Family - October 2007

My mother in law, is crazy, for real, she has never liked me, cause she says I act like I am better than they are...Which I do NOT...I just have my ways of doing things, and they differ from thiers. Well we have had fight after fight, cause she favors her other grandson over our two kids. She never visits us, gets the kids crap for holidays and such, and we just bought a house, invited them numerous times to come see our new house, and they finally came after 4 months. My hubby wasnt home, so I sat there for an very awkward 15-20 mins. and talked to them and updated them on the kids and thier activities. Well she just sent me an email stating that she wants nothing to do with us "all". How crazy is that???? And with the holidays coming and my daughters birthday is in two weeks and I invited them, and now they want nothing to do with us...the bad part is I did nothing to any of them.... What is the best way to deal with this? and should I respond to the email or ignore it?

2007-10-30 15:01:51 · 16 answers · asked by luv my gsd 1

im 15. my house is loud. i cant sleep. its 2:00 am. i have school. i get up at 6:00. i cant stay up all night, i wont make it. how im crying so hard because im so angry about not sleeping. how can i sleep and i mean now? i want to die. mom will make me to go to. even if im puking or really sick. help

2007-10-30 14:59:35 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

My parents are always sticking up for him, and they see what goes on but do nothing. They yell at me. Im not playing the poor me card either, this is all true. I am nothing but nice to him. I would love nothing more than to physicaly mess his *** up but Im not strong enough. And I know that would just make things worse. Any Ideas? Please help.

2007-10-30 14:57:44 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

tomorrow is halloween
and i spent alot of money on
my halloween costume and i prolly
wont be able to go what should i do please
help

2007-10-30 14:46:33 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

my mom had me check my sisters email , to see what shes been up to, she has recently been stealing off my mother and lieing and my mom just wanted to know. So i gave my mom her pass word and username . Should i feel bad for invading her privacy.

2007-10-30 14:44:32 · 5 answers · asked by LuckY GirL 4

On saturday my sister asked me to babysitt with her (me 14, her 17) they are two kids I think one is an infant and the other is abour 2 or 3, She said we would watch them froma about 10am-10pm. But she said I would be doing evreything becuase she is going to sit around and do homework. But she said that she gets paid and not me. Does that sound fair?

2007-10-30 14:34:15 · 12 answers · asked by ? 5

Ok, my mother in law lives with us (my husband, myself and our daughter). I am ready to do something that I said I would never do, make him choose between our marriage and his mother. She is always in our business, even when we don't ask her advise. She is always trying to tell me what, how, when to raise my daughter. She goes out and buys things that I plan on getting my little one, when I tell her she gets mad. There is so much that goes on I can't even explain in it all in here because it just all won't fit. Another for instance, when the baby gets up n the morning, you can lay her down and tell her she can't get up until daddy is up, she lays back down, my mother in law gets her up and puts her in bed with her and then it causes problems. When I try to talk about my husband tells me I am over reacting and leave it alone. Blames me..sticks up for her. And won't listen to anything I have to say.

What should I do?

2007-10-30 14:30:15 · 8 answers · asked by Just Want To B Me 4

When me and my husband got married I moved out of the city to live with him in a town 40min away. I am a family person, I enjoy being with and doing things with my family.
But whenever I want to go see them my husband always acts like its a pain. I cant see them during the week b/c he's at work and I dont have my full license yet (came from the city, didnt need it there) so i have to wait till the weekend. Meanwhile he has no complaints about his parents coming over or going over to see them whenever (they live 5 min away). Like yesterday he said that he would be ok going over to see my parents tomorrow, he goes to his parents house & comes home & says that we are going over there for dinner tomorrow! he wonders why I am mad.
I hate this, I would like to see my family without my husband giving me a hard time. and i know he wont be up for visiting them on the weekend b/c we've had busy weekends & he wants to relax. He knows how i feel, what should i do?

2007-10-30 14:20:15 · 6 answers · asked by nebthet1 3

my 14 year old daughter hates to read and is in high school that teaches law and requires many books to be read. I have tried to get her to pick a book but she refuses too. This morning she asked me if I would buy her a book, it cost 11 bucks. i was excited that she wanted a book and would read it while commuting to school. well the book is here and I took it away because it was called THUGS AND THE WOMEN WHO LOVE THEM. the cover showed a couple who looked sexual!!
I opened to the middle and the first sentence i read said "HE PUT HIS D##$ INSIDE ME. I shut the book and took it. i cant begin to tell u everything i said to her.

How else should i handle this?

2007-10-30 14:18:32 · 7 answers · asked by Best Mom!! 5

i live at home, but i'm almost never there, i'm 18 and recently i lied to my parents about staying out all night and they grouneded me. i want to if anybody else that is a parent is againist this, i'm an adult i should make my own choices weither they're good or bad. please moms and dads help me out.?

2007-10-30 14:15:01 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

a weed pipe that was recently used(and had the smell of weed) and two pill bottles of Aderol(neither of my parents have conditions that require this) in their closet. What should we do? All of our life our parents have told us not to do drugs, stay pure, use your judgment, ect and now we find this. It makes us look at our parents in a whooolllleee new perspective. Should we keep our knowledge of it as "get out of jail free cards" per se, or just tell them upfront about it? We're shocked.

2007-10-30 13:51:21 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

my mom doesnt care about me she likes my sister and brother more and shes really mean to me. i always cry bcause i hate her so much i want to commit suicide. dont give me any phone numbers to call cause they dont help me.

2007-10-30 13:50:30 · 19 answers · asked by Rhonda S 1

My husband is graduating from college soon and the letter that the school sent out said that no children under five should attend. The only people that I trust with my child are attending this function as well. Should I still consider taking my two year old anyway?

2007-10-30 13:49:23 · 7 answers · asked by †Evonne† 7

Ok well I am in racquetball and my instructor is like 10 years older than me. Well I always feel like he flirts with me. He always tells me he wants me to do pushups and sprints and ONLY ME... there are 4 of us in the class and I am the only girl. Well today I had to play him and he would serve the ball short so I would have to serve in front of him..like he wanted to look at my @.ss or something. He will try not to smile alot when he is around me cuz I can tell by the face he is making. Then after racquetball today he went up on the bleacher things in the gym and laid on them right in front of me and he always stands real close to me and when I am sitting down he will come up to me and put his leg up to tie his shoe. He had a cold sore or something on his lip today and he kept trying to lick it and cover it up w/his hand whenever he would talk to me. I am in college and he is married and has a baby. Does it sound like he kinda likes me?

2007-10-30 13:47:18 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-30 12:58:47 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

So my older brother is mentally ill, it's something where he is jealous of people, and he can't control his emotions or anger, espicially anger.
So he hits (family) people, and he starts getting everything he wants, he misbehaviors
my parents take him to a fitness center (he likes those)
he goes fishing
he gets the pinpong table he wants,
he gets a new desk,
the new computer,
he even got my room,
everything to anything like my only slice of cake.

And I feel like I can't take it anymore, I want to kick him out of the house, I hate him, so much.
Sometimes I ignore him, but he gets me so depressed.
I still have to be in school for 9 hours, then homework, then waking up in at 6 a.m.
Then I have to listen to him, how he wishes that I would have died in my sleep the next morning.
How should I behave infront of him?
What should I Do?

2007-10-30 12:07:58 · 21 answers · asked by ;) 2

We have been divorced for 23 years! He is not in the US and wants to become a citizen and wants my help. However here is the problelm. He never paid one dime in child support and me and his child suffered. Well, I don't know how much my child suffered becasue I never let him. I bought my clothes from a second hand store to give him the best I could. My parents had passed away at the time and I was sooo alone.
Am I wrong to tell him that if he wants my help now he has to repay for all the suffering we went through? This is a real question and please only honest answers.

2007-10-30 11:24:14 · 6 answers · asked by luteachris 4

My boyfriend and I have been together for over 4 years and we are talking about moving in together. He has full custody of his kids, his daughter is 7 and his son is 5. We have decided to take this very slow with me spending more time there over the next few months then eventually moving my stuff in and getting rid of my apartment. We've talked to the kids about this and his son is fine with it but his daughter is not. She thinks that I'm going to take away time with her Dad and she still thinks that her Mom and Dad should be together. They've been divorced for awhile now and she has spent more time with her Dad then her Mom. I told her that was not going to happen (taking time away from her Dad) and that I want to move in so we can all be a family. But she is still not liking the idea. I'm assuming that this is normal when a "step parent" moves in. Has anyone been through this and how did you deal and help the kids deal with the changes?

2007-10-30 11:23:36 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

She is rude, spoiled, smokes and does weed. I don't want her in my home but i also don't like lecturing her because she's rude. My daughter doesn't want her because they had a big fight and someone called the police. I agreed to have her for one week but I don't know how I can bear it. She's so manipulative and she's stolen from my house. I don't know how to put with her because being nice doesn't seem to change her. She curses whenever she doesn't get what she wants. I made it clear that I won't have any weeds or drugs in the house and she can smoke OUTSIDE if she wants. She won't listen to me and I am not about to get physical because i never hit any of my children. Also, she's sixteen.

2007-10-30 11:17:09 · 50 answers · asked by Anonymous

He can be adorable and sweet or very manipulative and opositional.
I cannot always react positively.
How can I control myself?

2007-10-30 11:15:15 · 2 answers · asked by ADHDMUM 2

my mom currently has two kids that were taken out their home due to neglect. the kids have recently started going to back to home for over the weekend visits, they come dirty and smell like smoke etc... there is so much more the story that i dont have room to type. my mom has tried to get her voice heard, but no one is listening. they all just blow her off like her compliants are not important. she has tried to complain about the social worker on the case but nothing is getting done. who would she go to, or write, or contact to go to someone who will listen and take action for the kids and her? anyone with any help would be useful

2007-10-30 10:51:00 · 2 answers · asked by Natasha T 1

im sick of moving and everytime i get settled in we move!!! >=(
wat should i do im moving bak 2 where i came from and im gonna see all my old ppl'z but wat about my new ppl'z?

wat should i do?

2007-10-30 08:54:40 · 3 answers · asked by StuffedOlive 2

everything is negative about him, he was never like this in the beginning and now that we are getting further in our relationship he gets worse. he acts like a kid and he is 28 years old and i'm 22. we have a son together. he complains of the house always needing to be clean when he gets home, he gets disgusted of me, when he is clearly the pig of the family, he has a bad temper, he is always yelling at me for no reason, he never repeats what he has to say. he gets mad at any little thing. he get aggravated when our son cries and then he blames me for it. we have been together for 3 years. and i'm tired of him treating me like i'm lower than him. and to add he like to hurt me. he plays rough with me and i think he does that to take his anger out. i need advice should i get out or should he get help? and plus i told him that i don't love him anymore. but i stay cuz i have nobody to turn to and i don't have a place to stay, i have no money and i don't work and stay at home with my son.

2007-10-30 08:05:39 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

I understand that she is young but she acts more like a 7 year old than a 10 year old and in fact my 7 year old daughter is more responsible than she is. She forgets her things at school. She lies all the time. She's just an all around mess. I'm a single mom and I try my best to be supportive and helpful and anything else she needs but she is just not returning the favor.

2007-10-30 08:04:30 · 5 answers · asked by Rin 3

We took in a stray dog 11 years ago. A neighbor had found him and spent days finding the owner and couldn't. We were looking for a dog for our family and decided to help her out also. The dog had obviously been abused, he crouched when anyone tried to pet him. We named him Kramer. We found out soon afterwards Kramer is epileptic. We decided to keep him anyway, though the two medicines he needs runs about $40/month and we must visit his neurologist once a year. A few years ago we were told he has a thyroid condition, so now he takes 3 medicines a day.

The problem is: he is so much work. Because of his seizures, we have to keep an eye on him 24/7. When he seizures, he can't control his tongue so he tries to eat our carpets. We put him outside, so he pulls at the grass until the seizure stops. A few times he got to our carpets before we could stop him, so they needed repair. The medicine keeps his seizures to around 3 a month, without the meds it would be 3 a week.

2007-10-30 07:52:30 · 7 answers · asked by Maureen S 3

I need some opinions here. I haven't spoken to my dad in 4 years, because I lost touch with him on purpose. It's a long story but basically my dad did me really wrong my entire childhood. I realized one day I didn't love him and that he's in my life only because he is my dad, no other reason. He made things this way. I have been his secret love child for years and I am not taking it anymore. I am tired of being hidden from his family and friends. I have a 4 year old child that he doesn't know about and I do not have it in my heart to allow him to meet my son. He found my info through the internet and called me yesterday, he sounds like he wants to talk to me, but I don't want to talk to him. I am thinking I should just write him a letter explaining why I cannot continue pretending everything is ok, and that I no longer want contact with him. Is this cowardly? I really don't want to talk to him and it's too late to work anything out, but I think closure is needed.

2007-10-30 07:42:57 · 21 answers · asked by Bee Biscuits 6

Okay I wan tto transfer from Johnson and Wales (Almost 20000 tuition) to NC STATE (3500 tuition and 7000 R&B)

NCS is a better school, Infact its the best school in my state that offers my major, and its ranked on the top schools in the nation list.

but he just can't get it through his head that a cheaper school can be better then a more expensive school

2007-10-30 07:42:27 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

I get so many different answers when people see us . Here 2 pics of me and hubby http://i56.photobucket.com/albums/g196/purekittyluv/2006ChristmasParty099.jpg and http://i56.photobucket.com/albums/g196/purekittyluv/10yearreunion-1.jpg

These are our kids: http://i56.photobucket.com/albums/g196/purekittyluv/JordanandDrake.jpg and http://i56.photobucket.com/albums/g196/purekittyluv/DrakeStanding.jpg


my husband's friends and family think they look like him but all my friends and family think they look like me. And I've heard they look like both of us. And I've heard me and my husband look like brother and sister. We do have alot of same features like the shape of our feet lol

who do u think they look like?

2007-10-30 07:32:20 · 13 answers · asked by Cutie 3

Here's one of several that I have. I was 7 and went shopping with my dad...we weren't very well off back then (he was a PhD student) and money was REALLY tight...I wanted this set of very expensive special crayons and I looked up hopefully at my dad who said: "Do you really need them?" I nodded. So he bought them for me. I felt a little bit guilty after that, so I said, "Sorry I made you buy them." But he smiled (but now I know it was a brave act for me) and replied he didn't mind, if it made me happy. Now I understand that he would've had to scrimp and pinch and cut back on his own wants....just to satisfy mine.

Maybe it doesn't seem like such a significant thing, but it always seems to enter my mind whenever I fight with my parents, and it dispels all my anger.

2007-10-30 07:28:48 · 10 answers · asked by Refaat 2

My sister has three kids a boy 18 a girl 13 and a boy 7 all from different dads who were all no good one in the pub all the time whent to work and never gave anyone any money. and one who was a low life. and her 7 year old kids dad liked to run my sisters life and his mum did to. And then she met a nice boy but his mum ruled the kingdom. she has just been out with a man who has a girl and he tells her of all the time and my sister was comeing home from work and makeing there tea so they were haveing three meals all the time. and she was fed up of him shouting at his girl all the time so she told him and he told her she can do what she likes. do you think she will find the right guy soon?

2007-10-30 06:19:52 · 3 answers · asked by Phillip K 1