Family - October 2007

I dont have much of a relationship with my parents, especially my mother. This comes from their neglect as grandparents towards my son, whom I love more than anything. Recently my father has become ill and is now unable to walk great distances. I offered to buy him a scooter (mobility buggy) and he did not want one initially. Now he has agreed and it arrives tomorrow. I have a feeling that my mother wants to use it more than he does, which I suppose had to happen.

Anyway, I know from experience that my parents are liable to use this buggy then decide they do not want or need it. In the past they have sold or given away things like this that I have helped them out with once they tired of them.

In this instance (as the buggy is expensive) I do not want my parents to sell it or give it away. Hence, I am going to tell them that it is on loan to them from me until they decide they do not want it anymore. Is this wrong?

2007-10-03 07:44:29 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-03 07:20:42 · 7 answers · asked by Tonya M 1

I am sixteen years old and i got my driver license In march of this year. My dad is sick and has cancer on his heart (lung cancer).His friend that lives with us moved here to supposedly help him and us out! She always asks my dad for money and she always gets what she wants. My mom died when i was 10. She always tries to take her place. She calls me a B*TCH! all the time and my dad never says a thing. Now that i have my license after all that time now she has me driving for her ALL THE TIME and getting her grandsons from school, and my sister. She says im her SHUFFER! It's all rediculous to me. I'm sixteen years old cooking everyday, cleaning, getting this and that, picking up people for HER. She says I play mother!

Just tell me what you think i got know idea what to do or say to her or my dad?
When i do say something to my dad he always say,"AW BULLSHIT" or "SHUT YOUR MOUTH I DON'T WANT TO HER IT!"

2007-10-03 07:19:19 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

Hi i am 36 years old and have just split from my girlfriend who's 30. We were together fo four years and i thought we'd spend the rest of our lives together, i proposed and she accepted a year ago. 2 years ago she started a new job working in a furniture shop she made loads of new friends which i was really pleased with as before she was quite quiet and only had one friend from school. She was always goin out drinkin with these other girls(in there 20's) and i didnt mind as i told her i wanted her to do whatever made her happy, i asked her to spend more time with me and we set aside three nights a week to be together. When we first started going out after 4-5 months we said we wanted children together, ive always wanted kids and long to be a dad, we agreed to wait til we were financially secure as i was in loads of debt then, we were in a better situation for the last year but when i brought it up she'd flip out! Now she's gone, will i ever find a woman2 mother my kids? or to late now!

2007-10-03 06:03:59 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

instead of picking thing up! they walk over it! for example,

2007-10-03 04:31:47 · 68 answers · asked by shirley f 1

ok.. i am 16 years old.. and for the past 3 years i have been ggetting into a lot of trouble..
from dtiching school to smoking weed and cigarettes... been caught drinking multiple times..shoplifting.. doing sexual things from a young age, having a boyfriend that my parents truly disaprove of, getting a tattoo, sneaking out.. you name it, i have done it..
every time i get caught i tell my parents that i am going to change.. and they have finally had enough.. what can i do to prove to them that i really do mean it and i really do want a good relationship with them?? I have already broken up with my boyfriend and i am not doing anything to get into trouble anymore.. but they still dont trust me... what can i do to prove that i mean what i say for real this time?

2007-10-03 04:24:36 · 24 answers · asked by Kimberly 2

2007-10-03 03:58:57 · 5 answers · asked by joe 6

i love my husband dearly but not his brother.... my brother in law has been staying with us for quite sometimes....at first i don't really mind but then i heard that after his wedding,he will continue staying with us... i keep the "i hate you" feeling to myself and its drives me crazy.... i have to do his laundry, clean his messy room,switch off the tv when he fall asleep in the living room etc.... i'm sick and tired of it...even after talking to my husband about it,he's on his brother side.... what should i do? oh yes, he stay in my house free of charge...

2007-10-03 03:56:32 · 15 answers · asked by ilo. 1

what makes this person so easy to talk to

2007-10-03 03:55:07 · 11 answers · asked by non active 2

I can't take this anymore. I've never experienced ant freedom in my life. I've never been allowed to go out with my friends and now my mother is being a total...she doen't even allow me to do anything and says that I'm evil whenever I do not do as she says or my sister says.She hates me and recently she flipped coz I did my eyebrows but I'm tired of being the weird one out. I'm 16 but I'm crying everyday.I just want to run away from home but I have nowhere to go. I hve contemplated suicide but I'm not that stupid and I won't do it.Please DO NOT ask me to TALK TO MY PARENTS because I have tried, countless times and have only been turned away. I can't take this anymore. I cry because of the smallest things. And right now,my mom is cursing me and saying that I'll never succeed in life only because I wanted to use the computer to post this. Please help me.I have reached my limit and I can't go on.

2007-10-03 02:43:44 · 16 answers · asked by annie 2

2007-10-03 02:30:14 · 16 answers · asked by thecelldepot 1

I hate everything and everyone! I'm soo damn lonely.. when i go to school, no-one talks to me.. When I go home, my parents just make wierd faces, and still dont talk to me.. It's up to the point where I cant even do good in school.. I'm failing everything! I talked to them about taking me to the doctor atleast, but they have refused many times... What do i do?? Who do i go to?

2007-10-03 02:19:02 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

How do I get my step kids to listen to me? I ask them to do something and they don't, or they do then do it halfazz. I dont really get help from there dad. Help before I leave.There mom is not in the picture.

2007-10-03 02:16:34 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

My Mother is a very sweet lady and also in her older years still very dependent and will not stick up for what she really wants. Her husband (2nd) and my Mom live here close to us. My husband and I have 2 kids that she is close to and now my Mothers husband is going for a job interview in another state which (is probably as far as a 20 hr car trip) means they would have to move. Well, I think that if he really gave a rats a$$ about her he would know that its more important to stay near family than to make an average living. I mean you could have a job anywhere but his pride level is way to high it's gonna screw everything up. My Mom isn't happy about moving but she feels like she can't make it on her own. I told her she would be happy if she is closer to us but she wants to stick with her husband that doesn't care about her feelings. What should I do let her go or continue to talk to her about this?

2007-10-03 02:13:38 · 5 answers · asked by Jenn 2

2007-10-03 02:07:43 · 8 answers · asked by cinderfella 1

My folks are going through a rough time. (i am living with them for the next three weeks)
my dad suffers from depression however doesnt seem to be doing anything to help himself (and he isnt taking his meds)
he has just started up this company and is pouring all their savings into it. i dotn trust that he can make it work.

then there is my mum who is bending over backwards to bring in money (she has a good stable job but gets a lot of grief at work) and keep the house tidy and togetehr and support my dad.
she has been the soul breadwinner since we moved to the UK 2 years ago and my dad got depressed and kind of mucked aorund jobwise

i think he should pull it togetehr and just get a proper job like the rest of the world has to.

but that main thing is that he doesnt talk to her, he doesnt give her the space to air how bad and sad she is feeling (she cries most nights and i do what i can to comfort her - but you can imagine the emotinal and finacial worry) yet his aatitude

2007-10-03 01:43:49 · 8 answers · asked by LBB 5

2007-10-03 01:13:52 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

There is NOTHING wrong with my life. I know that if I think logically.
But I have had insomnia for like a month, and I am so tired. I am always cleaning my house, studying, raising my family, I have max five hours sleep every night, I am going out of my mind. I'm supposed to be thinking about ballistic missiles, and all I can think about is the price of food, bills and how to parent better, plus where the sales are on this week. It's driving me nuts!
I am really angry and annoyed, although everything in my life is perfect, my family is perfect, my friends are there for me, I even have a guy interested in me at the moment. It started with him actually...I'm just so used to being single, I don't think I can date anyone anymore. It's putting too much stress on me. I don't know what to do.
Why do I feel like this when my life is so good and there's so many people who care about me?!

2007-10-03 00:21:59 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-03 00:18:36 · 15 answers · asked by london ranger 1

My dads an alcoholic, with a very addictive personality, a third of his time is spent drinking, a third smoking and the other third starting arguments and being verbally abusive.

HOw can i try to save this family? I mean, my brothers moved out and in another country, our native one, we have just moved to a foreign country. I don't know how to help my mom. She is very sad, and i have no idea what i can do. Any suggestions on how i can get them to get along better? Im 14...:/

2007-10-03 00:03:59 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

My mum phoned me this morning to tell me that her dog is coming to live with me for a few months until my brother moves into my house (because we are moving away). The dog is a 12 year old chihuahua he is grumpy and bites and coughs and his fur is all matted because she doesn't look after him properly. Thing is we have just gotten a new puppy so we already have two male unsterilised dogs and now she is bringing her dog over here. I cannot say no because the beast of a woman said that the dog is going on one trip which is either to my house or to the vet to be put to sleep! She complained that my 18 year old brother is the problem because he doesn't want to keep the dog and it is 'his' dog, she bought the dog for him when he was just 6 years old! Now she is trying to pass the dog off as if he isn't hers and she said its not her responsibility, all this because she wants to move out of her house for good and live with her boyfriend of 6 months. What am I meant to do?

2007-10-02 20:58:19 · 10 answers · asked by SmEllY! 6

Im 14, and i kinda have this " longing" or " desire" to have a baby, i know this sounds super weird. But everytime i see one, it's almost like i feel this motherly instinct in me?! I would never go out and get pregnant or anything at this age, but it's just this feeling i have sometimes? Is this normal?

2007-10-02 20:25:02 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

I met up with this man about a year ago through my job . I was a cashier, he the customer. I needed someone to help me move who owned a truck. He offered to help me move. So course he was given my phone number.
Since then he has continuously called me. I had changed jobs. Same area basically. He walked into the store where I work. He now calls the store phone and tries to convince me to date him. I have told him over and over. No, I have a steady boyfriend. I declined his offer to help me move. I decided against it. He gave me the creeps. How do I handle this person. I have to answer my phone at work.

Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

Is there anything I can do or say to turn his desires for me off?
I have trouble being rude and mean to people. There has been no threats. He is just irritating. He acts like I should have all this free time to be with him. He stands there and just
stares.

Sincerely,

Marseille

2007-10-02 20:06:09 · 10 answers · asked by marseillelangres 4

Plyaing 24/7 , not having much responsbility, not working, being wild and crazy, having fun,

2007-10-02 19:49:13 · 7 answers · asked by JAMES699 1

My family thinks I'm wierd. I know I am, they wouldn't even think about going towards the length of depression though. No one cares about how I feel, no one can comprehend my feelings. even I can't. I try my best to vent my feelings of hate and angst and unwanted feelings in stories that I write, but it's just not good enough. My parents take away every freedom I could possibly have and they think I'm happy zip-a-dee-doo-dah-day!!!!! Everytime I get into a deep conversation with someone I cry. that;s why i never talk to my parents. how can i tell them I'm depressed with out them thinking i'm just being wierd? because i can bet u anything i have mental problems. i just don't know what, and why am i writing so much??? GOD WHAT"S WRONG WITH ME?!?!?!?!?!?!?!? please someone help me!! from what i wrote just now, am i depressed or mentally ill? why can't i stop writing????? im gonna start crying. please help me.

2007-10-02 19:17:04 · 9 answers · asked by blue-a-touille 2

This doesn't seem to be just a teen - family blow up and she is not at home presently. Her mother knows and blames her so talking to her mom isn't going to be helpful. That being said...The girl does not want to go home but if she won't tell the police what help is available to her? Is there a safe place this kid can go long term? I know that I can report this to Childrens Services but I really believe that is not going to help because she refuses to tell on the s.o.b. There have been previous reports to Childrens Services of a suspected a problem between the girl and her step father. Childrens Services has been to the home and done nothing every time. Anyone have any suggestions? This girl really needs help. The person she is staying with can't keep her for more than a week due to the apartments policies on visitors. I do not want to see this kid go back to that home but I'm not able to take her in long term either. How can I help her?

2007-10-02 18:51:56 · 16 answers · asked by CM 4

2007-10-02 17:24:47 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

My firstborn is 30 years old.

Youngest is 5 years old.

Top that!

2007-10-02 16:42:28 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

I just found out that she owe a credit card company $50,000. She have a job and lives by herself in a small apartment. She is single and have no children. She doesn't do drugs or smoke. She was an honor student in school with no criminal record. I don't understand why she have a big debt. She had no student loan. Financial aid paid for everything before. I asked her where this huge debt come from. She said she doesn't want to tell me. I understand that she is an adult but I am her mother and this is a big problem that I want to help her, but she doesn't want me to. What could be wrong? What can I do now? I feel like crying because she is this way now.

2007-10-02 16:42:20 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

im 18 and my parents wont let me do anything.
how do i get them to loosen their grip, and show them that i can take care of myself?
i act responsibly and help out around the house, have a job, do alright at school, but they dont let me be myself.
They treat me like im a bad kid, and they are so dramatic! we had an argument and they said if i didnt stop verbally abusing them, they'd go to the police!! i dont even swear or anything! I have time limits on the computer, have to literally beg to go anywhere, even just to a friend's house, and they have a points system rewarding my 7 yr old brother and me for good behaviour!
why wont they let me grow up??

2007-10-02 16:26:50 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous