Family - October 2007

[I will make up names] my friend is American his name is Mark, he has a baby with a women who is Mexican, Carla. Their baby is Mark Jr. So Mark has been a responsible father, he lives in San Diego, CA and visits his son frequently at Tijuana, Mexico where Carla lives with her family. (Mark&Carla are not together as a couple anymore) Mark brings food, toys, clothes, you name it to Carla's home for baby Mark Jr. THE PROBLEM is Carla is refusing to let Mark bring Mark Jr. over to San Diego. Mark Jr. already has all the legal papers, like his birth certificate and his passport to come over the US. Doesn't my friend have the right to tell Carla "By law I'm allowed to bring the baby with me over to San Diego"???? I mean my friend Mark wants to bring Mark Jr. over to San Diego for a day because of a family celebration, it's not like he's taking away the baby forever. How can I help my friend find out his legal rights so that he can make Carla understand he has rights too.

2007-10-28 23:19:06 · 5 answers · asked by 101 2

Im so rubbish at feeling guilty for everything. For example:me and my boyfriend are really happy and i know he and i have a future but whever we argue i always feel guilty, like im gonna push him away or he will love me less. I have this vision of being a perfect girlfriend. I told him this last night and he said it was really silly and that he would never change how he felt about me over and argument, but its not just with him its lots of things. And its usually to the people im closest to that i feel gulity the most.
I know this is not normal and i need some advice on snapping out of it so i dont punish my little brain anymore!!!

2007-10-28 22:46:26 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've caleld my kittens Mr Bradford and Lord pepperton as he has a pepper mark on his leg and wiegh a ton, my brother said its embarrassing whenever I call for them, he asked why they couldn't have been named something better. I like the names and I'm only a young 13 girl, do you think he's just being mean or playing with me as he normally does.

2007-10-28 22:16:53 · 17 answers · asked by Indiana Valencia-Aliesha 1

ok so my family fights alot and my sister moved out of the house at 17 to live with this very hard core christian family everything was fine for the first couple of months until little by little she started kicking us out of her life.now almost 2 years later my other sister has recently had a baby and the sister who movedout wasn't there the day he was born or for the baby shower. she called my best friend's cell and left a message asking to talk to her and then th next day she called my friend a liar when the message is still on my freinds phone. we had a terrible fire this week in sandiego and she didn't even bother to call us to see if we were ok or offer a place to stay. we had to stay with my friend and her family for almost a week. we would call her but she wont give us her phone number. i finally confronted her about it and i addmit it was a little rude the way i did it but ive tried being nice about the whole situation.

i need to know am i in the wrong about the situation?

2007-10-28 21:51:40 · 3 answers · asked by Lost angel of music 2

TWO YEARS AGO MY SISTER GOT HER KIDS TAKEN AWAY FROM BEING A DRUG ABUSER AND I HAVE HAD HER YOUNGEST SINCE WELL KNOW SHE HAS A COURT DATE IN DECEMBER AND IM PRETTY SURE SHES GONNA GET HIM BACK SINCE WEVE WORKED SO HARD TO GET HER CLEAN,..WELL MY QUESTION IS WHEN TAX SEASON COMES AROUND SHOULD I BE ABLE TO CLAIM HIM SINCE I SUPPORTED HIM ALL YEAR OR SHOULD SHE GET THE MONEY I KINDA SCARED TO BRING IT UP BECAUSE I DONT WANT TO FIGHT ABOUT IT OR END UP FELLING ASHAMED ANY SUGGESTIONS? thanks:)

2007-10-28 20:06:17 · 6 answers · asked by ♥Jes.♥ 2

we're are the same gender

2007-10-28 19:50:46 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm single dad rasing my son,last weekend I let my son spend overnight visit in my grandparents.To my great sadness,they superceded my life on owning a puppy.......they take my son to petshop and buy him a puppy.that night,they let my son sleep with puppy in the same bed and so I have to take puppy to my home.I really feel like I have been insulted by them,they give my son a puppy without even telling me first!
now I'm in real trouble
If I keep the puppy,I'll have no time to take care of two babys at the same time,Besides,my parents will think about how stupid I am to return their gifts for grandson.....
But if I return the puppy as I thought moments ago,that poor little animals be given to others as presents, My refustion to have him near might lead to cruel violence directed at him again.And I'll be totally monster in my son's eyes,he'll hate me for his life.I can't break his heart....
No matter what we do,I gonna hurt someone...
I really need help here,please......

2007-10-28 19:15:54 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a stepbrother that beat up her girlfriend last weekend, and my stepmother is asking me to call and appologize to her on behalf of the family. But I'm not sure its a good idea because I shouldn't be apologizing to her cause its their relationship. I don't know what went on and its kind of akward to aproach her. I'm ashamed of what my stepbrother did ? And I can't look at her and see her bruises that he caused. I told my step mother that we shouldn't be inbetween them we should lay off and let them take care of their differences but she insist that I call or see her.

2007-10-28 19:15:18 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

Do you guys know of any web sites where my family all across the US can go and talk and email and chat and stay intouch share pictures and stuff?? And have a address book where we can know if someone moved?

2007-10-28 19:13:28 · 5 answers · asked by Shannan M 2

Long story short, my new sister-in-law got into this family because she got pregnant. I grew up in a family that you did not have a child out of wedlock and I believe many others have the same morales Anywho, I was very quiet during the weekend of their shotgun wedding (something that is not common to me) and I mentioned it to a couple of family members that I did not approve of this.
So now it has blow up into a huge fiasco and I got a letter from her basically preaching her SUPER christianity, how I needed to go to church, and pretty much stating that I needed to go to counseling. This letter made me FURIOUS but my husband asked me to write an apology letter which I did. In it I stated that I apologized for expressing my feelings that weekend. She and her husband stated that it was not a real apology. My husband wants me to write another letter but I feel that I did not do anything wrong and that one letter was not enough. Am I in the wrong? My hub is bf with his bro but I hate her

2007-10-28 18:51:50 · 12 answers · asked by Eve R 2

If you had just one more day to spend with a loved one who has passed on how would you spend it? What would you do and what would you say?

2007-10-28 18:04:05 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I do think it was a good decision, he didnt obide by the judge, getting a job straightening himself out, staying away from drugs. he was smoking marijuana, which indeed is a drug. but I am having trouble with myself dealing with him there. feeling down alot and trying to cope with the rest of my family needs.. does anyone go to any groups that might help me?. I live n buffalo NY. thanks for your time.. he is sentenced for 4 months the holidays will be hard for us and his girlfriend because of his not thinking.. thanks for listening

2007-10-28 17:12:46 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

I live in Gympie and he lives in Kilcoy. And he is with a sixteen year old. That I don't trust mind you.

2007-10-28 16:57:43 · 5 answers · asked by Jazzy Angel 1

My biggest dream is to become a pastry chef, not a glamorous one, just a happy semi-successful pastry chef. I love to make desserts, its like art and it makes me and others SO happy. I make cakes from home for fun. But the problem is my parents have always viewed me as the "smart kid" the one with a "good future." When i told them i was leaning away from psychology and toward baking, they nearly passed out. But what confuses me is they've always taught me to do what makes me happy, not rich. I live in the central valley CA so theres not much opportunity for a pastry chef. But i want it so bad, i want to get started while im young and can always change my mind. How do i convince my parents how serious i am? And where do i get my foot in the door to begin with??? Tech schools costs 10s of 1000s of dollars, i cant do that.

2007-10-28 16:56:56 · 23 answers · asked by ana 1

My daughter has never seen anything like that from me and my husband but she was defending her dad and saying he hit her step mom cause she wouldnt listen I am very worried the impression this is leaving with her my daughter is 9 my son is 11 what should I do?

2007-10-28 16:42:07 · 12 answers · asked by sashaaspen 4

Recently, I discovered that my son is blaming me for everything from a broken toe nail to not being a good mother. He claims I was never there for him. Should I let him get all of his angry off his chest or tell him to get over it?

2007-10-28 16:41:13 · 4 answers · asked by Coca C 1

i ******* hate my family!! esspasialy my dad all he does is eat, sleep and go to work and he barly does anything there! he is a ******* pervert he always thinks its ok for him to talk to me about certain stuff but its not! I hate him. iv told him that. iv ran away nothing seems to work its like hes out to get me or somthing. When he gets mad he chases, puncehes, or throws things...CHILD ABUSE and i told him that i wanted to talk to a councelior and say that what he does is wrong but no the moment i start saying i want to leave he gets all lovey dovey then the next minute he turns around and ******* gets all pissy its like everything i do around this house ill get in trouble for it. my parents say they want me to get my grades up or i cant do anything but its hard to focus on school when you have all these problems at home! sombody please help me!

2007-10-28 16:26:26 · 33 answers · asked by JessicaBomb[; 1

My Mother only cares for her self. She is very selfish and money hungry. She is 69 years old and wants her children to take care of her. She has never been there for her children, never told them she loves them, only calls them for money or when she needs something. You know how hard it is to buy a Mothers Day Card. I haven't spoken to her in 2 years because she is a horrible mother. She takes but has never given. I just don't want anything to do with her. Sometimes I feel guilty feeling this way. How do you get through the pain of an awful childhood and make your Mother understand that you do not want to be used anymore?

2007-10-28 15:44:05 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

we have a 20mth old child together
he hits on me not the baby
he only hits me when hes frustrated at the world
and when i dont do what he says on his time
i am so confused
i dont have supportive family
his family are always there for me, from the mother to the cousins
i am staying with his parents because my mother want the house to herself
she dont want any children there
my fathers got sent to jail because he accidentally cut my mother
and my aunts and uncles, cousins
dont keep in contact
i just started a new job
and i pray they wont give me nightshift because who's going to watch the baby overnight and take him to school in the morning
i just want anyone, somebody to tell me the GODLY!! WAYS TO GO ABOUT THIS. IF ITS NOT GODLY, PLEASE DONT REPLY......TO ALL GOD BLESS
And most of all he wont admit he has aproblem
what should i do?

2007-10-28 15:26:36 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

He's not leaving me alone and right now he is reading this Qustion what can i do to get him out of my hair???

2007-10-28 12:36:51 · 7 answers · asked by Blondie 2

Some of the papers are old like from the 90's, I know I can get rid of that. What about the stuff from 2000 up to the present?

2007-10-28 11:58:14 · 19 answers · asked by ? 3

I wanna make my mom and dad pissed.. cuz they make me mad.. there has to be something I can do that will look like I've won and the've lost

2007-10-28 11:48:55 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

She's so hard on me. She literally thinks that everything I do is wrong and she's even said it to my face before. She favouritizes my sister and will always side with her in an arguement. I'm never good enough for her and she's always telling me that I should love her for everything she's done for me but all I can ever remember is the mean things she's done to me. She barely lets me hang out with my friends and never lets me go to sleepovers. She never lets me buy new stuff and always says I don't need it even if she had just bought my sister the same thing when she needed it less than I did. She expects me to live the way she did in the 60s and she's more stubborn than a mule and extremely opinionated. She always makes me feel horrible and stupid. And if I don't bother her at all, she says that I don't spend enough time with the family even though she just yells at me when I do. My dad goes by my mom's rules and my sister doesn't care or understand because she's mom's favourite. Help

2007-10-28 11:15:11 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have an older sister who's about to graduate college, and my parents aren't dealing with it very well. She's good at every little thing and she's getting a boatload of internships; she pretty much has her pick.

Of course, I have all her talents and stuff, but they must have gotten dulled during the 6 years between my sister and I. But now that I'm nearing 14, my parents feel that they have to treat me like a child. For example, my bedtime is at 9:00, I'm not mature enough to not have bangs (although it irritates my forehead acne) and they still enjoy buying me sugary cereals (which is kinda inconvenient; I'm trying to watch my weight) and children's toys. Before my sister started going to college, I had a normal bedtime, and other normal things. But I just think that they're never going to let me go to college, which is what happened between my mother and her parents.

My dad is fully supportive, but it's my mom who's having problems. I don't care about me, but what about them?

2007-10-28 10:52:48 · 3 answers · asked by ♥♥PinkFuzzySocks34♥♥ 3

I'm a (fairly) successful single guy about 35. About a year ago, my mother made a list of every cent she gave me after 18 (including college), added interest, then sent me the bill. It's not that she needs the money especially since she's on a trust fund all her life. Lately, her age is showing and she's really wanting to get back into my life (but the bill still stands). I don't hate her, but have excluded her over the past few years because I put her in the "no value added" category. My father left at an early age, so he's no issue. Am I wrong?

2007-10-28 10:47:23 · 9 answers · asked by Radman 3

I Love Her To Death and I don't Want this to happen.It's like my life is over.

2007-10-28 10:33:49 · 7 answers · asked by Mercedes G 1

A week after I started college, my sister-in-law was in a car accident. My brother refused to leave her side, so I brought their four small children (ages 5, 3, and twins 1yr) to stay with me. Two weeks later, she dies. My brother was suppose to have been flying back home to CA to tell her family (we're in TN now), but no one has heard from him. He's taken off, its been weeks since I've heard from him. My parent's are out of the country for at least the next four months. I'm also responsible for my 15yr old little sister. I just turned 18 in Sept. I have no friends nor family this side of the country, so I'm on my own. My school work has been difficult to juggle. I'm still doing well in most of my classes, as I've been able to talk with my teachers... all but my math professor. I have trouble showing up for the 8am class, so I'm failing. I've written her many times, but she hasn't responded. I've been blown off when I tried to talk to her in person. What should I do?

2007-10-28 10:28:48 · 10 answers · asked by Eris 2

i'm scared to tell my parents, because my brother says that they will never believe me. i really feel bad about this. he started doing this last year when i turned 14, i'm afraid that maybe its my fault because i didn't say anything then.

2007-10-28 10:26:31 · 11 answers · asked by Nikki 1

she be saying negative stuff and always be nosey. i dont not like being around her at all i know iam wrong try to avoid being with my aunt it just she say what are you doing ,always being nosey around me and my mom. i like when she a work. me and my mom live with my aunt.

2007-10-28 10:26:20 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am 13 & I've been having problems with my mom lately. She's always in a bad mood, and she's always yelling at me for something. I tried talking to her, but she is NOT the type of person who sits down and talks things out. Unlike other moms who just calmly tell their kids the problem, my mom will blow up on me, then refuse to talk to me for a few days. Her behavior has been really bad over the past year. I know she's getting put under a lot of pressure since my dad's drinking problem has worsened over the past few years, plus she works the midnight shift at work. My mom is always screaming and cursing at me if I don't do something right, and sometimes she will hit me if she's really pissed. I feel bad because my mom blames me and she says I'm the one who causes all of the family problems.

Several of my aunts and cousins have even said that she needs anger management. I understand that she's probably under alot of stress because of my dad, but I just can't take it anymore.

2007-10-28 08:48:07 · 15 answers · asked by Elle . 2