My grandma is quite a mean person, and I don't know what to do. When I was born, she referred to me as a fat moose and made fun of my face. When I was three, she hung boots in the chimney on Christmas telling me Santa was stuck. She told me to go outside to play, and when I came back inside, there was a fire in the fireplace. I asked her if Santa got out, and she said no and laughed as I cried, thinking Santa was dead. She has always told me I was born for the sole purpose of being made fun of. She won't stop saying cruel things to me, and she tells me horrible stories during supper that make me feel sad. There's a lot more, but I am running out of room. My mom keeps forcing me to be around her, and then she makes me feel like a horrible person because I don't want to speak to my grandma. I want to explain to my mom about how I feel about my grandma, but she always makes me feel like I'm a horrible person. Does anyone know anything I could say or do?
2007-10-04 06:30:10 · 10 answers · asked by armadilloelf 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I say you should ask your mom to take a walk with your around the block because you really need to speak to her. You're feeling horrible about yourself and you've been putting up with your grandmothers taunts and it's getting to the point you can't take it. Tell her the things your grandmother has done and why you're feeling like avoiding her is the only solution.
My mom does this to me too, but when i sit down and have a heart to heart talk with her especially about self confidence and things that bother me she tends to have more sympathy. Ask her to think of it from your point of view and how your grandmother somewhat ruins your self confidence.
If you can, try to remember that other people's opinion don't matter. Honestly, she's just picking on you and trying to make you feel horrible... it doesn't mean the things she says are true. The only person who's opinion matters is your own, and that results in the decisions you make. About the whole story telling, again... they're probably just stories to lower your self esteem. Altogether, she's being a bully. Be the bigger person and ignore her.
2007-10-04 06:50:26 · answer #1 · answered by Goose Feet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your grandma must be a really lonely person, to have to act so cruelly toward you. Maybe you should ask her what happened to her to make her so cruel and angry. You just might surprise her by asking that she'll have to think about her actions. Or maybe you should tell her that you want to have a good relationship with her but as long as she continues to be cruel you just don't want to be around her.
I really think you should tell your mom how you feel maybe she could talk to grandma. Good Luck Sweetie, it sounds like grandma is missing out on a great kid.
2007-10-04 14:22:19 · answer #2 · answered by Tammy K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! This makes me wonder how your mother was treated when you were growing up! I wonder what your grandmother would say if you confronted her directly. I wonder what would happen if you asked her, "What did I ever do to you to deserve this kind of treatment?" If your grandmother keeps abusing you afterwards, return the favor. Your grandmother may think of you as a "fat moose", but she's probably just a shriveled-up old bag, so maybe you can use that against her.
2007-10-04 13:43:41 · answer #3 · answered by tangerine 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to sit your mom and grandmom down and explain to them how the way they treat you makes you feel. If this doesnt work, since you cant change people, you start being more cautious of your own feelings and block them out. It seems like you have to be around them both, so mayb try a guidance couselor at school.
2007-10-04 13:39:36 · answer #4 · answered by sprng4ward 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask your mother, " What would you think if someone did ---------------------? Fill in the blank with something that your grandmother has actually done. When your mother gives her opinion of the behavior, then inform her that your grandmother is the author of the behavior and tell her how you have been feeling about some of the things your grandmother does and says to you. Tell her you love your grandmother, but you don't like her behaviors......
2007-10-04 13:37:29 · answer #5 · answered by Rosebudd 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mother probably suffered the same thing at the hands of your grandmother, who sounds evil and narcissistic.
Your grandmother has ISSUES and she doesn't know how to behave like a lady.
I'm sorry your are struggling. Maybe you could speak to your school counselor for good, sound advice.
take care ok?
2007-10-04 13:39:29 · answer #6 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to another trusted adult, such as a school guidance counselor, and explain the situation. have this adult talk to your mother. maybe then she'll see how serious the situation is. you don't deserve to be treated that way by your family.
2007-10-04 13:38:14 · answer #7 · answered by iittghy? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you need to confront your mother about it and she needs to listen. That's a form of verbal abuse and you shouldn't have to take or deal with it. Have you tried standing up for yourself? My grandmother was nasty too, but I always fought back.
2007-10-04 13:33:44 · answer #8 · answered by CC 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow! i'm a mama and i love my grand babies more than myself.i'm so sorry! you need too pray ask GOD too help you. and you are just a bautifull child, i don't care how big you are and neither does GOD. you are just as good as they are. the devil works on our loved ones too..........sissy........ps. tell her you love her and please don't hurt me anymore..
2007-10-04 13:43:53 · answer #9 · answered by sissy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
leave your grandme alone, she needs a break. Please continue your own life sweetie.
2007-10-04 13:34:06 · answer #10 · answered by Sonia K 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋