She's bright and talented but just don't wanna go to school no more and she'd be a senior next year. Her twin sister has a baby AND still attends her senior year. The girl don't want to work either. She has had 2 jobs and quit each before her first payday too! Any advise? BTW, she don't live at home no more cause the others (siblings) voted her to stay gone.
2007-10-02 02:42:36 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
you let her do what she has to do
eventually she'll come around and realize that school is the best thing.
2007-10-02 02:56:47 · answer #1 · answered by sarah w 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
This is your fault. You are a perfect example of a failed parent. To all others - Learn from this woman's mistakes.
Your other daughter is already a mother? Holy S@hit. Of course! What would you expect? The girl doesn't need you. She needs a role model that can inspire her and guide to do the right thing. There's nothing you can do, sorry. She will now have to realize what 'nice foundation' you have provided when she's 30 years old, wondering why you weren't there to keep her on track & will resent you forever.
You make me sick!
2007-10-02 02:52:18 · answer #2 · answered by Me 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to her and tell her, there`s only one more year to go, why not just go and it`ll be over before you know it. Then, talk to her siblings and let her move back in, your her mother the other kids shouldn`t vote, if you want your daughter to move back in then you are the boss of the other kids so she can if you say so.
2007-10-02 02:47:13 · answer #3 · answered by Sammi♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since her family abandoned her, I imagine she doesn't feel a need to please them. I have no idea how you can convince your daughter to do what's best for her, I guess she'll have to live the consequences of her actions. Doesn't sound like its your problem.
And for those who are suggesting the mother put her foot down, and its her house and she sets the rules, please go back and read this question. This mother already tossed the girl out, she doesn't live there and apparently her sibling have the power to decide who lives there.
2007-10-02 03:05:20 · answer #4 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Ignore that twit (previous answer) you are not a failed parent, you are in a position that most parents find themselves in at one time or another. You do need to sit her down, tell her the rules in YOUR home, That if she leaves school, she has to get a regular job, pay her way in the house i.e. rent, food and utilities. If she is big enough to leave, then she has to take responsibility for her part of the bills. Be very casual about it. Do not shout or dictate it, say it as if you just expect her to have thought of this herself but you are just defining it. If she is as lazy a you say, she will be back at school before you know it. But you have to make sure that she understands you are not bluffing. Tell her how nice it will be for you to have another adult contributing! If she threatens to leave home rather than help out (which is a typical response) tell her that is fine by you, that when she has taken all her stuff you will redecorate her bedroom and rent it out. Another income anyway! Just stay firm and calm. do not let it become a row.
2007-10-02 03:03:59 · answer #5 · answered by Mazanb 2 · 0⤊ 5⤋
Boy, you really run the show with your family, don't you. Sounds like your girls are running the show. How about put your fist down and tell her if she doesn't finish school, she can expect no financial help from you. YOU are the boss, not your girls. They are NOT your friends.
2007-10-02 02:45:35 · answer #6 · answered by CC 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If she is in college then you have no choice or control over what she does.
2007-10-02 02:46:18 · answer #7 · answered by godsynthesis 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
what about sending her to military school? they teach you more than school would. they will teach her respect, discipline, and manners.
2007-10-02 03:04:40 · answer #8 · answered by lidakamo 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋