My mum phoned me this morning to tell me that her dog is coming to live with me for a few months until my brother moves into my house (because we are moving away). The dog is a 12 year old chihuahua he is grumpy and bites and coughs and his fur is all matted because she doesn't look after him properly. Thing is we have just gotten a new puppy so we already have two male unsterilised dogs and now she is bringing her dog over here. I cannot say no because the beast of a woman said that the dog is going on one trip which is either to my house or to the vet to be put to sleep! She complained that my 18 year old brother is the problem because he doesn't want to keep the dog and it is 'his' dog, she bought the dog for him when he was just 6 years old! Now she is trying to pass the dog off as if he isn't hers and she said its not her responsibility, all this because she wants to move out of her house for good and live with her boyfriend of 6 months. What am I meant to do?
2007-10-02 20:58:19 · 10 answers · asked by SmEllY! 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I already said we will take the dog, I am a bit worried because I have a toddler daughter and the two other dogs and I am scared that my mum's dog will be agressive to them. She is just so annoying, she is abandoning her dog, she is abandoning my brother, a very selfish woman but I can't even say that because she is giving me hundreds of thousands of dollars so that I will not say she is a bad mother. Sick of her hey, she doesn't even spend time with her grandaughter, if I say anything against her she gets angry or she blames it on someone else. I don't know what to do or say anymore, what would you do?
2007-10-02 21:00:40 · update #1
I feel so sad for the dog though, I only moved out of that house 2 years ago and when I was there I was taking him for walks and washing him because I felt so bad. He doesn't need to come near my daughter, he can be outside there is plenty of shade etc
2007-10-02 21:06:57 · update #2
Take the money, take care of your brother, then take your mom out and tell her that one day she will look back on her life and realized that her own family doesn't even know her. Tell her you love her but let her know that she needs to stop thinking of her self and think of what shes doing to others, and how what she does effects them.
Not everyone is cut out to be a mommy.
2007-10-02 21:08:51 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay you take the dog and care for it... there is a possibility that the dog can change... gibe the dog love affection and dicipline... and the god will change ...
You have a daughter... so you should keep a area where the dog can be and put a gate where the dog is... like in the kitchen or... a bedroom... or keep the dog outside for the daytime... but make sure if you do that... have some shelter for the dog! ... and just hkeep your daughter away from the dog!
Can't do anything about your mom... let your mom be... just try to give your mom some love... and affection ... and maybe she'll come around!
Hope i could help♥
2007-10-02 21:06:31 · answer #2 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should honor your mother whether she is rich or poor but also be honest with her.
Tell her you can not keep the dog. Your toddler comes 1st and you do not feel the baby would be safe around the dog.
Then run and ad in the paper, free dog.
If that does not work, you use your seniority on your little brother and insist that he keep the dog, period!
This is NOT your problem. You are a grown women and have a family of your own.
I know you are afraid of ticking your mom off because she could cut you off with the giving of money, but you also have to stand up for what is right.
How will you feel if you take in this dog and it bites your child??
Your a Mama 1st then daughter 2nd!
2007-10-02 21:07:58 · answer #3 · answered by kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be annoyed to have the dog dumped on me, definitely. But at 52 years old, if your mom has found someone who makes her happy then you should be happy for her. Your brother is 18. He is raised. It's her time now.
I'm sorry she's not that involved with your daughter. That has to be very hard. I'm in a similar situation with my mother-in-law. She shows little interest and is pretty self-absorbed. but i just TRY to remind myself that she's older, she's raised her kids and she's just trying to focus on herself and her own happiness in the remaining golden years of her life. Annoying as it may be at times!
Just be patient with her. As far as the dog goes though... you might need to give him back if you suspect that he's a danger to your daughter. Her safety comes first. Your mom can't say anything about that! So, try it out and see how it goes. If it doesn't go well tell her to come pick up the dog and figure out what to do. It sounds like you have your plate full... and it's not your responsibility. Really, it's your brothers.
2007-10-02 21:07:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not get this. The door used to be locked and so they walked in... how precisely does this paintings? Next time placed a couple of chairs or the mattress in entrance of the door. I consider the problem will clear up itself - simply allow it move. You have now not viewed how this impacted your sister... I am lovely certain she could be very emberrassed. It's probably she is going to knock subsequent time. If that doesn't paintings, then... does she have a boyfriend? Walk in on her a few instances an afternoon, simply to appear out her window or some thing. See how she likes it. Do it untill she complains, then present a deal: Knock on my door and I'll keep out your room.
2016-09-05 15:54:01 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, you just have to tell your mother that you have thought about it, and the dog isn't going to work at your house. Then, just stick to your decision. She may get mad, she may rant and rave at you (I know, I have a mother like that too), but it is up to you to set the boundaries. Some people, even parents, don't respect other folks so you have to let them know they can't run you over.
I know that's probably not what you wanted to hear because you sound like a very nice person, but it is important for you to stand up for what is best for you and for your family.
You can do this, and your family will appreciate you standing up to your annoying mother.
Take care, and good luck.
2007-10-02 21:07:41 · answer #6 · answered by starshyne59 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HONESTLY. YOU MUST TAKE INTO CONSIDERATION WHAT COULD HAPPEN TO YOUR CHILD WITH THIS DOG...YOUR CHILDS SAFETY COMES FIRST SO ID PUT THE DOG TO SLEEP MYSELF AND SAY THAT IT DIED OF NATURAL CAUSES...OR KEEP IT OUTSIDE...NEVER JEOPARDIZE A CHILD...I UNDERSTAND HER BEING SELFISH WHEN IT COMES TO YOUR BROTHER..SHAME ON HER....HELP YOUR BROTHER CAUSE HE MAY BE FEELING THE BLOW EVEN IF HE SAYS IT DOESNT BOTHER HIM...SO SCREW THE DOG AND BE THERE FOR YOUR FAMILY THAT SHE ISNT CONSIDERING AT ALL
2007-10-02 21:05:00 · answer #7 · answered by Heavenly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your house. Set the rules and be upfront with them. If the dog doesn't behave she will have to take it to the vets and bored it.
2007-10-02 21:17:02 · answer #8 · answered by peggie m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try it. If there s any problem, the dog is going to have to go. Your children come first.
2007-10-02 21:04:36 · answer #9 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she sounds like an overbearing cow who doesnt deserve your love. tell her no and to deal with her own problems.
2007-10-02 21:04:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋