I recently took a job. My mother watches my 10 month old. She left us a 'proposal' last night asking for $400 a month. I dont know what to think, I would like some feedback.....
2007-10-02 04:25:01 · 13 answers · asked by Nat's Mom 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I don't expect her to do it for free, I guess it was just the approach wit hher written proposal that she left and then called to tell me where to find it. I have no problem paying her the money, I have been paying her, just not 400. I think it was more like 350. I more or less wish she would have talked to me about it instead of leaving it in a note.
2007-10-02 04:39:11 · update #1
Sounds like you two don't have the best communication. Sit her down and let her know how you feel. Is she worth the $400.00? Is your child happy and content with Grandma? Was she a good mom? If the answer is yes, then pay it. The only reason is this- You are going to have to get a sitter regardless & just knowing that your child is being taken care of and loved is priceless. But, you and your mom need to talk. She needs to know that leaving a note wasn't the most tactful way to express how she is feeling. Take a deep breath and learn to appreciate each other.
2007-10-02 05:01:38 · answer #1 · answered by kymmy_kins 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is letting you off for cheap. A child is a responsibility and babysitting is not free. Do this, call some of the local daycare centers and ask them what is their monthly rate. I am sure your mom's $400 proposal is cheaper and you are getting personal one on one care for your child as opposed to a day care.
2007-10-02 04:33:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
To have your children watched by your mom is so well worth the money.. Your child is the most valuable in your life so why would you even mind paying her that money? If anything you should count the blessing that you even have her to watch them regardless of how much you have to pay her.. Really truly count your God given blessings and love that the care your child will get there is way above what ever care your child would ever get if placed in a day care of any kind..
It does not matter how she wrote it what matters is that it will be her that takes care of your children.
2007-10-02 09:33:25 · answer #3 · answered by LittleDaisy. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say you are getting off cheap. Do you really expect her to watch him for free all of the time? Come on. She is not a built-in babysitter. Full-time child-care is expensive and likely not near the quality as your mom could offer. Pay up I say.
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2016-12-17 15:10:10 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you expect her to do it for nothing? I'm sure she was happy to help you out when you weren't working, but if she wasn't around, you'd have to pay someone else anyway. If you legitimately can't afford it, then you need to sit down with her and work something else out. Something that benefits both of you.
2007-10-02 04:36:03 · answer #6 · answered by kalsmom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some grandparents might not charge, but if she feels like charging, you should pay. Watching children isn't easy, it isn't for the parent, and it's even more chanllenging for someone not the parent.
2007-10-02 04:39:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That works out $25 a week. It's cheap compared to daycare. What you really need to ask your mom is why she felt like she couldn't bring it up in person.
2007-10-02 04:52:26 · answer #8 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is way too much, I understand, maybe she isn't working and she needs money and this is a huge responsibility, but 400.00 is just too much. How about 200.00 Ask her that, this is her grandchild goodgrief.
2007-10-02 05:40:37 · answer #9 · answered by passionate 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think grandparents should just watch their grandchildren... unless they are financially strapped....... then maybe a reasonable amount
but you gave her 350 so i think she should have been happy with that! unless you can afford to give more! its up to you too.... personally most grandmothers i know do it for free.... and they buy their grandchildren's toys, diapers, formula, and clothes! i guess it just depends!
2007-10-02 08:55:25 · answer #10 · answered by jan 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋