Talking about ex boyfriend. Please give me your opinion....?

Question

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My boyfriend of 7 months loves to talk about his ex girlfriend. He told me she still writes him that she misses him. He has been talking about her constantly (it has been annoying me but I didn't tell him to stop), so last week I told him stories (good and bad) about my ex boyfriends and how at one point I used to date different guys at once. I think now he is turned-off by that and acting strange, and I feel very stupid. Have I done wrong? I just did what he did to me (I know it sounds childish), but haven't you experienced this jealous over your boyfriend/girlfriend's ex-partners?

Answer 1

ask if he has a problem with it.. then when he says something just tell him that you thought he wanted to ask about your old flames b/c he was talking about his so much, too. He'll get the picture.

Answer 2

I hate to say it but no, that's not appropriate and it will not end well. I went through something very similar... my now ex (and this is why he's my ex) was "hanging out" with his ex the entire year and a half we were together. She also had a death in her family and he said he wanted to show his sympathy but instead he lied and told me it was one of his guy friends and said he needed to spend time with "him". I found out it was her and forgave the lying because of the situation (the death of her sister) but I had to draw the line after discovering he went to concerts with her, out to eat and even took a nice little weekend getaway...all of which he claimed was with a guy friend. Anyway, my point here is that if he's lying about it there's obviously a reason and it won't stop, I learned this from experience. Spending time around someone you once were intimate with is not an easy thing, there's likely to be tension and weird feelings. That text is totally inappropriate and if I were you I would demand he stop texting/calling her and either stop seeing her completely or only see her with you along.... I'd say end it but you do have a baby together and have been together for a while so I'm assuming you wouldn't want to just throw away the relationship. Also, talk to him and tell him how it hurts you when he lies about that stuff and that he's now put doubts in your mind...ask him if he'd like you sneaking around with an ex-lover.

Answer 3

I don't believe that he did anything technically wrong by speaking of his ex, however speaking of her that often is an unwritten rule, you just don't do it.It's like speaking of the dead and gone.You have every right to be jealous. I was like that with my ex, although I was 17 at the time. I used to show up unexpectedly just to see if I could catch her in the act. She wasn't cheating. I think it depends on your relationship. You two have been together 7 months, thats nothing. I've been with my girlfriend for 2 1/2 years. We can talk about anything, say anything. We both used to be very, very, very jealous of eachother. Now, when we go to the mall, we sometimes check other girls out and admire their beauty together.All in all, I think you are just as wrong as he, for taking the low road by trying to get him jealous. If I was in your shoes, I would sit him down,and tell him how you feel. Communication is such a huge part of a relationship. Good luck!

Answer 4

When my husband and I were dating, I got rid of all my ex boyfriends pictures and letters. But my husband kept his ex girlfriends pictures and letters it really upset me and I would ask him why he felt the need to keep them and he told me it was because he did have alot of wonderful memories of her so I left it at that. Because in the long run I knew that he chose me over her. As far as your ex goes, I'm not sure as you realize now that telling him you dated many guys at one time was a good idea even if you were that upset. You should of just told him that you respect that fact that he had such a good time with his ex and your glad that they can become friends (which believe me isn't often for people who break up) but you really don't want to hear any stories about their relationship. It makes you feel bad, and you want the two of you to move on. To back out of the whole "dated different guys at once" just tell him that you didn't mean to talk about that confirm with him that your not easy (because for all he knows you could still be dating many guys all at once only he's one of them), and that he just hurt your feelings by talking about his ex (because lets face it no one wants to hear that). Take it from me I have been with the same guy for eight years, and have been married to him almost four (anniversary October 25) so we have been through many things, I could write a book. Good luck.

Answer 5

yes, i have. that is why you keep the past in the past. you
don't talk about your ex to your present love. it will interfere
in your relationship. your man will think that you still have feelings for your ex. so stop talking about your ex !

Answer 6

My dear, just believe in his love for you.. Whatever u have spoken on those EX things..they will not matter anymore if both of you really loves each other...it's like reminscin' only...whether you like it or not, THEY are part of your lives...Believe in your love for each other. Love id kind, never jealous never proud...Love never fails..(",)

Answer 7

Asking this question again isn't going to get you different results.

Answer 8

Tell him turn about id fair play, and you'll stop if he does.