I am sixteen years old and i got my driver license In march of this year. My dad is sick and has cancer on his heart (lung cancer).His friend that lives with us moved here to supposedly help him and us out! She always asks my dad for money and she always gets what she wants. My mom died when i was 10. She always tries to take her place. She calls me a B*TCH! all the time and my dad never says a thing. Now that i have my license after all that time now she has me driving for her ALL THE TIME and getting her grandsons from school, and my sister. She says im her SHUFFER! It's all rediculous to me. I'm sixteen years old cooking everyday, cleaning, getting this and that, picking up people for HER. She says I play mother!
Just tell me what you think i got know idea what to do or say to her or my dad?
When i do say something to my dad he always say,"AW BULLSHIT" or "SHUT YOUR MOUTH I DON'T WANT TO HER IT!"
2007-10-03 07:19:19 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am also home schooled to stay at home and take car of him and HER NOW! i know it makes me sound lazy to say all the cleaning and stuff but IIIIII do everything now anyone else not even my twin sister she is to wrapped into BOYS!!!!
2007-10-03 07:29:25 · update #1
This is a really challenging situation. The only advice I can give is to PUSH - Pray Until Something Happens.
Over and over again.
Night after night.
Day after Day.
Only God can make the change you are seeking.
Pray for her...as hard as it may be. Do it.
Trust him Sweetie.
2007-10-03 07:25:25 · answer #1 · answered by smsm223 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me your Dad don't want to die alone nor does he want his last few moments on earth to be filled with chaos. I hate to say this but i hope your Dad crosses all his T's and dots those I's. I assume this friend is just there for the easy ride with all the perks. You can attract alot more bee's with honey so i suggest you approach her as an adult as her equal. Let her know in advance your plans for the day before and allow her the time to say oh but you need to do...and then tell her know i believe you'll have to handle that i have a very important .....whatever and i am giving you enough notice so you can make other arrangements. Try hard not to slap her or be beligerant but that would be the only way to get a little time for you. Please don't run with this and end up in some kind of trouble for that will give her the satisfaction of i told u so
2007-10-03 07:27:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa I am so sorry for your situation my dad had cancer to, he use to say stuff like that but it was only because he was sick :( Well it is hard to tell what you need to do because for one you are young and for two you are taking care for your dad so it really isn't nothing or nowhere to go. I say you should hold your ground and say no when you don't want to do whatever. You see, you have a car, a license and this lady or whomever seems to be counting on you, stand up for what you believe in and take care of your dad and don worry about her. If he wants to give her the money. let him do it. Find a job if you don't have one so you can save up money for later in life. Good Luck :)
2007-10-03 07:26:44 · answer #3 · answered by make?love*not$war! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then find a relation or friend that will take you in... pack your bags its not going to get any better. Look into getting emancipated too.. you need a job and a place to live. That isn't a family situation you are in and nobody need to live like that! Over the years I have taken in 3 friends of my daughter because of intolerable situations they were all your age too.. I am not sure why 16 because the age of troubles for some many teens but at least in my house all they need do was go to school, work a job for their money and graduate.
2007-10-03 07:24:30 · answer #4 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she's using your father for his money and you as her slave. Is there another family member that can help you get rid of the leach. Tell her to pick up her own damn people. Maybe you could call Social Services and report her abuse of you, you are still a minor. I'm very sorry you dad is so sick and she is not being helpful at all. She is Abusive and needs to be reported.
2007-10-03 07:26:51 · answer #5 · answered by just me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough situation. I wouldn't put your needs as a high priority right now since your dad is so sick. Aren't you worried that he might die? Sounds like you maybe having some issues yourself. It is very important right now to seek some kind of counciling and get what you are feeling inside, out. Pls. remember life is so precious and you only have your parents once. You should know that. Best wishes to you and yours.
2007-10-03 07:25:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow this is a tought situation. It def. does not sound fair at all. But I don't really know what you can say. Is there anyone else you could live with? As much as it sucks I would say suck it up and just think in 2 years or less you can move and go to school and start your own life.
2007-10-03 07:23:18 · answer #7 · answered by Jamie G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you have been put into this situation but I think you are going to have to tough it out. I know it sucks but you sound like a wonderful daughter to devote yourself to your family like this. You are not alone. Millions of kids have to do everything around the house as well but hopefully it will make you a better person in the long run. Good luck honey!
2007-10-03 07:23:22 · answer #8 · answered by Colonel Obvious AM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry that you are suffering so much. Your mom died when you were very young, and now your dad is dying, and you are still very young. Age 16 is still a very tender age, and it is very sad that you are suffering so much with your father's illness and no mother to comfort you. You are probably going through a lot of emotions, and your father is ill, and his friend is mean to you. Go see a therapist, or a minister, or priest or rabbi. You need support, guidance, and someone who can help you emotionally through this very difficult time. Good luck and God Bless You.
2007-10-03 07:24:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since your dad is sick, you should assume some responsibility. I think you need to quit being selffish and look out for you family, like any normal person should. I know you think your being "picked on" but your just doing your part....as for your dad's friend....I'm sure she does stuff such as clean, and cook for your dad when you are gone to school....so she deserves a break while your at home....and as for her calling you a B*tch, well what do you think your being...after all she doesn't have to help your dad out...
2007-10-03 07:25:07 · answer #10 · answered by brittmullins 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋