My father goes, and just out of the blue ( because he's drunk and on a hangover, most likely) says to me when i came out of my room " oh look it's the big baby, wanting mommys attention, always im competition, the big baby" etc etc to me. My mom was there and she was telling him to go to bed cause he was being stupid. And then as he's walking up the hall he goes " all she is just one big ******* baby".
I then said " at least im not a p rick like you ". Which im in trouble for now. .Then while he's in his room, i hear him say " the f ucken *** hole". Now im not complaining or anything, i just want to know if you think this was a fair thing for me to have said? Considering, i didn't do anythign to make him say this, other than saying that the show was half over and that i didn't want to watch it. And shoud i now be grounded in my room for the night? Thanks so much!
2007-10-02 02:14:54 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Im 14 years old.
2007-10-02 02:33:48 · update #1
Hi Hon....
Alcohol destroys lives and families.. it makes people say stupid, ignorant things. NO parent should address their child as a big baby or call names... that is quite a show if immaturity. Your father acts like he's about 5 years old.
Alcohol is a depressant, and it certainly doesn't do anything for a person's personality.
You can try Alateen if you like -- do a Yahoo search. It's a support group for teenaged people whose lives have been affected by those who drink.
Yes, it's true, at least you are not a pr|ck like your dad. he's disgusting.
I'm sorry you have to live this...and i hope it will show you that treating others badly and calling names is improper. I'm sure it hurts you deeply. sending hugs
2007-10-02 02:23:10 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your dad needs to learn some respect. You and your mom tell him when hes sober. How old are you?
Concentrate on getting a good job and having your own independance for the future when your away from him. At least your father has shown you how not too behave towards people. you are better than this and do not deserve to be treated like that. Show him you can make something of your life but he will always be a drunken p rick.
2007-10-02 02:37:57 · answer #2 · answered by emma157 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you might want to find some alateen programs to help you cope with a drunk father. Alcoholism is very difficult for family members to have to cope with, and there is no fairness. Honestly, I think you shouldn't have called him a name, but you could have said that you felt angry that he was calling you names and ask him to find a more effective means of communicating with you. If he was drunk/hung-over though, it would be best to say nothing as anything you say even if it's 100% right will just cause more problems. There is an insanity involved that will make you insane if you try to figure it out, so just try to find an alateen meeting close by so you can talk to other's that will completely understand what you have to live with.
2007-10-02 02:19:59 · answer #3 · answered by wellbeing 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your father is an ignorant man. Don't reduce yourself to his level. You showed disrespect by calling him a prick (and whatever else you said), which is why you were grounded. Yes, he was grossly disrepectful to you first; but when it comes to parents, children must "do as I say, and not as I do." Get it? When your father's drinking, try to stay out of his way. It sounds like he's jealous of the attention you get from your mom (which means he's a big baby himself!), and it comes out when he's drinking. Be wise and don't play in his hands. When he's drunk, disappear.
2007-10-02 02:27:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel, and I know you want to say those things out of frustration and anger, but it is important to be respectful of your parents regardless of the namecalling. It sounds like to me that you are probably a teenager, and only have a few more years to live at home, sitck it out. Also, you will see one day when you have kids, how important it is to be respectful no matter what... to your parents as well as others. I hope this helps!
2007-10-02 02:22:03 · answer #5 · answered by mcmattyd 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
1st your dad needs to get help , But no matter what unfortunatley your parents are the boss. But I do think your mom needs to tell your dad he owes you an apology! Life is not fair. Just try to hang in there and maybe when your dad is sober try to talk to him about the way he treats you when he is drunk and how it hurts you?Maybe that will be the 1st wake up call for him.
2007-10-02 02:21:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Parents who act like that don't deserve respect. I'm not saying you should or shouldn't of said that but I can totally understand why you would. Sorry your grounded. If anything you can take a lesson from all of this, not to act like that when you get older!
2007-10-02 02:26:00 · answer #7 · answered by jamierebeccalee 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Calling names is abuse, especially on his part, but people are stupid when they're drunk. Tell both your parents (when he's sober) that he needs help.
Perhaps you can live with other family members while he goes through treatment, but you should know that he will not go happily into treatment.
2007-10-02 02:22:18 · answer #8 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Not fair. Unfortunately, older people get more respect even when they're not respectful people. The best you can do is take your punishment, and try to think about happier things in life. Good luck.
2007-10-02 02:18:24 · answer #9 · answered by emilysk8 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
life isn't fair.
look to the future when you can move out! that's how i got through living with an @ss hole stepdad.
2007-10-02 02:18:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋