I called my mum the other day and she said we need to talk about my sisters bday I was angry because my mum has never bothered with my bday and 4 graduation didnt make a fuss or throw a party like she said to all the fam I txt her and said I dnt want to no about my sisters bday cause she always convieniently 4gets mine I no I am kinda punishing my sister 2 but I am resentful should I feel like this?or blowing this outta proportion?
2007-10-04 04:34:52 · 12 answers · asked by Shoe Gal 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
God you sound like a brat. Maybe they give you a hard time because you're not exactly sweetness and light to live with????
2007-10-04 04:39:43 · answer #1 · answered by Wonderwoman 7 · 2⤊ 3⤋
It's easy to feel resentful, especially if your sister is younger but the most important thing is your Mum obviously values your opinoun & wants you to feel included in the celebrations.. It's no use getting mad or holding grudges, however hard it is not to, because you could end up spoiling the day for your sister & your Mum may not want to organise anything for you. Be calm, give your Mum a ring cos you need to sort out this problem or it will niggle away at you & cause a ridge between you & your parents. Explain to her how you feel, suggest that she help organise a party for your next birthday or whatever & hopefully you guys can bond & make up by helping with your sissy's bday stuff. Enjoy it & good luck!
2007-10-04 04:42:43 · answer #2 · answered by BeatingHeartsBaby. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its never easy when you are pushed to the side and another one of your sibligns are taking center stage. Trust me, been there, done that. The only thing you can really do is just ignore it and move on with your life. Cause all your mother will do is deny that she treats you any different then your sister. I know this is easier said, then done. But its just something you must learn to do. But I wouldnt punish your sister for your mothers action. Its not like your sister told your mom to 'forget' your birthdays. If there is a celebration go, and have a good time, and show your sister the respect that she deserves. Good luck. Hope this helps.
2007-10-04 04:42:16 · answer #3 · answered by MayMay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont acknowledge your sisters birthday, then arent you being just like your mum is towards you? Do you want to be like her? do you want to lose your sister? I would say contact your sister and arrange something direct with her, it will make it more special for her than a family gathering where there is going to be bad atmosphere. I think in this instance you are blowing it out of proportion a bit. Contact your sister and arrange something now.
2007-10-04 05:16:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be there for your sister, but it's completely understandable why you feel this way and completely unfair. Don't plan anything with your mother. Give your sister a present of your own, hopefully something that could out do your mother. I'm sorry sweety. Happy Birthday for the future!
2007-10-04 04:42:12 · answer #5 · answered by catch22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't punish your sister. It's not her fault and you mustn't make her feel bad on her birthday. Also it will make you look like the wicked witch and everyone will hate you. Talk to your mum privately about this. You may find that she couldn't afford to give you parties when you were young even though she would've liked to. Talk to her.
2007-10-04 05:04:20 · answer #6 · answered by chris n 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in a tough situation and you are right you may just be punishing your sister for what you went through it was your mothers fault therefore you need to talk to your mother face to face and ask her why she forgot yours but remembered your sisters maybe you will get a reasonable explanation who knows. Best of luck and sorry you didn't get your parties
2007-10-04 04:39:54 · answer #7 · answered by moringurl20 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Understand how you feel. It happens often in a big family. You felt so unimportant in your mom's eyes right? Well just let your mom know why you're not interested. Hopefully she knows how you feel with all those missed bdays and graduation party.
2007-10-04 04:51:29 · answer #8 · answered by greentea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really if you are made to feel 2nd best you tend to react eventually, maybe it will make you mum realise she has been a little unfair to you in the past. Things may then get better!! Good Luck
2007-10-04 04:41:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As the saying goes, Cookie, you can choose your friends, but your family is thrust upon you, just grin and bear it, it's not worth creating trouble over !
2007-10-04 05:27:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need a sit down with both of them and calmly talk things out amongst yourselves. seems to me like in your family nobody gets along with anybody and that's not right.
2007-10-04 05:17:21 · answer #11 · answered by don't be a hater 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋