The problem with yahoo answers is that you have young people asking young people for help with things and its retarded. Only an old man can tell you what to do and you won't find an old and wise man on the internet. So here's my problem:
My parents won't let me see my girlfriend because she's all I think about at school and I don't do any of my work. But it's not like I ever did any of my work before. So they think they can change my grades by getting me far away from this girl. I never did good before I was punished so what makes them think that I'm gonna do better being punished? Even if I was doing good in school, they'd still tell me I couldn't see her because they wouldn't want me to focus on anything but school work, and now they want to punish me, for what, to do worse because I can't see her anymore. If they wanted me to at least pass, I'd suggest they let em see her, but what would you tell my parents in this case?
2007-10-04 09:14:24 · 18 answers · asked by butanebird91 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i'm 50 something and seen a lot.
Your parents want what is best for you in the long run and they don't think this short term crush is it.
Play by their rules; prove them wrong, do the work and you'll have a legitimate beef; othewise, you're just whining.
2007-10-04 09:18:04 · answer #1 · answered by wizjp 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am assuming you are a young teenager who think he is in love.Your parents have loved you since the day they found out that God had blessed them with you. Your parents responsibility is to love, guide, teach, and protect you. As a parent they only want what's best for you. I agree that your education is more important right now. Your parents know what's ahead of you and some of the challenges you are going to face. I know you don't understand but trust your parents decision. In this society you need and education and I know you are tired of hearing that, but it's true. Knowledge is power. Prove to your parents that you can study and stay focused on school. The fact that your grades are not good anyway is an indicator that you don't need any distractions (girlfriends). Prove to them, that you can do it and focus on school. It's not a punishment they are just doing. They are doing what they feel is best for you. Have you ever had to choose between doing something that was best for you, opposed to doing what was best for you?
Maturity comes with understanding and acceptance. How mature are you?
2007-10-04 09:48:26 · answer #2 · answered by thekingschild2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aw.
Can you see if you can negotiate with them. Say to them, "If I do my best, can I get to see her at weekends? Because if I don't get to see her at all, there's no reason for me to bother." But try and do this with the one that is most reasonable (your mom?), and when they are in a GOOD mood.
I know it's hard. I don't think they are just being mean for the sake of it, though. They want you to have a future when you leave school, and you won't if you don't start to do some work.
Once you have left school, you will find it much harder, because you won't be able to just not do something because you don't feel like it. If you get used to doing stuff you don't like now, you might end up in a better job, where you get less nasty stuff to do (the more education you have, the less unpleasant work you have to do when you are in a job).
Try and work with your parents on this, a bit of give and take on both sides would be useful.
(I admit it, in your terms I'm old)
2007-10-04 09:24:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want an old man's opinion? Go find one. A grandparent maybe? That creepy old man in church? How about a neighbor?
Do you want what they have, like a house and stuff? A family?
Ask them how they got it. They probably had to work for it. Now find some stats on how much money educated people make compared to uneducated. There is a significant difference.
Girls come and go. Maybe this is "the one". Time will tell. Think about what you want to give her, and the life you want to live with her. Your parents think about it. They want it to be as good as possible.
Doing less to show you parents you are in control only proves to them that you aren't ready to make good decisions yet.
Do good things, like schoolwork. Take the hard road. Build yourself up now while you have people willing to take care of you. Prepare now for when it's just you, living your life, having a family, etc.
You have to realize that growing up and taking care of your own business is a win/win for you and your parents. Even If you don't respect them now, think about where you are headed and what you can do for yourself now.
Tell your parents you love them, even if they are wrong.
2007-10-04 09:37:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't tell your parents anything.
Your life is entirely up to you... harping and nagging don't get results. If you are lazy and don't care about your performance, future and have no ambition, that's your choice.
If you are having problems with reading or if something else is standing in your way of school performance, then you deserve GOOD HELP so that you can strive to do your best.
If you think you need some help, see the school counselor. If you don't, or just don't care, then don't see the school counselor. Your life, your choice.
You deserve ENCOURAGEMENT and some praise from your parents, not punishment for having a girlfriend... your parents are goofy.
Consider your future and your life. Ask yourself what you want to be or do in the future? What sort of career sounds interesting?
You won't have to worry about seeing a girlfriend if you don't have ambition -- no girl will be interested.
Take care of YOU and do well for YOU... not for others.
2007-10-04 09:27:26 · answer #5 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're education is going to be there long after that girl is gone. I know you think that girls are the only thing that matters right now, but it would be wise to focus more on your education!! This girl you're infatuated with won't get you through life....your education will. Do good in school and show your parents that you know what matters most, and maybe they will be a little more lenient and let you see this girl a little.
2007-10-04 09:18:01 · answer #6 · answered by bulldogclover75 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, I am not an old man, and im sorry if this answer makes you mad---
Just sit down with your parents and explain to them that you have more things on your mind than your girlfriend. And tell them what stuff your having trouble in. And they could help you with it. And just try to turn in all your homework. Try to reason with them saying stuff like just because you take my girlfriend away doesnt mean its going to effect my grades. I mean, you could also think about what you are doing for the weekend. That will get you also distracted. So, they wouldnt know for sure.
2007-10-04 09:20:38 · answer #7 · answered by Brandon Alan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not an old man but I am the mother of a teen.
I think your parents are being very unreasonable.
I get the whole I want what is best for you but having a gf is not that big of a deal unless you are skipping school to be with her.
Do you think they would be willing to compromise with you? Maybe you could see her if you had at least a 'C' average? Tell them how you feel and offer the compromise.
2007-10-04 09:25:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all I wish I was young......but anyways have you talked to your parents and said " Excuse me do you actually think this is gonna change me.....the only thing this is doing is making it worse" and if you did try compromising with them " say okay if i get a Good grade can i see her if they say no then say that is not fair......and honey it is not what did this girl do 4 your parents to not like her .......if you Love her then tell them their is Nothing you can do to keep us apart , and they need to realize this, you are your own person and nobody can MAKE you do something you won;t do.....but 1st TALK to them and tell them your side and honey listen to what they gotta say too.....just because you don't like it doesn't mean it's not true....
2007-10-04 09:23:13 · answer #9 · answered by hi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to do better in school no matter what. I STAYED grounded because of bad grades and missed a lot of parties. I think once you prove that you aren't a messed up little kid not paying attention in school, they will respect your desire to see your girlfriend. So far you haven't proven that you deserve their respect on this issue. Buckle down young man so you can have more choices in your life!
From, a 40 year old woman
2007-10-04 09:22:08 · answer #10 · answered by ga.peach67 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you've got to own your responsibility. You can't see your girl friend because you've been goofing off and not handling your business.
So the first thing that you have got to do is handle your business. School is your job just as surely as your parents work is theirs. Bring up your grades, do your chores, and show them that you can do it and that you are responsible.
Then you will earn some trust and respect and they may allow you to start seeing your girl friend again.
Be patient, once trust is lost it is very difficult to earn back.
2007-10-04 09:28:54 · answer #11 · answered by wondermom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋