they seriously hurt your feelings, would you ever go home ever again to see them? They really hurt my feelings a week before Thanksgiving, plus my Mother and brother will NOT stop they're racist comments on my sister's long time boyfriend who is a black man, and a very nice man as well. My family really stepped on me (another matter unlike my sisters') and hurt my feelings, and they know they did it and see nothing wrong with what all they did (long story), plus they know I'm sick of the racism against my sister's to-be hubby. Would you write them off?
This is solely my mother and brother, not my Dad. I actually wrote my brother off 2 years ago when we last spoke, so this is really about my Mom in general. She's a very rude and ignorant woman!
2007-11-25 16:08:16 · 8 answers · asked by Wutz it worth 2 ya? 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My mother is 66 years old, very racist and nasty against all people of all color. She doesn't get along with anyone! She was an Aid on a school bus for handicapped children, in which she lost that job a few months ago because of her attitude problem! So I know it's not just me! She was fired! She basically likes nobody, for no reason, and she's stuck on herself. She thinks she's better than the world. I'm being TOTALLY honest here, just trying to give you all a taste of how she is. We've NEVER gotten along and when I was a teenager, she looked me straight in the face and told me how she never wanted me, said she only had me to hold her and Dad's marriage together. I've always felt like she hated me, from a kid up. Nothing has changed, Thanksgiving proved it's no different today.
2007-11-25 16:12:31 · update #1
I'm really upset and I really wish I lived further away than what I already do. I'm even considering changing my phone number tomarrow.
2007-11-25 16:13:39 · update #2
You do not have to put up with family because you were unlucky enough to get stuck with them. She has treated you badly for a long time and I am surprised that you still bother with her. All she does is hurt your feeling and cause you pain. Write her off along with your brother. You are a smart woman not to let her poison your mind against others. So many parents do this to their children. You do not need them and you will feel so much better when you do not have to put up with all of this drama.
2007-11-25 16:45:58 · answer #1 · answered by kim h 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Invite your sister and her bf to your house for holidays. People like your mother need to be left alone. Since you are old enough to to live on your own, you may choose who you wish to associate with. You have been disrespected enough and going around them is just asking for it. Be sure to send your dad a card.
2007-11-26 00:15:41 · answer #2 · answered by Track1 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's not unheard of to write off family. We can't choose our family and sometimes we just can't deal with them either. Set up boundaries and enforce them. If they don't respect them then maybe you need to stay away. If they violate your personal and moral beliefs and you've tried talking to them then you may have no other choice. I have a racist family member and I made it clear I don't like it and won't tolerate it around me. He's careful to mind his tongue in my presence. I still don't like him because I know how he feels in his heart but I tolerate him for my sister. I do have a couple of family members I have had no choice but to stay away from. They're just lethal to anyone with good senses.
2007-11-26 00:13:33 · answer #3 · answered by MISS H 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah right them off, there is a reason you live 400 miles away. Invite your sister and your dad to your house next year, make it clear your mom and brother are not invited.
2007-11-26 00:12:24 · answer #4 · answered by Leizl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You pick your friends not your family. Its totally up to you if you want to write them off but keep in mind that fact that the world can be a cold place without familial support......even if they aren't perfect. You know what they are, you know who they are, you can choose to ignore their more annoying qualities if you so desire. You can't change them, but you can learn to tolerate their behavior.
2007-11-26 00:14:33 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take your time to recover. Then when you think you are ready you go and visit them you still got a whole life ahead of you.
Going now for you it will be like a seriosly injured soldier going back in battle.
stay, relax and let time heal your wounds.
2007-11-26 00:12:13 · answer #6 · answered by Goodstuff 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cause of the long distance.
2007-11-26 05:27:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
thats not family.adopt a real one
2007-11-26 00:15:35 · answer #8 · answered by Mac 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋