alright so for ten years it was just my cousins Chris and Ben and Me. Chris is seventeen going on eighteen, Ben is fourteen going on fifteen and next month i'll be seventeen. growing up we were literally best friends. being an only child, Chris and Ben were like brothers to me.
I always knew i loved them more than they loved me but i treasured having them. they were the only thing close to brothers and i treasured that.
recently, i got their myspaces. Chris never had me on his top friends (when he turned ten, he basically stopped talking to me. now he is though) and Ben put me on his top friends. Now i am not on ben nor chris's top friends and when i leave them a comment, they dont reply.
we used to be very close. i know we have had our rough times but i just wish i could be close to them again like we were all those years ago. i dont know what happend. all of a sudden i am off their top friends and out of their lives. they dont even talk to me!
what should i do?????
2007-11-25 13:56:55 · 6 answers · asked by MissSamanthaAnne 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
***Time to grow up. It sucks that people grow apart, but that's what happens. You aren't kids anymore - you are becoming adults. Your interests are changing and your friends are changing. It is healthy to outgrow your friends as you grow up - this means you are MATURING.
It sounds like you are not maturing at all. Instead of treasuring your friends, you are pining for close relationships that will never exist again. Instead of focusing on the friends you have now, you are focusing on what # you are on someone's myspace page.
Your cousins are boys, they have no interest in keeping a relationship with you as they are busy maturing and experimenting with NEW friends (like you should). Grow up and get a life!
2007-11-25 14:09:22 · answer #1 · answered by Dina K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The 18 year old can't be associating with people that are under 18... and can't have any hot chicks on his list that he can't date. The 15 year-old thinks he is too cool to associate with relatives. Let them go. You can always see them at family functions. Boys go through these phases. They will come around again.
Find some other people to hang out with. Maybe there is a meetup group in your area that you might be interested in, and if not, try to start one.
2007-11-25 22:06:28 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send them a short note explaining that you miss them and want them in your life. Also explain that your taking a step back, but will always be there for them.
Your all on the edge of adulthood and there is so much on everyones's mind. Your all being pulled in a million directions. Don't take the change personal. In a few years you'll all come back together!
2007-11-25 22:15:01 · answer #3 · answered by AQ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes cousins are like that cause there jerks.Is it possible you did something to offend them or ruin your family name? I would just try to be respectful but make more freindI m sorry your an only child but I dont think cousins make a good replacement.
2007-11-25 22:31:36 · answer #4 · answered by butterflyspy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TALK TO THEM!!- not via these websites online, but face to face or on the phone!
Leaving them messages online is useless...they may not even check their pages often, thus your messages won't be immediately responded to. But if you talk to them in person then there won't be anymore excuses for them to ignore you.
2007-11-25 22:04:00 · answer #5 · answered by rowdylaude 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to get some friends of your own. When you get older, you change. Maybe you guys don't have the same things in common anymore.
2007-11-25 22:03:16 · answer #6 · answered by kapes72 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋