only time will do that, and (2) no one can get a drunk onto the wagon until he wants to do it himself. What you CAN do is suggest AA while your father has a hangover, show him the evidence of his drunken behavior, and get involved with Alateen, an organization for the children of alcoholics. Even if your father isn't technically an alcoholic, his drinking is clearly a problem, and Alateen can help you cope with it. You can probably find a chapter by doing a web search.

Answer 3

There is no real way to make someone sober up quicker, some people think drinking coffee or lots of water will help, but it really doesn't speed up the process. The only thing I've found that really seems to help is doing a few lines of coke. I'm not saying I recommend that you get your father to do this, since its obviously an addictive drug, but you asked the question, so I'm giving you the only answer I know is true.

Answer 4

Well, if he throws up he won't absorb any more alcohol, but it's not going to do a thing to get the alcohol out of his system that's already there - that's up to his liver. Coffee and bread aren't gonna help either, sadly. (Except, I suppose, that if he's busy eating bread and drinking coffee, that might distract him from smashing stuff.)

Honestly, if he's drunk enough to be smashing things, I think your best bet is to go in your room and close the door and stay in there and let him clean up his own mess in the morning and deal with replacing stuff. It shouldn't be your problem to deal with. He's an adult, and if he breaks his own stuff it's his own stupid fault.

Sometime when he's sober, it might be a good idea to let him know that it distresses you when he gets drunk and breaks stuff, and you'd rather he didn't. No guarantees, but maybe that would make him think twice before getting totally smashed and smashing stuff around the house.

Answer 5

Call the police. He will sober up quite well in jail and then will have to face the consequences for his actions.
You should not have to sober him up!
If you aren't willing to take such measures, sugar/caffeine such as coffee or soda, followed by water. 2 Advil or Ibuprofen, some protein such as meat or cheese if he will eat it. When he falls asleep, try to get him on his side so if he vomits he does not choke. You can prop a rolled blanket or some towels behind him.
Get a camera or video recorder and take pictures of the damage and of him. Show them to him when he is sober.
And consider alateen or alanon for yourself. It is free, and has other people living with the disease of alcoholism that might let you know you are not alone. God bless.

Answer 6

Your father made a decision to drink-nothing to do with you! He knows that visiting friends who drink will put him at risk. There is something that you can do for yourself if you want to. I would suggest visiting an Al-Anon or Al-Ateen meeting where you will meet people your age and older who have been or still in situations like yourself. If you look on the internet you will find a list of meetings near where you live. God bless. One drink sets off the allergy again-even after a long period of sobriety. Once an alcoholic always an alcoholic and there is no cure! But with God's help alcoholics can stay sober for the rest of their lives.

Answer 7

Is your father aware of his drunken behavior when he sobers up?? If so, does he see it as a problem? Have you tried talking to him and letting him know how frightening or just plain awkward seeing and hearing him act like that makes you feel? As for making him sober up, you could add to the choas by serving him up syrup of epicac or some other nasty concoction which would make matters worse. I grew up with an alcoholic who drank nearly every night starting a new 1/2 rack of beer when he woke up. It sounds like your dad doesn't drink but "once in awhile" so perhaps you're lucky and maybe you and your family can plan to put things up that you don't want broken or damaged when you start to see him drink. Do you have your mother around? If so, does she think he has a problem or see his drunken tirades as trouble??

Answer 8

seems to me if your dad breaks things and tends to be on the violent side when he drinks, you should just stay away as you could get hurt. eating bread, drinking water, etc. don't really sober you up. bottom line, the alcohol has to have time to run its course through the system. doing other things helps 'absorb' the alcohol so one doesn't have as bad a hangover the next day, though, it has been my experience :) no matter what i did other than take tylenol before bed after drinking, i still had the hangover.

Answer 9

Sobering him up is like putting a bandaid on a gaping wound....it's not going to really fix the problem. He needs to ask himself why he's getting that drunk in the first place. Is he becoming more dangerous? Are you or your Mom ever hurt because of it? Might be time to talk to an adult outside of the family, that you trust and respect, about it.

Answer 10

do u live alone or is ur mom there 2? if she does- than she's the 1 who needs 2 deal w/ this- not u. ur the "child"- he's the adult- he needs 2 take care of u - not the other way around. i know ur hurting & u love him & hate 2 c him this way- when he's sober- talk 2 him from ur heart, tell him how much this affect u & ur life w/ him. don't over push the issue tho- baby steps, he needs 2 realize what he's doing 4 himself 2. good luck hun.

Answer 11

Is your mother in the picture? Doesn't she say anything?

Sit him down when he is sober and tell him what you have put down here. Forget sobering him up, you need to get him to stop drinking. He is an alcoholic, and a violent one at that.

Encourage him to go to AA, and you look in the phone book for an Alateen group in your area. At Alateen, other young people with alcoholic parents talk about how they can cope. It is a good support group.

Don't try to sober him up, he could get violent with you.