Recently, I discovered that my son is blaming me for everything from a broken toe nail to not being a good mother. He claims I was never there for him. Should I let him get all of his angry off his chest or tell him to get over it?
2007-10-28 16:41:13 · 4 answers · asked by Coca C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
the words "get over it" can sometimes be more painful then
what is really bothering them.
Just say, ok go ahead I accept the blame if it will make you feel better. you know I love you and being a parent required on the job training. I'm not perfect and I'm doing the best I can.
p.s. teenage boys anger for no reason. It's like PMS in girls.
don't say that to him...trust me.
2007-10-28 16:46:12 · answer #1 · answered by mishpocha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that teenage boys go through the hormonal heebie-jeebies just like girls.
They have trouble sleeping so they also have trouble getting up in the morning. They have these hormonal surges that add an inordinate amount of aggressiveness to the cauldron... so it is a good idea to keep them interested in sports so they can burn that off.
Don't take anything on the chin from him. Don't put up with any aggressive behavior from him. This is the time when they are most likely to get into some real rebellion, so you really have to step-up your parenting skills to get across the values they need to get along in the world... even if you have to take a belt to his fanny to do it. I would liken this phase to training a pit-bull dog.
2007-10-29 00:04:26 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him get over himself. those little things like the broken toe nail is not your fault, tell him he better be glad he has a mom as good as you and hasn't dropped his butt at an orphanage, tell him to watch the news, see all the people on there that kill there kids, you were never do that to him and you love him, and say whatever I did to make you so mad at me i'm sorry, but you're going to get over it right now, and if he smarts off tear that "A" up! lol.
2007-10-29 01:02:35 · answer #3 · answered by Ask Phoebe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to find out why he is saying these things. I don't believe you need to be a target for all his unresolved needs. Find out exactly what he is saying and listen to him empathically. If he starts getting angry and shouting etc. then tell him you can't stay and listen to this.
2007-10-29 00:25:24 · answer #4 · answered by curiouscanadian 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋