Family - October 2007

if im not there, so im always affraid
I am 21 years old now and his alcoholism is affecting our family. I am a third year college student and im also prelaw. I love school, howver find it very hard to concentrate when all i can think about is that at home he might be drunk again.

When he used to drink and get upset he got violent with my mom a couple of times, and the next day didn't remember a thing, well that is all behind us now and he swears up and down that he is done drinking for good. this last about 3 weeks at the most, and then its back again. Im always walking on eggshells to make sure that they don't fight, to consol my mom and to make sure he's not angered because I knwo what that leads to.

Im writing this with tears in my eyes because i simply don't know that to do anymore, I want him to stop but am afraid to even bring it up when he is sober because I don't know what he will act like. I sit at school with fear that at home they will fight or that he will drink.

2007-10-04 09:42:00 · 21 answers · asked by jm 3

the second the phone rings and you start chatting to yr mates the kids start acting like ferral cats going wild jumping all over well just misbehaving lol why do they do this ??

2007-10-04 09:37:45 · 24 answers · asked by robertboozychic 4

we live just done the street from his grandmothers house were his sister lives at and i feel as i don't have any family time or privacy because they come down to use the computer or his nephew will come to the house and start playing the play station without asking. we went to subway to eat last night and they had to come too and on top of it he had to buy them supper because she was broke and said she would pay him back this weekend. she want pay him back. we are renting this house and there is no other house open. they are about to drive me crazy and he doesn't see my side of it. we go to his grandmas house to eat with them and i don't like going over there all the time. his mom is in jail for selling Rx drugs and they both have power of attorney over her stuff and they have to get together to do stuff for her. how would you handle this

2007-10-04 09:21:21 · 2 answers · asked by michelecmof4 2

The problem with yahoo answers is that you have young people asking young people for help with things and its retarded. Only an old man can tell you what to do and you won't find an old and wise man on the internet. So here's my problem:

My parents won't let me see my girlfriend because she's all I think about at school and I don't do any of my work. But it's not like I ever did any of my work before. So they think they can change my grades by getting me far away from this girl. I never did good before I was punished so what makes them think that I'm gonna do better being punished? Even if I was doing good in school, they'd still tell me I couldn't see her because they wouldn't want me to focus on anything but school work, and now they want to punish me, for what, to do worse because I can't see her anymore. If they wanted me to at least pass, I'd suggest they let em see her, but what would you tell my parents in this case?

2007-10-04 09:14:24 · 18 answers · asked by butanebird91 3

a few months before my dad died he told me when my mom found out she was pregnant he wanted her to have a abortion. He said that secret had been eating at him and he want to tell me so he could apologize. I was 15 at the time. i told him it was ok and i wasnt mad about it. But for some reason it has always stuck with me since he told me in 1995. my parents split in 89, from 89-95 my dad stuggled with alcohal abuse and being homeless. His family had told me that towards the end of his life he was diagnosed with being schizophrenic. So i dont know if it what he told me was true or the sickness. I'm just scared how she'll react. When i went to visit his side of the family a yr ago they told me a secret about his dad, i told my mom and she blow her top. she was so mad. cause my dad had told her the secret when they 1st got married but he never wanted us kids to know about it. So im scared she'll get even more pissed off cause it actually has to do with me. Geez family secrets huh!?!?

2007-10-04 09:09:19 · 11 answers · asked by ? 1

I'll try to sum this up as easy as possible:
My father has never really been in my life or brother and sisters..until my mom started inviting to family events and holidays. Overall..I basically don't know him. Then all of a sudden for my sisters birthday this year he bought her a 2007 mercedes benz. He said exactly this "this is for ALL THE MISSED BIRTHDAYS". That was in January. My other sisters birthday was in May and he said he wasn't going to give her anything. The thing is is that my father works for my sister. She owns a military store and he will work there when she doesn't have anyone else to work. And to keep him happy she invites him over for dinners and drinks. So the mercedes was kind of like a payback for all that (that is what my brother told all of us since he worked for him)...well that would be fine but he said the benz was for all missed birthdays so my sister and I believe he now owes us something...hold on I gotta write more..

2007-10-04 08:30:16 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

my uncle just commited suicide and his wife is now bombarded with all sorts of problems because they never talked about it. They are younger and now this happened. Just wondering how many people think about it.

2007-10-04 08:22:51 · 5 answers · asked by Tessie 2

How do adults stay away from abusive parents when broke and partially disabled. The abuse causes me be to be so hurt I cant work. The lack of money causes me to get help from my parents-abusers. When getting money they just know or say "See we told ya so, You cant work cause youre crazy". So then I or any victim gets more sad and really cant work. Hands start shaking panic attacks start in. The you are really in pain so much you hardly move. Its really hard to work under these conditons when you feel faint all the time for hours. Getting a gun and ending it all would be so much easier no wonder you hear about it on TV so much.

2007-10-04 08:22:36 · 9 answers · asked by theroadwetake 3

2007-10-04 08:04:53 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

my husbands X-wife showed up at this family gathering thing (she didnt belong there & I told her so) so my step-sons g/f got snippy w/ me (because she didnt like me telling the X -wife she didnt belong there-it was put on by another family member Not the g/f)...I apoligized to my husbands X-wife & my step-sons g/f....my step-son will be getting married soon....so what does that make me to her? We kinda got into it one other time...I know she HATES me....she never makes eye contact or talks to me when she is MY home & avoids me whenever possible! How do I handle this???????????? Ugh!

2007-10-04 08:01:36 · 14 answers · asked by east2west92 4

I'm 17, she's 24. When she was 14, she made mistakes, joined bad crowds, lied, was mean to me. Our parents ended up giving her a harsh punishment, though she apologized and promised to change. She got devastated because they said she had lost their trust and their trust was very important to her. I remember this broke her spirit, she suffred a lot but my parents were firm and it took months for them to trust her again. She changed, ended up being a great sister, made our parents proud but never made up w/ them, even today she thinks they were cruel, unforgiving, broke her spirit, didn't act as loving parents. Their attempts to make up with her didn't work. Today she's graduated, has a good job, still a great sister but hasn't talked with our parents for more than 2 years. She's about to get married and her in laws love her. Unfortunately mom is dying and wants to see her but she refuses, says it'll be kinda painful for both. I begged but she refused, see no point in this.

2007-10-04 08:01:24 · 8 answers · asked by Sonia 1

2007-10-04 07:37:20 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

Im really really stupid I make mistakes alll the time,my brother is perfect he is at uni,whenever I make mistake like dropping my contacts the hit me and tell me I stupid and Im useless,whenever I do anything good they take no notice I try not to be so stupid but I cant help it and Im starting to hate myself for it and Im to scared to tell them anything what should I do?

2007-10-04 07:18:44 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

Son and GF and new baby live with hub&me, the gf's family is driving my fam crazy with their constant visits, her mom comes early in the morn'g and stays for hours leaves around lunch time and comes back with her hub and another grandchild and stay for another couple hours. Even if gf takes the baby to there home for 4-5 hours they show up here in the eve'g. The grandchild they bring with them takes over our tv and because our L/room is small to begin with her family sits and we are forced to sit in another room. My hub & i both work and when we get home in the eve'g we'd like to sit back and relax,watch a little tv and even enjoy the grandbaby,.My son told gf that this is getting ridiculous and that they need to cut back on the visiting so far it hasn't stopped them.. ANY ADVICE, I don't want gf to be upset with us. They are looking for a place of their own but who knows how long that could take and we don't mind them being here, this is our first GC, but her fam is driving us nuts

2007-10-04 06:52:06 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-04 06:46:56 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

My grandma is quite a mean person, and I don't know what to do. When I was born, she referred to me as a fat moose and made fun of my face. When I was three, she hung boots in the chimney on Christmas telling me Santa was stuck. She told me to go outside to play, and when I came back inside, there was a fire in the fireplace. I asked her if Santa got out, and she said no and laughed as I cried, thinking Santa was dead. She has always told me I was born for the sole purpose of being made fun of. She won't stop saying cruel things to me, and she tells me horrible stories during supper that make me feel sad. There's a lot more, but I am running out of room. My mom keeps forcing me to be around her, and then she makes me feel like a horrible person because I don't want to speak to my grandma. I want to explain to my mom about how I feel about my grandma, but she always makes me feel like I'm a horrible person. Does anyone know anything I could say or do?

2007-10-04 06:30:10 · 10 answers · asked by armadilloelf 2

My dad's always had a drinking problem and thats realy unusal since we're an indian family his drinking has really affected our familily bonding and due to his drinking he can never keep a job becuase he's always getting fired.. so there's alot of pressure on my mother.. but she's now getting really sick ( phtsically) and can't work as hard.. i'm getting sick of living with them and have to worry about him and my family.. my mom won't get a divorce becuase of the culture but it's traumatizing me and i have a younger bother who i dont have a heart to leave- what should i do.. should i move to another state away from all this and abandon my family.. or should i stay for the stake of my brother and mother. please help

2007-10-04 06:28:20 · 17 answers · asked by shanekwah 2

my mum does stuff to me whenever I do anything wrong and I mean things by accindet,like today I droped my contact lense and she pulled some of my hair out and I know Im stupid dropping my contact but Iam only 13...

2007-10-04 06:26:50 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous

Me and my parents always argue. I know they are stupid reasons, but the arguments turn really big and i get frustrated and angry with them. I want to run away to my friends, shes only round the corner and i would stay there, but her mum is my mums best friend. Its annoying me now because i keep wanting to do it, and i want to be with my friend. I know we would argue, but i just want to go. I can't be bothered arguing any more. What do i do?

2007-10-04 05:59:44 · 13 answers · asked by holly_rave 1

When I was little like 4 or 5 my stepdad use to abuse me. I can't get over it. Everywhere I turn I am reminded of it. How do I get away from it help.

2007-10-04 05:56:35 · 11 answers · asked by heyjesus90 3

What are your deepest desires for your children? To become "X", go to college, be happy, stay off drugs, be independent, move out, etc... what is it that you want for them.

2007-10-04 05:32:01 · 9 answers · asked by Angie Milhous 2

Yea So My mom and I are close but not close enough to telling her Who I'm with. its just not the right time to explain It to her since She's getting a divorce with Her 2nd marriage. Ugh...My boyfriend is getting tired of it....!! He's like I texted you to go to the movies. or Why didn't you text back. I'm like huh? I only get my phone back from 2:45- 6:00!! I don't even wanna charge it anymore... why does your mom have your phone. She doesn't pay for it....Which is true my Dad pays for it...But why go through all the trouble of snooping into my contacts and messages??

2007-10-04 05:27:09 · 7 answers · asked by ALY 1

If your husband/wife bought a new smaller wallet and needed to get rid of some of the things from his old wallet and one of the things that he got rid of was your picture (which is a fairly old picture). Would you feel hurt or how would you feel and how would you approach it. I didnt go through his new wallet but was going to throw away his old one and saw that my picture was in there.

2007-10-04 05:18:31 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-04 05:12:04 · 19 answers · asked by toni ann l 1

2007-10-04 05:00:27 · 8 answers · asked by julieann 1

Hi,

I am new to this community and am seeking sound feedback. I have been attempting to resolve some family conflict for a long time but always seem to come up short.

I have been faced with a difficult family situation for many years. My father who is a wonderful and accomplished man remarried after my mother died in an automobile accident. My stepmother tends to be a controlling and strong willed person. She has some wonderful qualities but when it comes to me, sometimes I truly wonder whether she wants my happiness.

I was adopted by her when my parents got married. She was given a dominant role in my upbringing. But the games that are palyed, have over the years taken their toll. If I succeed, its because of her, if I fail its because of me (I did not obey her every command). Big occasions in my life always become all about her and really, anti-climactic moments.

Despite turbulence and discord, I have managed to become a medical doctor in a foreign country. I have just returned to the US to sit my licensing exams here. More discord seems immenent despite my efforts. I know many people have these sorts of problems so it seems that I should not feel alone with this sort of thing. There are many convoluted aspect to this relationship that I won't go into, but what I have provided here are the surface details.

Finally, I will say that I adore my dad, but he does have his flaws. He has made it clear that a relationship with me is what he wants. However, I see that it will always be dictated to some extent it seems by my step mother.

I continue on my journey towards becoming a doctor here in my home country with hope and optimism despite setbacks. I truly want to help those in distress and need but find it difficult being my best at this when I cannot seem to over come my own difficulies.

Any and all feedback welcomed. Best wishes.

2007-10-04 04:55:36 · 13 answers · asked by brave.heart 1

My 15 year old daughter just came to live with me. She was living with her father from age 10 to 15.

She sets an alarm, but can not get up on time. I had decided to leave her alone for waking up. Today, the alarm went off for 1 hour and she did not wake up. So, I went it and turned on the light and told her to wake up. She sad that I looked at her with "mean eyes."

Then, she threw a tantrum - hit me and threw things around and did not eat breakfast. She was late to school and may get Saturday detention. She cried so much and said that she hates living with me.

She also told me that "I don't get along with anyone."

She asks me to leave her alone in the evening so that she can study and then she talks on the phone. I quiz her for her tests and then she says that I don't do enough and she will fail....

I don't know how to handle her....

2007-10-04 04:40:44 · 5 answers · asked by Stareyes 5

I called my mum the other day and she said we need to talk about my sisters bday I was angry because my mum has never bothered with my bday and 4 graduation didnt make a fuss or throw a party like she said to all the fam I txt her and said I dnt want to no about my sisters bday cause she always convieniently 4gets mine I no I am kinda punishing my sister 2 but I am resentful should I feel like this?or blowing this outta proportion?

2007-10-04 04:34:52 · 12 answers · asked by Shoe Gal 2

My father is phsyically abuse and threatening and he got arrested 2 weeks ago because he came after me with a knife .
Now on the letter in which he got Charged
it says " The state of new york " Vs " Mathew " , that's his name

what does this mean ? Me and my father has been having problems since i was a teenager , and his illogical ways have always risen questions in me .

After a huge lenghty reserarch i have found out that , my depression , my anxiety , my panic attack , everything was due to Him. and Now i have something against him . I have a recording also with me that proves that he was yelling at me the day he tried to come after me with a knife..
Will this be good enough proof for me ?

Some told me that some judges won't even allow it ?
Also ... how can i get free legal advice ?
and what does it mean by State Vs My father. What are the chances of ME going to JAIL ? ( i am very paranoid right now , since my dad , mom and bro are all against me , because i want Justice)

2007-10-04 03:34:18 · 14 answers · asked by sum142121 1

Just because the individual has done this before, with an unloaded shotgun, and didn't really mean anything with the "chitty chitty bang bang" talk?
The unloaded device gives credit to why it's cool to keep police & schools out of the circle?
Doesn't every mature individual deal with stress like this?
Is there any other option?
Police won't and the schools don't?

2007-10-04 03:07:57 · 2 answers · asked by Migsoon 2