My Mother is a very sweet lady and also in her older years still very dependent and will not stick up for what she really wants. Her husband (2nd) and my Mom live here close to us. My husband and I have 2 kids that she is close to and now my Mothers husband is going for a job interview in another state which (is probably as far as a 20 hr car trip) means they would have to move. Well, I think that if he really gave a rats a$$ about her he would know that its more important to stay near family than to make an average living. I mean you could have a job anywhere but his pride level is way to high it's gonna screw everything up. My Mom isn't happy about moving but she feels like she can't make it on her own. I told her she would be happy if she is closer to us but she wants to stick with her husband that doesn't care about her feelings. What should I do let her go or continue to talk to her about this?
2007-10-03 02:13:38 · 5 answers · asked by Jenn 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The thing is that I know she will not be happy there and she has told me the same. She is the kind of person that needs family around her. Her husband should know this. This job isn't extraordinary and I think it's more for his ego than anything else. She has been going back and forth with this for a while but I've finally decided to let her go and not boggle her mind with what I know is best. Again, she needs people around her. What's a daughter to do?!
2007-10-03 03:30:01 · update #1
You can't stop your mother from moving.. she's an adult, and she has to make her own choices.... even if you don't like them.
If your mom's husband is taking a higher paying job, he might need the money, or is thinking of the future and planning for it with the extra income he might make.
If he doesn't care about your mother, it's a shame... but like i said, your mother has to make her own choices.
Sometimes moving is our best option. I'm moving over 1,000 miles away from my family soon... because it's in MY best interest to do so right now... sometimes we have to do what is best for ourselves. And it's not that difficult to keep in touch with family these days -- email, instant messenger, good plane fares, and etc.
I hope it works out
2007-10-03 02:19:27 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your being selfish and tying your mothers hands so to speak. She has an obligation to her husband, not you and your kids. I think you send send her own her way with many blessings from you and your family. Give her an open invitation to visit when ever possible. Thank God her husband is able to work.
2007-10-03 09:22:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a two way street. She married this man and must love him. I think the problem with her moving is more to do with your happiness than it is hers. Let her live her life, if she finds she is not happy she will leave him.
2007-10-03 09:42:25 · answer #3 · answered by Cristy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can talk to people until you are blue in the face. They will always do what they want. Peresonally, she should stay with her husband.
2007-10-03 09:33:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go. As people become older, they should become wiser. It's not your fault that some don't.
2007-10-03 09:45:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋