I do think it was a good decision, he didnt obide by the judge, getting a job straightening himself out, staying away from drugs. he was smoking marijuana, which indeed is a drug. but I am having trouble with myself dealing with him there. feeling down alot and trying to cope with the rest of my family needs.. does anyone go to any groups that might help me?. I live n buffalo NY. thanks for your time.. he is sentenced for 4 months the holidays will be hard for us and his girlfriend because of his not thinking.. thanks for listening
2007-10-28 17:12:46 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Thank goodness it's jail for 4 months, and not prison for 2 years.
Yes. It's hard. And hopefully this will be a wake up call for your son. In the meantime, you can find ways to help him when he gets out by taking care of yourself. I would highly recommend Al-Anon -- for you and your son's girlfriend. And it sure wouldn't hurt for your son to attend Narcotics Anonymous when he is released.
I know the holidays will be hard. Stay strong, for yourself and for your son.
2007-10-28 17:33:20 · answer #1 · answered by tracy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brother went to jail for 3 years because he was doing drugs and not paying attention to how things were going at the business... he was in sales, but "took the fall" because the people he worked for didn't follow through on providing services. It was a mess.
Truth is, a lot of people don't wake up to the fact that they are in peril until something like losing their freedom comes into play.
Your son was told the consequences and chose his path. Be glad that he didn't kill himself or anyone else while under the influence. Consider this "tough love" to get him back onto the straight and narrow. He will have some trouble getting a good-paying job with this on his record, but once employed, he must do everything he can to build himself up.
We live in a society in which there are ample opportunities for the kids to learn things "the hard way" if they choose to prolong their childhood. If you have any doubt about that, just start answering questions on these Yahoo Answers forums.
2007-10-28 17:25:52 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry that you have to deal with this. He only got 4 months and this time when he comes out, he should get his life straight. Prison is no place to be. Some people get 12 years for doing drugs. You should look up some groups where you can talk to other people who have relatives in prison and also you can always go to a psycholgists/ counselor to talk to help you cope during this diffcult time.
2007-10-28 17:20:35 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a time for tuff love.
You cope by letting him know that this is hard on you too and that you hope that he gets his life together in four months.
Dont have any guilt about his. if he is going to jail for four months then he is obviously an adult.
as an adult, he made choices.....lucky this time it was 4 months and not four years.
For the holidays, go visit him
and think of it as him being at work on away at school....
whatever you do, dont accept all those damn collect phone calls.
put money on his account and have write to you
tell him the money can be better spent on other bills....
when he gets out,
ultimatium time
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jail again and he is history
(you dont have to mean it but he doesn't have to know that)
2007-10-28 17:21:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
i have lived through that experience. its hard. you do get through it. be sympathetic now while he is there. but when he gets out make sure he knows how much it hurts and drains the life right out of you to be a mother of a child in trouble when there's nothing you can do to help. holidays will be hard. maybe it will be extra hard on him and he will use that experience to know that he never wants to spend another holiday in jail. good luck
2007-11-01 17:06:11 · answer #5 · answered by mimahairball48 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the way i deal with it is that he cant do no more drugs and he is safe and nothing can happen to him except get better and get his life straight and move on with it and dont look in to the pass look at the future and people do make make mistakes and they learn from them just be their for him and visit him write him and put money on his books where he can call home and have tooth paste and shampoo and soap and extra food to eat because they dont feed them good in jail i wish yall good luck and happiness
2007-10-28 18:09:44 · answer #6 · answered by lil momma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marijuana is a drug in my eyes its a plant and your son didn't get four months just for a little green.
2007-10-29 00:06:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow you should move to Canada - they don't put people away for smoking pot!
2007-10-28 17:18:47 · answer #8 · answered by curiouscanadian 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋