Family - October 2007

2007-10-02 07:56:19 · 60 answers · asked by paul a 1

My daughter's father is manipulating my child by talking negatively about me and grandparents. How do I keep her from believing him? I shield her from the upset he causes us. Don't talk about him negatively. I can see a change in her attitude towards me and grandparents when she comes home for his parenting time.

2007-10-02 07:29:22 · 12 answers · asked by LoLo 1

My wife and I have had problems with familys for about 20 years, my side I have a mother who is in her 70s we don`t speak I have tried to make peace, but she does not want to know the rest of my family have died, on my wife side they will not speak to her since she got MS 11 years ago her mum, brothers and sister won`t come near us (her dad died a long time ago} we are made to feel it is our fault and we have tried to put things right, do we just ignore them now and get on with our lives as all this hassle is ripping our lives apart please help us if you can thanks

2007-10-02 06:48:07 · 17 answers · asked by Bill 1

I just used to observed things like people who's older than me and those in the level of senior citizen does'nt accept mistake. They used to think and say that they are older. Even they are wrong they won't gonna accept the fact that they are wrong and even not a single word of sorry or simple apologize you will hear. My mother & my sister have the same attitude of that and my maid at home who's 58 yrs old now is having the same. It come's in my mind that, is age can make right the wrong? and are they not able to make mistakes even it's obviously they are? It's just annoying...because me as 31 yrs old, i know when i get older the younger one's have more better ideas than me therefore even in a simple things i might not be right all the time and i have to accept that fact though.I just can't believe if things really be like this...

2007-10-02 06:46:26 · 1 answers · asked by apd26 1

I think they just went out for dinner thinking she would be fine. I am sure they couldn't consider that someone would actually run away with her from there. They said they didn't stay out for long. What could they possibly think? That someone is going to break in, take Maddie and leave with her? Absolutly not! Nobody is perfect and they suffer a lot. People make mistakes every day and it usually takes just a minute for something bad to happen. And we can't predict that.

2007-10-02 06:45:01 · 17 answers · asked by Sabinka 1

and I have done a lot for her. I have found that she is a very messed up individual. She has stolen from me, lied to me, has committed fraud with her SS benefits to the point that she no longer gets them. Now, she wants to move into my home and have me support her. She doctor shops and abuses pain killers. She is threatening to call the Elderly Abuse Hotline. Is there someway to legally stop this and to be able to protect myself and my family?

2007-10-02 06:09:44 · 10 answers · asked by yoyo77 1

send them a Birthday Card?

2007-10-02 05:47:16 · 26 answers · asked by Shells 4

2007-10-02 05:45:11 · 13 answers · asked by Kimberly M 2

I was watching the Cowboys game on Sunday and for a moment things didn't look so good, so I overturned her coffee table, which had on it, among other things, a sculpture my little brother made of John F. Kennedy a few years ago when he was in high school (he's in art school now and thinks he's better than me). So JFKs head got broken off and my mom like flipped her grill and was telling me I have to move out, I have a kid on the way and this is no way to treat her. I'm like F**k you and she's all up in my grill telling me I can't watch the Cowboys anymore. I might as well move out. What should I do?

2007-10-02 05:28:58 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

My older sister is really annoying and is always embrassing me in front of my friends. She is 2 years older than me and always thinks she is right. She thinks she can control me and i hate it so much!! what can i do to make it stop!!? HELP!

2007-10-02 05:17:46 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

She has always been a very negative person. In one instant, we (my sister and I) could be her reason to live and the other the reason for her misery. But now, we are the reason for all her unhapiness. Every time I see her, she tells me she spent 1 year in therapy because of us. She also mentionned that she didn't want us to have kids because raising children was the worst experience of her life and she wanted the results of her relationship with my father to die with us. It is difficult to take because by sister just had a baby and I am in fertility treatment (a thing I haven't told her). Our childhood was difficult. She seemed to be living in her dreams. She would wash the dishes when there was mold on it and do the laundry when there was no clean clothes. Meals were usually canned food or fast food. She said several time that her therapist told her to stop seeing us because we made her unhappy. I know it is not easy raising teenagers but I feel her reation is too extreme.

2007-10-02 05:12:43 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

because your parents are gone.....I sure am!!!!

2007-10-02 05:07:11 · 11 answers · asked by Scottster 1

My daughter keeps blaming me for her not getting good grades or being prepared for tests. She is 15 and in 11th grade. Her GPA is about 2.9.

She lived with her father from age 10 to 15. She just came to live with me in another state and has had to adjust to a new school, etc.

She keeps saying to me "Thanks for making me fail." I do help her study and make tests/ quizzes for her and ask her questions from her school subjects.

I don't know how responsible I am though for her grades. I am trying my best, but I am only one person. I know that if my ex-husband was with me, he would blame for all of her failures.

My daughter keeps saying, "I am going to fail" and I don't know how to react to this.

2007-10-02 05:03:36 · 11 answers · asked by Stareyes 5

My 15 year old daughter just came to live with me. She was living with her father from age 10 to 15.

She routinely throws a tantrum for waking up in the morning. She asks me to wake her up at a certain time. I set an alarm for her and then consistently try to wake her up. She does not wake up.

She then gets up late and does not eat breakfast or throws a fit at the breakfast table and makes a mess. She constantly says that she will fail her exams. I help her study, but she needs more help according to her.

She finally gets to school late and cries during her shower and before that refuses to even get up and take a shower.

I have to beg her to get up and get ready for school. She says that she hates living with me and the school.

She makes my clothes messy and the place that we live - spilling cereal everywhere.....

I don't know how to handle her. When I leave her alone to study, she watches TV or talks on the phone.

I try to help her and get her up...

2007-10-02 04:54:57 · 27 answers · asked by Stareyes 5

i used to live with my mom. shes a coke/meth head. well i was known as sno bunny where i lived cuz i was the only white girl. my took that to mean that i was trickin for coke. she called me a s.lut and a bunch of really nasty things to me and it hurt a lot. do i forgive her or what i havent talked to her in like 4 months

2007-10-02 04:35:13 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

I recently took a job. My mother watches my 10 month old. She left us a 'proposal' last night asking for $400 a month. I dont know what to think, I would like some feedback.....

2007-10-02 04:25:01 · 13 answers · asked by Nat's Mom 1

For over 10 years my aunt and uncle are always inviting themselves to stay overnight at our house when they are in town. My parents are being nice but now they have begun to feel they are being taken advantage of. This couple visit our town on average 4 to 5 times a year. They have at least 10 other relatives they can stay with including their own adult children, but they prefer not to go to the other homes. The problem has gotten worse because now whenever there is any wedding or death in their distant family, they come to our house and now invite other relatives to stay at our house as well without asking my parents if it is okay. They also invite people over to socialize in our home and want my mom to help cook and clean with them for the other guests too. I try to help but I am a busy teen and my mom has my little brother and sister to deal with too. I once saw my mom crying one day that it was just too much to handle. They stay 3 to 7 days each visit. PLEASE HELP!

2007-10-02 03:39:27 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I live about 3 hours away from my parents and just visited my parents with my 2 year old son. My mom said to me, don't punish him at grandma's house and says she wants grandma's house to be a happy house. I found that strange and insulting to say especially since I wasn't punishing him at the time.
I honestly think my mom knows she failed at parenting my sister and I and is jealous seeing me in a happy marriage and being a terrific loving mom.
What should I do? Does anyone else have this problem?

2007-10-02 03:22:58 · 9 answers · asked by ElenaV 1

And I do get along as best as i can with my ex! cuase im disabled and need financial with kids!
just dont understand Y the 20 year old son is ignoring us like this! maybe it is the past about his dad!
I think I will keep my son in my life and keep communication with him! Get a friend to drive me to my sons college!
But I think that my sons over bought cell phone that his dad bought for him is too much dont you think?
Im going to talk to his dad and suggest that he buy our son a lower end of the market cell phone or shut off his cell! since he wont talk to any of his family members on it!
And the car my ex traded the newer one in for an older one! I was somewhat glad that he got a less fancier one! but it isnt as safe!
And yes there are issues here!
My ex is trying to make up for time when he didnt treat his son right
when he was little....
that is why I left my ex...why we are divoriced...it is sad...
and now my son is away at college...,many years of therapy....
what to do?

2007-10-02 03:19:56 · 3 answers · asked by toenail 2

Me and my mother is very close but sometimes she can really get to me. I know i'm still young and I have a lot to learn. But I want to learn how to make decisions on my own. I don't want to have to depend on my mother all the time. I've been out of school for a year and i'm at a community college now for a year. I work, go to school, give her money to pay bills. I'm still a virgin, never been in any kind of legal trouble. I'm basically a good daughter. I understand that she wants me to stay a good daughter but I feel she should let me have some kind of freedom. For example, if there is a cookout or party or some kind of outings with my friends, I have to ask her like i'm a child. And I feel it shouldn't be that way. I've already made the decision to save up money to move out on my own so I can be able to have a social and real life. I love my mother so much and I don't want to loose her. How should I talk to her? What are some of your experiences with mothers like this?

2007-10-02 03:12:01 · 24 answers · asked by Charqueena B 2

I've been working away from home over the summer and now that I'm home my son is afraid to let me out of his sight. I understand and care about how he feels and feel guilty. I need to find a way to let him trust me again because he screams when I take him to school, he follows me around the house and screams if I'm only going to the store. So. I take him to the store with me, but he's not happy enough with that he wants mom and sister to come too. I know it's abandonment issues. Me and my wifes relationship is good and there is no messages to him that we'd be divorcing or anything; however, reading his body language, cries and actions indicate fear of losing me. How can I repair his trust?
Also. Am I just flattering myself or is it really about me or should I be suspicious of something else?

2007-10-02 03:04:45 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

Its a long story but my dad was abusive to my mom while I was growing up and was in jail until I was 5. He would beat her very badly. He never hit me and pretty much gave me everything I wanted when he was around. He is the total definition of a sociopath and thinks he was the father of the year and cannot acknowledge all the pain he put our family through not to mention the emarrassment of having the police at our house every night when I was a child. I am now 34 and dont bother with him much as he lives out of state. He calls and asks for money and says he is being evicted and having open heart surgery (its a lie). I don't understand why he would think that I would want anything to do with him. All he does is call me up and yell at me for not calling. Not sure what is going through his head?

2007-10-02 03:02:50 · 10 answers · asked by L 4

She's bright and talented but just don't wanna go to school no more and she'd be a senior next year. Her twin sister has a baby AND still attends her senior year. The girl don't want to work either. She has had 2 jobs and quit each before her first payday too! Any advise? BTW, she don't live at home no more cause the others (siblings) voted her to stay gone.

2007-10-02 02:42:36 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

i don't want to be around them,or see them or be subject to them.i have been so unhappy since i was 8 years old living in this house and feel resentment that they still feel they are more adult then i am.My father is incredibly immature and my mother excessively cleans every day and screams at me if i decide to go for a shower at night or some such thing.I know for a concrete fact i am more intelligent then they are and yet im still spoken down to.I feel all of this really constricts my growth as a person,causing me to regress.I dont mind having adults to look up to,but my parents i know are never going to be my heroes,i don't respect them,they had no idea how to parent and left me suffering depression for half my life.imi want to be around the adults who i admire and revere in college ie.my lecturers and learn how to be and who to be from them,people who treat me with respect and let me feel i have potential to achieve anything i want to.is it wrong that i don't want to be around my

2007-10-02 02:34:19 · 47 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-02 02:29:32 · 12 answers · asked by kaybaby200688 2

Here is the story.
My boyfriend of 7 months loves to talk about his ex girlfriend. He told me she still writes him that she misses him. He has been talking about her constantly (it has been annoying me but I didn't tell him to stop), so last week I told him stories (good and bad) about my ex boyfriends and how at one point I used to date different guys at once. I think now he is turned-off by that and acting strange, and I feel very stupid. Have I done wrong? I just did what he did to me (I know it sounds childish), but haven't you experienced this jealous over your boyfriend/girlfriend's ex-partners?

2007-10-02 02:25:24 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

My father goes, and just out of the blue ( because he's drunk and on a hangover, most likely) says to me when i came out of my room " oh look it's the big baby, wanting mommys attention, always im competition, the big baby" etc etc to me. My mom was there and she was telling him to go to bed cause he was being stupid. And then as he's walking up the hall he goes " all she is just one big ******* baby".

I then said " at least im not a p rick like you ". Which im in trouble for now. .Then while he's in his room, i hear him say " the f ucken *** hole". Now im not complaining or anything, i just want to know if you think this was a fair thing for me to have said? Considering, i didn't do anythign to make him say this, other than saying that the show was half over and that i didn't want to watch it. And shoud i now be grounded in my room for the night? Thanks so much!

2007-10-02 02:14:54 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

the kid really doesn't want to? The kid feels like he is the black sheep when he goes over there. If you ask the other sibling about how he gets treated they all say that it is true. I ask if he acts bad over there and they say Nope! I have tried to talk with the Ex and it seems to go through one ear out the other ear.

2007-10-02 02:07:32 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

He is 38 and has 4 step daughters 2 of which I can't stand. One is 29 the other is 24. They started all this crap on Myspace b/c they have way to much time on their hands calling me some pretty nasty things. when I said something to them they involved my brother and he got mad and told my mom he was going to smack me and my sis for starting, my mom simply just told him “look there your sisters’ you don’t need to get in the middle of a girl fight and throw stuff at your sister’s for other people”. A few weeks passed by and everything calmed down, but then I got a call from a friend telling me to check out Myspace. So I did and it was horrible to the point they were talking about my kids. At that point, I called my sister and she got mad and phoned my brother who said he didn’t want to hear it!! Oh! Now he didn’t want to hear it but when I did it, it was a BIG problem with him. My sister always tells me to calm down don’t say anything back but this time she was like f**k those B***h’s do what you gotta do! So long story short I got them back. I know tit for tat!!! But you just had to read the crap they wrote. It was the next day and my sister was at my mom’s well the 24 yrs. Old BF called my sister asking her what was going on, she told him your GF has way to much time on her hands and needs to stop being immature with this Myspace crap! His GF got on the phone and started screaming at my sister and told her to come say it to her face…Well if you knew my sister you would think she wouldn’t go there, but she did and they ended up fighting and the 29 yr old jumped in it as well so they ganged up on my sister. I got there as the fight ended and my sis was already gone but b4 I left I said if you both hit her I’m coming back! Reason being is they are 200 plus lbs and 5’6 in height and my sis is 5’2 and about 125 lbs. However, both of their faces looked crazy and witnesses said my sis got the best of both of them. They called the police but according to them they whooped my sis pretty back. She had one scratch on her neck and it was that bad. When the police came they said “you banged them up pretty bad” She isn’t a fighter at all but if you get her mad enough well she can hold her own. After all of this crap my brother goes on my space and put’s in the 29yr old’s ABOUT ME: Momo because of what happened with Titi today your dead to me, you are no longer my sister!!! I started to cry b/c last year I almost died and him and I weren’t talking at all b/c of them. He came to visit me and apologized for being a jerk. My mom is hurting inside b/c she can’t see her grandkids. How can he write this on the internet??? There are 4 of us 2 girls 2 boys…I’m the youngest so of course my sister is going to back me up b4 them but my own brother says I’m dead to him. My other brother stays neutral and he is the only one that talks to the oldest brother, he won’t even call my mom. It’s been a few months and it’s still up there, what can I do so I won’t hurt so much?

2007-10-02 02:01:07 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

My son is 20 years old away at college in his second year. I dont hear from him that often. And when I send him instant messages he wont answer nor will he answer his cell phone. He wont answer his sister 17 yrs old many attempts of trying to get in touch with him either. This has been going on for the last 2 or 3 years. He seems to be dodging any contact with the family. His, mom, dad, and sister. It does hurt that he wont even answer his cell phone. Im just baffled that he is doing this to us.
He is not into drugs and is on the quiet side.
But i have told him he shouldnt be doing this. Should I drive down to the college to see him?
I have paid for his 4 years of college. I feel I should be given respect. I know my birthday will be forgotten again this year. It just doesnt seen right. My sons thoughts are mixed up I think. Teachers have told me hes a good kid just unorganized. And doesnt know his prioities. My feelings are hurt what do I do? Im div/cell phone from his dad!

2007-10-02 01:29:00 · 16 answers · asked by toenail 2