My family is going to shlt. . any ideas?

Question

My dads an alcoholic, with a very addictive personality, a third of his time is spent drinking, a third smoking and the other third starting arguments and being verbally abusive.

HOw can i try to save this family? I mean, my brothers moved out and in another country, our native one, we have just moved to a foreign country. I don't know how to help my mom. She is very sad, and i have no idea what i can do. Any suggestions on how i can get them to get along better? Im 14...:/

I rarely even talk to my dad, little alone talk about something like this. And it's awkward to talk to my mom about it. . . kind of like the thing we all know is present (except father), but don't want to say.

I rarely even talk to my dad, little alone talk about something like this. And it's awkward to talk to my mom about it. . . kind of like the thing we all know is present (except father), but don't want to say.

Answer 1

Sorry to learn the situation at your home. You are too young and any attempt by you to advise your Dad may not be fruitful.All you can do is to be supportive to your Mom so that she remains mentally strong to face the situation.Mom can give hidden threat to Dad that if he does not abstain from heavy drinking and quarrels,she will have to abandon Dad and go to her sons with you. You may also ask your brothers to come and advise Dad to ease the condition. May God help you.

Answer 2

Not your job to "save" the family. I hate to say it but if the parents(adults---in name only) aren't willing to try I can't see a 14 yr old(no matter how hard you try) having any success at all. Your sibs are setting the best example they could. "Save yourself. Get out while you can".This is a good alternative(really). For now try getting a referral to any support groups Al-anon(family of alcoholics). AA for your dad. Women's groups and so forth. Remember, none of this your fault. Do not feel guilty for you have done nothing wrong.

Answer 3

Well in today's world you wont get much symphanthy or emphathy from anyone, the most you'll get is a unsincere "sorry about that" and a unsincere Smile of comfort.
I call it unsincere because todays world is selfish no one really cares unless it is happening to them, so the best thing for you to do is to find someway to deal with it the best you can, I chose God (Jesus Christ) but that may not be your choice, but bro im not in your situation and this is all I can offer. all you can really do is hope. and if you believe in God pray.

Answer 4

when he's not drunk try talking to your dad along with your mum, tell him how you guys feel, let him feel guilty about what he's doing...just try and convince him to go to a doctor or go into rehab...meanwhile try and get your mum and dad to go out with you, like maybe to the seaside, or on a picnic, but not somewhere crowded, where your dad may start an argument...try to keep your dad happy...if he's happy then you'll be happy...

Answer 5

I think you should talk to them. Make a list of things you want to say and issues you want to address then tell them face to face how you feel and how all this affects you. If they refuse to listen or don't acknowledge anything I suggest maybe seeing a councellor?

Answer 6

wow!!!! I grew up in kind of the same inviorament ...but .... what ever happens in your life will make you a better person...your going to be great in your life and in what you do.... talk to your mom and tell her snap out of it....... and your dad needs help dear..... but you cant make them change so I suggest you just pray..... find a friend ... to talk to ..... go to school no matter what ....... because without education.... it will be so hard ...to advance yourself in life....... take care of you......... as much as you hate to see your mom sad........ you still deserve to be happy .. talk to someone at school like a teacher one that you like.... and I will pray for you .......