Family - October 2007

tell my biological father to get lost without being rude? Recently, I've run into my biological father(it's not like he was around long enough to be considered a real father to me) who I hadn't seen in 15 or 16 years(I'm 20). He's trying to re-connect with me, but I am at the point where I don't care anymore. I don't want to be rude though and tell him to get lost. It also doesn't help that I see him just about everyday. He talks to me, but I tend to tune him out while at the same time try to make it seem like I'm paying attention.

How can I get him to understand that I don't need him?

2007-10-31 01:47:47 · 11 answers · asked by Usagi's Twin; HAJI IS MINE! 4

i live with my mum n 2 sisters 1 stil in school the other divorced mum does not work am the only one working so i ve assumed the role of a bread winner i feel burened i cant do anything for myself i dont earn enough am just confusedl

2007-10-31 01:46:39 · 8 answers · asked by tush 1

i am 17. i dont have a boyfriend but all i want to do is have a baby. i live at home and both my parents would love a grandchild as they coulddnt have more children after me due to complications. we have a large beautiful house perfect to bring a child up in. i have £80,000 inheritance for us to live on.

what do you think is there any opinions about this.
i may wait about year im not sure.

2007-10-31 01:44:35 · 32 answers · asked by Zalia 1

I am torn between spending Christmas lunch with my family or my boyfriend. My boyfriend can't come to my family for Christmas, he needs to be with his family as his sister is coming over to the UK from Chicago and they don't get together very much. He has invited me to Christmas lunch too. We've been together for a year. Both our families are small, though mine is increasing as one of my brothers is now married with children.

However, my other brother says I am selfish as I should be spending Christmas lunch with my family and see my boyfriend on Christmas Eve instead. I can't make him understand that my boyfriend is important, he is the person that I am going to start a family with, and of course I want to spend Christmas with him.

Whatever I do, I can't win!

2007-10-31 01:20:40 · 11 answers · asked by Picky Bird 1

My daughter had a troubled adolescence. She messed up, made some bad mistakes and we, especially I, had to be harsh. For some time I had to ground, had to take aaway almost everything, sometimed had to sat some hard words to make her awake. Sometimes I had to tell her I couldn't trust her, thgough she asked for my trust. I agre she went through some hard periods, until she grew up and got responsible. She turned out to be a grat young adult, is 24,graduated, has a job, very respected as a person and as a professional. But hates me, says I was too harsh, destroyed her teen years, doesn't talk me, doesn't even let me in her apartment. She says she wants to forget about everything related to her teen years and I'm closed related to them, A bad and sad memory to her. She' s 24, is about to get married with a guy I hardly know. I did everything to turn her into a responsible girl and she hates me. This is frustrating, sad. And I don't see no chance at all.

2007-10-31 01:05:24 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I simlpy do not want to disapoint her. I never had to deal with something like this.

2007-10-31 00:57:13 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

My son's father has never been in his life. He wasn't there for his birth, and has never seen my child. After two years of searching I finally found an email for him and offered to meet him somewhere that he could meet him and I never got a response. I went after child support and after the DNA test came back I got an email from him. It was the first time I had actually heard from him since I was pregnant. It was insulting, demanding, selfish, and childish, and down right scary. I let several people read it and they all agreed, though there is no out right threat, you can tell that my son is currently nothing but a financial burden and finances are everything to him. I started to worry about the safety of my son and they all agreed, to make sure I wasn’t being paranoid. I emailed him back asking about signing over his parental rights which he jumped at the chance for. I don’t know enough about it and intend on calling a lawyer, however before I do and spend the money I wanted to see if there was anybody out there that knew anything about it. Is it even possible without an adoption? With Child Support is there a settlement amount, will I receive back child support up to the day he signed his rights, or do I never receive a dime. Right now I feel like I am trading my son’s safety and security for money, so I definitely need to look into my options. Thanks

2007-10-31 00:02:47 · 3 answers · asked by katjha2005 5

i want to learn how to do a family tree

2007-10-30 23:19:40 · 6 answers · asked by deb 1

I met my in laws last year for the first time. Everything was good untill I saw pic from my husband and his ex- girlfriend in there house. I thought thats was so disrespectful.

2007-10-30 21:27:07 · 22 answers · asked by Key 1

he doesnt know i know. he has been gay for about 9 years, and my parents are strongly against it (they are devout catholics), they finally told me last year. im fourteen now, and my brother and i have each other as "friends" on myspace. i saw some pics of him and this guy. they were holding each other, and there were some comments about "oh im so happy for you guys" and what not. on his page it says he is in a relationship and he wears a ring on his left ring finger. i am practically convinced he is in a relationship with this guy. my brother shares more with me now than he ever did before. now knowing this information, i feel like a liar. and when my parents ask me "hows lucas" (my brother = lucas) i feel totally dishonest. they dont judge him or hate him because hes gay, but they dont approve either. i dont know if i should tell them or keep it to myself. am i making a mountain out of a mole hill? i dont know. please, tell me what you think and thanks sooo much! =D

2007-10-30 21:00:02 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

Long story short, i havent been able to breathe properly for the past few weeks. Not bad, but just enough to make my chest feel really tight. Yesterday, i asked my mother to take me to see a doctor. She said no, that i was faking it. Today, i was stressed, and actually fainted. No one was home at the time, and I could barely breathe. I asked her again, to take me to the doctor later this afternoon. But no, she refused because there are no physical signs. I don't know what to, im not faking it. I have no reason to fake it, considering im homeschooled, so it's not to get out of school, and i have no job, so it's not to get out of that. I'm really scared about this, and i've talked to her but she refuses to believe me.. What do i do? I have no way of getting to the doctors without her driving me, im only 15. I'm scared something bad will happen..

2007-10-30 20:53:54 · 25 answers · asked by Clarity. 3

im your great aunt Ruth that you only see 3 times a year and ive just died. i was really boring but i gave you chocolate every Easter. my funeral is the same day as your company trip to Hawaii. there will be another one in about a year but you "really, realy wanna go!"
so, what are you going to do?

2007-10-30 20:31:05 · 10 answers · asked by pj_jc_jh 3

I need some advice as i am stuck with this issue. My partner walked out 2 months ago 6 weeks after we bought our first home together, he moved back home to his mother and father.
I was his first girlfriend and the first time he has lived away from the family home, he is nearly 32.
Problem is however i still love him and he wants to reconcile, but how do i reconcile with a man that places more importance on protecting and worrying and fussing over his mother than he does with our relationship..his mother and sister have treated me pretty badly over the last 3 weeks and im not sure i could even or would want to have them in my life again..i find them interfering, needy, manipulative and placing alot of pressure on my partner if they dont see him regularly.
His mother calls him the rock in the family and i always feel that i come 5th best with him, after mother, sister and nieces and nephew as before me he would spend most of his time with his sister and her children. Is this weird?

2007-10-30 19:34:42 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

my brother wants to go out for halloween this year and hes 13 i think hes to old what do you think?

2007-10-30 19:32:01 · 26 answers · asked by josh g 2

2007-10-30 19:31:43 · 6 answers · asked by jose 1

Ok...here's the story...my kid's have lived with their mother for the last 3 years. I've worked every Sunday for the last 5. I now have Sundays off, and I'm wanting to start going back to church. My kids want me to go to their's. I don't believe the same way they do...not sayin they're wrong, but I just don't believe that way. Anywayz...my kids are ages 7,6, and 4, and they're really into their church. How do I tell them I don't wanna go there without upsetting them? Please help me! I don't know what to say!!

2007-10-30 19:15:59 · 7 answers · asked by Ronnie 1

I need some thoughts here. Here is the scenario. Around April I went out of the country to Australia to visit family. When we were there that was alot of family. One man in particular my uncle a very nice guy, I think he was not of my nationality (i know irrelevant) just putting in all details. Has two step kids with my paternal aunt. Anyhow we spent two days there no nights. But when he would play around with my child he would pick him up and joke and say I am going to bite your ear, ur nose etc..NEVER did he mention his peepee or anything sexual. My son was with me the whole time when this uncle was around. Not once did I not no where he was, plus he was still sick from his infection he had from the US, ear infection to. A few days later we were at another relatives hm. Here he stayed with my maternal grandma who came with me from us to australia. There they stayed and her sister in laws house. Ive talked to my grandma and she states she was with him all the time. And the man of the

2007-10-30 19:05:39 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

What is her problem? I'm 18 and in college but she still treats me like a child. I love her but she's really bugging me. She gets mad when I come home late from parties and when I'm drunk. And she's telling me my boyfriend is no good for me just cause he got a DUI and is in jail right now. Plus she gets mad when I have my friends over and she stoops through my things like I'm still in high school or something. Then tells me I'm a bad influence on my younger sisters who are 16 and 13. Why doesn't she realize that I'm grown and I can do what I want?

2007-10-30 18:51:21 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-30 18:15:21 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

My parents are crazy. I got all a's in middle school and it was no problem. Now in hs In my first quarter of freshman year i am getting all b's with one c in all the hardest classes possible. My mom says that i need to work harder but i dont no what else to do. I want to ask her if i could drop down but shes so intimindating and so demanding its like she would see me as a failure. Any ideas how to tell her w/o complete breakdown?

2007-10-30 18:13:43 · 5 answers · asked by mikeyplocky 2

My son and I moved in with my mom after my dad died. But she is driving us f%$*^% crazy. Itought this would help her and us but it only seems to make things worse. Have anyone been in this situation and what would be the best choice? We are getting ready to move in a couple of weeks.

2007-10-30 17:52:33 · 9 answers · asked by sunburned 2

here is the situation being a fourth elder in your family and ur all 8 kids and then your parents wont able to provided the needs or education for your siblings and as and elder sister your help them send them study take care some of thier needs and everything but then some of your siblings didnt study well but to drop thier study and just dont do nothing about thier self but giving more responsiblity to you like getting pregnant without a father and the brother making thier girlfriend pregnant and when they need something they always hands out and if you cant give them they well make you feel bad by saying bad stuff againts you , and saying when they do mistake say dont worry wont ask you help anyway but at the end they well run to you , of course by being older sis even thats your family you feel mad about that bec they saying stuff that they can even stand for and there is a point that u gonna say thats it but then u cant just look them bec they are your family need to help ,

2007-10-30 17:28:23 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

He stole the battery of my out-of-sevice phone, but i use the extra features. He said that he hated the alarm.

I make a little extra noise, he yells at me and starts punching me.

He hid my school stuff on the day that I needed the day and I had to look for it and ended up missing the bus (luckily mum was home to give me a ride).

He is an all around jerk. I'm usually minding my own business when he randomly lunges at me and starts wrestling. My life is becoming a Jerry Springer "Too Hot For TV" DVD.

I don't know if I'll need to start carrying a taser around with me,
If i have to stab him, or kill myself. Because if is suggest therapy to my parents, I'm afraid my brother will beat me.

This is serious people so don't give me stupid answers.

What should I do?

2007-10-30 17:27:52 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

One of my daughters is 23 years old now and since she was a teenager she has marched to the beat of a different drummer. I have always tried to be there for her even if I disagreed inside with the decisions that she was making. (She wasn't into drugs.) But for her, happiness was always just around the next corner... with the next job... or the next boyfriend, or the next opportunity, etc. She has had quite a few of each of them. She has never been able to just be happy. She has been very up or very down. We've tried to get her to counseling, but she doesn't think she needs it. I have always tried to be supportive and positive and be a loving mom and a good example. Now she has broken all ties with her family and moved to a big unfamiliar city 300 miles away from us about two weeks ago - without telling us. We found out by looking at her myspace. She won't communicate with me. I fear that something bad is going to happen to her. My heart is breaking. What should I do?

2007-10-30 17:22:58 · 12 answers · asked by countrygirl 1

My mom is not into her grandkids..she doesnt like when her own kids get along...she only lives 2 blocks away and never sees them... she tells everyone her family doesnt care or love her... even though we all tried to prove otherwise but gave up...Dont feel sorry for me.. we are used to her... The problem is she calls a week before xmas asking what to buy the kids and makes a huge deal out of what SHE bought for xmas... I am not taking her gifts this year am I wrong ?

2007-10-30 17:12:38 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

well if youve read my other questions then you know what im talking about. if not then let me summarize it for you. i moved to minnesota from texas to live with my dad, stepmom, and little brother so i could attend highschool. i thought i would love it up here but my dream did not turn out like so. i have come to the conclusion that i belong in texas and i am going to move back after i complete my freshman year. my dad has even stated that i can move back if i really want too. i probablly dont want to confront him untill after new years that way i can focus on school work. so how should i go about confronting him? im really afraid that his heart will be broken cuz him and i are like best friends. what should i do or say???

2007-10-30 16:01:08 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I just dont know what to do . i am lost and i feel like breaking down and crying. Teenage years are so difficult to go thru..im being dead honest. i need help to make a decision..if any one has AIM (aol instant messenger, talk to me my screen name is princ3ofatl.. annyway damn i just dont know what to do.. the problem is ive been held back in high school for 2 years.. b.c of stress, and i need to escape from all this pain..and the only way is to go to a different country i guess..Pakistan! thats where my whole fam is from.. well ive been there many times actually, i lived there 6 months, and i came back.. but ive made a decision that is i do go there, i wont come back till i am on my line.. meaning in education.. i want to become a dentist, and education there is cheap 2.. anyway,, theres also a boarding school there.. OK OK OK i just dont know how to tell my parents that ive made up my mind.. but i dont know what to say 2 my parents im speechless.. im scared. PLEASE HELP

2007-10-30 15:25:41 · 3 answers · asked by Burhan M 1

Sumtimes you gotta let things go. kinda like watching a balloon fly away from your hand. but once u let go and you let life just place it self how its suppose to be, It makes you think about all what happened to you, sumtimes you cant help but to smile and THANK GOD, that he made it the way he did. Even tho sumtimes it may seem like so much pain. its a part of life you have to learn to get thru. in a way you can say god is testing the limits on our souls. But all you gotta know is that everything that happens, happens to make you who you need to be in life. so forgive all and just let life BE.

2007-10-30 15:19:05 · 11 answers · asked by Diana L 1

just found out that my 16 yearold daughter and my 15 yearold son are having sex with each other...what should i do?

2007-10-30 15:17:52 · 11 answers · asked by Budddons 1

Toxic people ruin the lives around them (or at least try very hard to do so), are miserable people and usually never change.

Do you have one (or both--God forbid!) parent(s) that is a toxic person in your family? How do you deal with them? How have they affected you and your other family members?

The person who gave birth to me (I choose not to call her my mother any longer, she does not deserve that title) is a toxic person that at the age of 79 is one of the most miserable people I know. Age has not mellowed her, it seems to have made her even worse. Basically, I have divorced myself from her as a method of self-preservation.

2007-10-30 15:17:41 · 6 answers · asked by MadforMAC 7