If your husband/wife bought a new smaller wallet and needed to get rid of some of the things from his old wallet and one of the things that he got rid of was your picture (which is a fairly old picture). Would you feel hurt or how would you feel and how would you approach it. I didnt go through his new wallet but was going to throw away his old one and saw that my picture was in there.
2007-10-04 05:18:31 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The things is i don't want to talk to him anymore. I am thinking about it so much that it makes me want to resent him.
2007-10-04 05:26:36 · update #1
Just to clarify, he didn't throw it away. Its still in his old wallet on his desk.
2007-10-04 05:27:54 · update #2
Yes he stores my picture on his desktop on his cellphone.
2007-10-04 06:15:15 · update #3
it would be his property and i suppose that if he'd want to toss my old picture, then ok... whatever.... he can still see me.. i live with him.
2007-10-04 05:24:14 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure I"m following you --- You don't want to talk to him anymore because of the picture episode, or you don't want to talk to him anymore because of other things going on in your relationship. Perhaps other things in your relationship is causing you to misinterpret your husband's actions. I personally do not like to carry pictures in my wallet. The plastic ends up becoming discolored in a short time, and you can't even see the pictures clearly after a while. Besides, I hate the extra thickness added to my wallet, and the mess of stuff hanging out of it every time I pull it out. I don't know any who pulls out their wallets just so they can see their pictures. A lot of people are preferring to store photos on their cell phones now. Is your husband doing that?
2007-10-04 05:44:27 · answer #2 · answered by mt75689 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because he still had your picture in his old wallet doesn't mean he is throwing it away....Maybe he just forgot it....overlooked it....But if not, then does he have other pics of you? If so does he have them in his new wallet? I know that if I was in the same situation I would ask him if he intended to throw it out and if so why. Or I would just show it to him and ask him about it....
I don't know if I would be upset or not if he did throw it away, but I do know that if he did throw it away and have some other female there (that was of no relations to him) then I would be devestated....even if she was just a "real good friend" of his....
So my advice is:
Ask him about it....
Why was it still in his old wallet?
Does he mean to throw it out?
Can he find another place somewhere to put it?
Don't jump to conclusions...
2007-10-04 05:28:54 · answer #3 · answered by ilovealanrickman2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm.... yea maybe i would be hurt... only because it's a picture that i gave him of myself and would wonder why he would get rid of it... you should just ask him though... just be like honey, I was going to throw away your old wallet and noticed my picture was in there, why where you going to throw it away? Hopefully he has a newer picture of you in his new wallet... you know... but I would ask... only because it would leave me curious and i would want to know the story behind it... you shouldn't throw pictures away anyway...
2007-10-04 05:26:34 · answer #4 · answered by N3N@ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he just forgot it - or else he has a more recent one in his new wallet. Ask him because it is hurting you - I can tell. I mean I would feel hurt and I don't think I'm anything special. Ask him straight out because you'll carry it around at the back of your mind.
2007-10-04 05:24:41 · answer #5 · answered by Scarlet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh, 1, it's an old picture; and 2, if he never acts as though he cares about you at all, then the picture deal isn't the most important thing; if he DOES act as though he cares, then it's silly to think the picture means anything.
In other words, you're being silly.
If you get no indication from him that he loves you, then THAT'S your problem.
If you have reason to believe he loves you, then he probably does.
2007-10-04 06:14:41 · answer #6 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go. Everyone does not have the same values on sentimental objects. What one person reveres, another may not but it doesnt mean he/she doesnt love the person in the photo. If drama ensues by this getting rid of the photo, it could be worse than the actual discarding
2007-10-04 05:25:08 · answer #7 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-07 06:09:26 · answer #8 · answered by piano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he thinks you look prettier now than ever before :)
But no...honestly...I can understand why you're upset. He probably forgot about it or thought he could upgrade it with a more recent picture.
2007-10-04 05:29:45 · answer #9 · answered by ER 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd give him a new one and say and I got this one just for your wallet!!!!
2007-10-04 05:30:20 · answer #10 · answered by don't be a hater 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are so many more serious issues which could cause one to be upset in a marriage, which you choose to upset you is up to you and honey, I don't think this one is that serious. Let it be. God Bless.
2007-10-07 23:31:55 · answer #11 · answered by Bethy4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋