Im 14, and i kinda have this " longing" or " desire" to have a baby, i know this sounds super weird. But everytime i see one, it's almost like i feel this motherly instinct in me?! I would never go out and get pregnant or anything at this age, but it's just this feeling i have sometimes? Is this normal?
2007-10-02 20:25:02 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Is it a bad thing, and why do i feel this sometimes?
2007-10-02 20:28:45 · update #1
You are feeling the need to be loved unconditionally, as your parents should be doing.
Babies are adorable, but plenty of responsibility and heartbreak.
Picture yourself stuck in the house while all of your friends are out having a good time. They are going somewhere that a baby would not be welcomed. You need a sitter, and you have called everyone you can think of, but can not find one. You are going to be one miserable person!!!
You should be old enough to have enjoyed yourself in the single life. You should be ready to settle down to sittting up all night with a sick baby, changing diapers all day long every day, cleaning up the messes that the baby will make, giving up being able to participate in singles activities on weekends, watching the baby every minute, so that it does not get hurt, never leaving the child with anyone that is not 100% reliable, not doing anything even remotely dangerous when you are with your child (such as talking on the cellphone while driving a car, taking chances like driving too fast, drinking, doing drugs, etc...), not being able to buy that new outfit you wanted, because you need diapers and baby food, putting that child above everyone else including yourself.
Please think about that everytime you think you want to have unprotected sex too!! It is not like having a doll, I promise you!! You can't just set it in a crib and walk away until you feel like playing with it again. It is a human being that will depend totally on you. You will be responsible for EVERYTHING that happens to that child for at least the next 18 years!!!
I just needed to be sure that you actually realize what you are "longing" to do.
Just enjoy a neighbors, or another family member's baby until you are ready for all of that commitment. At least when you have something else you want to do, you can hand the baby back to its mother.
2007-10-02 21:25:37 · answer #1 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you have any siblings? Does someone you know have a baby?
Ever since I was little I always wanted a baby. You know we as little girls play with dolls thats the same thing in a way. I really think that it probably is the motherly instinct. Plus your hormones are changing at that age.
You are not weird. Just normal!
Not saying that its normal to have a baby at that age. Trust me you should wait to you are emotionally mature and financially stable. That is important when raising a child.
If you ever feel a need to be around babies or children see if you can baby sit for people. Sometime YMCA's have a Babysitter training class you can take. CPR too. thats important if you are going to be a sitter.
You sound like you will be some sort of care giver in your lifetime. I think that you would probably enjoy working with people and children. You should look for something to fullfil that need in you.
2007-10-02 21:00:05 · answer #2 · answered by mylittlemonkeysmail 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have any siblings? Does someone you know have a baby?
Ever since I was little I always wanted a baby. You know we as little girls play with dolls thats the same thing in a way. I really think that it probably is the motherly instinct. Plus your hormones are changing at that age.
You are not weird. Just normal!
Not saying that its normal to have a baby at that age. Trust me you should wait to you are emotionally mature and financially stable. That is important when raising a child.
If you ever feel a need to be around babies or children see if you can baby sit for people. Sometime YMCA's have a Babysitter training class you can take. CPR too. thats important if you are going to be a sitter.
You sound like you will be some sort of care giver in your lifetime. I think that you would probably enjoy working with people and children. You should look for something to fullfil that need in you.
2007-10-02 20:32:26 · answer #3 · answered by kimmy9178 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's not too weird, kid. Even boys go through that stage where they want a family. Even my husband admits that he always wanted a little girl since he was a teen. Kids your age see babies as cute and your hormones tell you to have one and kicks out a lot of material vibes. At 14, your body is running at full speed into adult hood but your mind isn't quite there yet. Consider these options:
Do some research. The best way to calm yourself down sometimes is really getting to know the -gritty and gruesome- truths to what having a baby really means. It not like dolls or cuteness when it's yours and came out of your body.
Babysitting works as well. You'll get a nice realistic dose of what it means to take care of a child alone without help (of course, take classes if you can first so you're safe)
Also, if you know someone with children already, babies or young kids, spend some times with them. Do the diaper changes, potty runs, feeding. Ask about bills and how much it cost to really take care of a child.
If you really just have the need to -care- for something, try getting a plant/pet. This usually distracts you and also feeds your nuturing needs.
Sometimes really getting to know the truth behind the giggles and coos will straighten you up in a heartbeat!
Child birth/caring is a wonderful, though hard things to do. Even if your hormones are popping off a bit now, just take a breather. You'll calm down sooner then you think :)
2007-10-02 21:04:37 · answer #4 · answered by Megan S 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I had the same thing at a very young age. It's good that you're not thinking of trying. I had my first child at 19 (was married, although not for very long) and I'm glad it happened that way, but sometimes think I should have waited. It would have been nice to have more than just a year with my husband without throwing a baby into the mix! Definitely wait...it's not easy being responsible for every second and every aspect of someone else's life...for the rest of yours!!
2007-10-02 20:31:23 · answer #5 · answered by nguam4now 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-05 15:53:20 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well hunny im the same im 17 and have wanted a baby since i was bout 14
my sister has just had a new baby girl n has 3 other kids so i have been with them for a while helpin out i think thats the only good idea because i know n u know 14 is to young not sayin that the 14 yr olds that do have babies r bad but yeh
2007-10-02 20:33:07 · answer #7 · answered by Princess<3 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Totally normal-I think all girls feel like that at that age. I remember day dreaming about what it would be like to rock and nurse a baby. Just a normal, nurturing instinct.
You'll find it comes and goes. A lot of women get hit with that again when they are nearing the end of their child rearing years as well.
2007-10-02 20:32:28 · answer #8 · answered by Thatgirltasha 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is quite normal. Most people feel that way when they see babies. Sometimes they can be really cute and adorable. Later on in life, you should just get over it, and you might not feel the desire much anymore.
2007-10-02 20:28:17 · answer #9 · answered by i_want_a_pet_goat 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's normal. I want a million dollars, no big deal. Just take care of yourself and don't do anything stupid. The time will come for you to marry and have a family. I bet you will be a great mom! Good luck
2007-10-02 20:29:54 · answer #10 · answered by Modern Man 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋