im 18 years old,i want to move away from my parents and not be under their authority anymore,is that bad?

Question

i don't want to be around them,or see them or be subject to them.i have been so unhappy since i was 8 years old living in this house and feel resentment that they still feel they are more adult then i am.My father is incredibly immature and my mother excessively cleans every day and screams at me if i decide to go for a shower at night or some such thing.I know for a concrete fact i am more intelligent then they are and yet im still spoken down to.I feel all of this really constricts my growth as a person,causing me to regress.I dont mind having adults to look up to,but my parents i know are never going to be my heroes,i don't respect them,they had no idea how to parent and left me suffering depression for half my life.imi want to be around the adults who i admire and revere in college ie.my lecturers and learn how to be and who to be from them,people who treat me with respect and let me feel i have potential to achieve anything i want to.is it wrong that i don't want to be around my

parents anymore?i feel like i can't grow because of them!!what will i do?i really don't like them,the psychological and emotional aspects of parenting were completely neglected by them,i had food and shelter and comfort but as for everything else,they may as well not have been in my life at all!

is that a very cold thing to say?

god take away all my worries...you're a bit small minded ,paltry and bit of a fool aren't you?

they haven't had more life experience then me,only in very narrow spheres.my mother has always been in the home and my father works in music,outside of that they know nothing much.they married at 21,my father sees kids and all that malarky as an obligation,not as a thing he wanted or people to really,telling me last week about my sister that 's h i t' happens ie. insinuating that she was a mistake,that he would prefer a different life to what he has!i was molested by my bro when i was a child.i dont think its immature that i speak about them like this,sometimes people do have sincere reasons for disliking their parents you know?

okay now im resenting yahooers that peg me with 'tut tut tut stereotypical teenager'.i don't listen to their advice because i don't trust their judgement on certain matters,mostly because they were so lazy,misdirected and undecisive about raising children instead of being as termed in psychology 'authoratative'.They did do their best,they came from childhoods in which the real affection and attention was surely lacking and so that's how they parented.without ever 30 years later revising any of their parenting methods.If i have a child it will be done the correct way.they raised me thoughtlessly and carelessly.I don't listen to their advice because it assumes that they are in the right and its undermining as it indicates that i certainly couldn't be responsible for myself.I don't listen to their advice because they feel they have to say it very often because it makes them feel like an adult and important.its not about me,its them to compensate for their unlived lives!.

carl jung says,'nothing so disturbs a child then the unlived life of the parents'

i have every intention in the world of being a responsible person and adult and not making stupid lackadaisacal choices.i want to do things the right way and take care of my priorities,im not some silly rebellious teen,im quite a deep thinker and a moral person and i try to understand my motivations etc and in this case i think i am in the right and in some aspects,most notably my horizons i have surpassed them,unfortunately,im not being a snob but its the truth!

Answer 1

What are you waiting for? If you are that intelligent you wouldn't need us to tell you what you already know! Just go!

Answer 2

You better believe the police would help you and gladly. Your 18 so that money is yours and they can make it so they can't bother you at work either. You just need to realize your on your own. Make sure to finish school. Your going to need an education if your on your own from this point on. I would suggest some further education if you can handle it, to help you make ends meet when things get more expensive and you go on your own. I think you'll be fine. I won't say it's gonna be easy but it is possible. This is not going to be easy on either you or your parents but in time when they see you have become a successful adult they will more than likely loosen up. Holidays will be weird though, as you may not be invited for the first 10 years until they finally grow up and reality HITS THEM!

Answer 3

No. It is not bad. Until you learn exactly how the world works and then realize that it is cheaper and more economical to live at home then it is on your own. And as you age you also learn how much your parents learned when you were on you own, which is another way of saying how much you have learned that they already knew, but you wouldn't listen. You had your mind made up your whole life and never listened to what they were telling you. Then, out on your own, you realize that all that stuff you kept out of your head because you didn't want to listen is true and you should have listened better. It wasn't them keeping you down, it was your own stupidity that was keeping you down and you are just now learning it, now that you are on your own. Do you think they will take you back? In my opinion, that is the problem with a lot of kids, they think their parents are so backward and fuddy-duddy, then 'they' get out into the real world and find out how much they don't know or how to go about understanding, then they begin to understand that their parents knew all of this all along having done it themselves.

Answer 4

i know exactly how you feel, i felt like i was reading my life story just then. im 18 too and never got on very well with my parents, i had a bad childhood and resent them for it, i cant stand being around them and cant wait until i can afford to move out and never have to see them again. you are legally classed as an adult so they cant stop you from doing anything. if you have somewhere you can go and you can afford to etc, then theres no reason why not. if you are unhappy there then its not fair on you to keep living like that, you need to be enjoying your life. you never know it may be the best thing you do and might make you closer with your parents once you arent around them all the time. if i had the chance i would take it myself. think it through carefully though as it can sometimes have disasterous consequences. good luck i hope it all works out.

Answer 5

Whether you like your parents or not, you should still respect them. They may not know better, and are doing things the best way they know how. It's not wrong of you at age 18 to want to live on your own. Can you handle it financially? If you can make your own way, feel free; don't move and expect them to support you in any way. Make sure you can pay for your education and survive before you make that decision. Don't cut them off altogether, either. As you get older, you'll see things from a different perspective than you do now. Good luck.

Answer 6

We can't choose our parents. Some are better at raising children than others. You are of legal age to leave and from what you describe, I think you should. You will get a new perspective on life and start enjoying it more.

I would advise this. Don't leave angry. At some point in the future you may realize that they did the best they could. Even if that was not as good as it should have been.

Answer 7

If you feel able to cope with the adult world and are ready to take on the responsibily, then no it's not wrong to want to move out. I left home when I was 16 and it was the best move I ever made. Nobody but you can make such life changing decisions, so make it and live with the consequences.

Answer 8

There's nothing wrong with you for feeling this way. Some people aren't blessed with the best parents. I'm personally very familiar with that bc I'm one of them such as yourself. The fucked up thing is that no matter how you feel about them.. they're still your mom and dad. I know there are ppl out there who say that since they don't behave as moms and dads should they AREN'T. but I think you're the type of person who feels conflicted bc on one hand you feel like they're ruining your life but on the other hand you desperately want them to change and treat you differently. As in, you wish you didn't have to leave them and cut them off. maybe I'm wrong but either way.... no it isn't bad to want to move away from your parents.

Answer 9

if i was you i would go. i left home when i was 16 my mum was a clean freak and if i made toast after 6 she went mad at me cus everything had to be in place. its not fair i got married and pregnant very young just to get away. I have a good relationship with my mum now i think just some people cannot live with there mother! I certainly couldnt. I hope your ok and have a job and get a place of your own. Even though i was broke i still was happier away from my mum!

Answer 10

Get a decent job and a flat and move out.
It isn't worth you being unhappy. See if you can move in with another relative or a friend. I am sure you'll flourish in different surroundings. You may even be able to free yourself from depression, or at least talk about your problems to people who will listen instead of brushing them aside.
Good Luck x

Answer 11

Is your incredibly immature father and excessively clean mother paying for your tuition? Because if they are you might be sorry by moving out if you do not have a scholarship/s or financial aid that will pay for your education. Also be prepared to work to survive while going to school. If you are not wanting to be under their authority anymore, then you should not expect any monetary support from them either.