please serious only.. family issue?

Question

ok.. i am 16 years old.. and for the past 3 years i have been ggetting into a lot of trouble..
from dtiching school to smoking weed and cigarettes... been caught drinking multiple times..shoplifting.. doing sexual things from a young age, having a boyfriend that my parents truly disaprove of, getting a tattoo, sneaking out.. you name it, i have done it..
every time i get caught i tell my parents that i am going to change.. and they have finally had enough.. what can i do to prove to them that i really do mean it and i really do want a good relationship with them?? I have already broken up with my boyfriend and i am not doing anything to get into trouble anymore.. but they still dont trust me... what can i do to prove that i mean what i say for real this time?

and no i am not ditching right now...
i am on october break

Answer 1

Sounds to me like you are just fishing for another excuse to con your parents with until the next time.

Only time will get them to trust you. It is just like gaining weight. It took a lot of time to add the pounds, it will take time to shed them.

You spent a lot of time and effort ignoring your parents rules and advice. It will take at least as much time to earn back their trust.

Answer 2

you badd....Listen, I know exactly what you mean. I did drugs and all the kinds of things that you talked about, and i can tell you, because i went through the exact same thing. I'm 42 now and i haven't done drugs since....a long time ago 15years or something !
Trust, however, is a totally seperate issue. What i mean is, that building trust, once you have lost it takes so much time, and you have to be honest, and serious, and patient, because i'll tell you straight up, and the truth is, they dont believe you right now, and they wont believe you for a while. But don't let that discourage you, because they are allowed, not to believe you.
So, what i suggest is that you stay on track, on the right track. If you need to, get involved in a group, like support group, or something, because you cannot fight this thing with the drugs and the lifestyle you lived, alone. Don't be afraid, and stay close to people that are fighting the same fight that you are, serious people that is.
if you do this and you continue to seperate yourself from that life, you will find that you will get stronger and stronger, and that life will get further and further behind you, and then, when that happens, then your parents will begin to notice a serious change in you, and when that happens, then they will begin to trust you again, a little at a time.

Answer 3

I was you 20 years ago, and the only thing you can do is give them time. They have no reason to trust OR believe you, and you can't force them too. How many times have you said you mean it this time? How many times have you made promises to change? If the answer is more than once....what do you expect of them? YOU are the one that messed up, and YOU are the one that is paying the consequences now.
The best thing to do is to MEAN what you say and SHOW them you mean it by your actions. Talk is cheap, but also remember that it will take time for you to earn their trust back. And to be honest, if you have done all you said you have (trust me I know...I did it all too) then earning their trust back is the least you can do.

Answer 4

You need to start communicating with your parents. Start with every day stuff. Maybe something that happened at school. A problem one of your friends is having etc. Gradually you'll be able to talk about the mistakes you made and the things you've learned from them. This will show them that you are maturing. Take responsibility for your actions. You aren't going to be perfect, none of us are, so own up to the things you do wrong. Perform tasks you aren't normally responsible for. If your parents respond negatively at first don't give up. They are hurt by your actions and it might take them some time to realize that you are being sincere.

Answer 5

fair play for seeing sense and finally wanting to change but I'm afraid its going to take some time before they start trusting you again. It will be worth it in the end tho. I would start by asking if they need a hand doing anything, helping around the house or shopping, things like that. They will see that you are trying and will slowly start putting their trust in you. remember to talk to them correctly and have manors. life is so much easier when you get along with family.

Answer 6

Change!!!!

Change routine, Change style, change ideas, set goals, start working in day to day activities. SET a plan.

You need to change only if you feel unconfortable with you right know if not is pointless.

Need extracurricular activites, it sounds you have to much energy and no guide. Need to make some physical activity (Recommendation: tae kwon do) set a goal to have a new color belt within 4 months or so. Work on it.

Need to express your self. start with activites that involve creativity such as theater or clothing design. focus on learning new things and ideas, it sounds that you are bored.

Need to create trust. Do some great things that impress your family: organize your room. Change decoration. put in the trash things you do not need. Make habits: take out the trash, little non-sense things that are important to THEM not to you.
CHANGE MAKEUP. Dress in light colors

Try to listen what is important to them, even when I does not have any kind on meaning for you. Building trust is hard but someone has to do it, right?
Write your ideas , later on or to days later, read them and see if you agree or not.

Try new things !!!! but be organized. Do it about a month, later you can change for extreme sports.

Answer 7

You've made their lives a living hell and broken their hearts repeatedly by your disrespectful and dangerous behavior and you really expect them to take you at your word? Your question goes to show that you haven't learned a thing.
Change your behavior, keep your word and do everything you can to regain your parents trust. Action speaks louder than words, and what I'm hearing from your words is a threat.

"thank me for acting right and take me at my word or else I'll just start acting like a self destructive brat again." Honey, I wouldn't trust you as far as I can throw you, and until you really grow up, I'm betting your folks won't either. Hopefully they have gotten themselves into counseling to learn to cope with your horrible behavior.

Knock off the BS and really do the job, and you will earn their trust back eventually.

Answer 8

Time, If you really mean what you say it's going to take a long time before your parents can trust you again. you really can't blame them if you look at your actions. Listen to them, stay away from trouble, do something creative with your spare time, and in the long run they will learn to trust you once again. Best of Luck!!

Answer 9

prove to them you can stay out of trouble say you stay out trouble and stick in school no smoking weed etc for a few months . trust takes time and your parents are obv worried about you just thank god you have parents that care


and remember nothing in life is easy just keep your head down and work hard on whats important to you and do whats right good luck hun.

Answer 10

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