I'm in desperate need of help dealing with a teacher!?

Question

A week after I started college, my sister-in-law was in a car accident. My brother refused to leave her side, so I brought their four small children (ages 5, 3, and twins 1yr) to stay with me. Two weeks later, she dies. My brother was suppose to have been flying back home to CA to tell her family (we're in TN now), but no one has heard from him. He's taken off, its been weeks since I've heard from him. My parent's are out of the country for at least the next four months. I'm also responsible for my 15yr old little sister. I just turned 18 in Sept. I have no friends nor family this side of the country, so I'm on my own. My school work has been difficult to juggle. I'm still doing well in most of my classes, as I've been able to talk with my teachers... all but my math professor. I have trouble showing up for the 8am class, so I'm failing. I've written her many times, but she hasn't responded. I've been blown off when I tried to talk to her in person. What should I do?

Answer 1

Go to your counselor or better yet possibly the Dean of the school, explain to them the situation and though you are working on attempting to resolve the situation, the circumstances were well beyond your control. I'm wondering with that many little ones how you are managing to tend to all their needs? I hope that you have some help and that you aren't having your 15 yr old sister taking on the burden while in class as that would be way too much for her as well. Even for the two of you that is a considerable amount of responsibility. Is there any way of getting in contact with your parents? If nothing else maybe your mom might be able to come back early and assist. As to your brother's wife's family if you have a name and location of where they live you can get in contact with them through the local police department in that area. I'm sure they would help you as well being grandparents. I'm not sure what to say about your brother, you could file a missing person's report on him and get the police to help. They would be able to find out if he did fly out there, and contact the local agencies to be able to track him down and find out what's happened to him. I wish you the best of luck and am very sorry for your family loss.

Answer 2

Withdraw on a family/medical emergency. Talk to your adviser/counselor and the department head if the teacher will not give you the time of day. Take the children with you to make your point. This is ridiculous behavior on the teachers side. Go over her head.

Your parents need to come home. I cannot even begin to imagine the stress you are under and those children can't wait for 4 months for some sort of stability. I can't imagine they are simply dumping this in your hands, you are not more than a child yourself. Start by contacting the children's grandparents and other relatives and tell them to come and get the children. Contact your parents and ask that at least one of them come home. If you get into trouble, call the division of family services. Good luck to you.

Answer 3

Make a formal appointment to see your professor during office hours. If she blows you off, then go to the department chairman, explaining that you are attempting to resolve a problem and the teacher won't meet with you. If that doesn't solve the problem, then you visit the dean's office.

I'm astonished that your parents have not cut short whatever they're doing out of the country to help with this situation. Can one of them return, leaving the other to carry on with whatever it is?

Your brother is grieving and can be forgiven for his immensely inconsiderate actions--his kids lost their mommy and daddy both, because of the way he's behaving--but there's no way a full-time college student should be expected to raise her younger sister and four small children single-handed.

The bad news is, your personal problems are yours, and the professor isn't obligated to cut you any slack because of them, although of course she could. Her job is to teach you math, and if you're not there, or always late, she can't. It might be wise to drop this class rather than fail it.

Answer 4

Drop the math class and make sure everyone knows the reason why. any teacher who isn't willing to work with you as the other teachers are doing should not be in that position. I applaud you for the way you have taken these children into your life. You should see if there is any reasons that your parents can not return sooner though because your brother is apparently taking his wife's death very hard and someone should try to find him to make sure he is all right, but you can only do so much and you are already doing perhaps more than some woujld be able to do in your position. I applaud you!!

Answer 5

I could desire to declare, i will empathize with what you assert. i've got had instructors like that besides. it quite is definately harder while that instructor is the top of the branch, yet you're able to desire to comprehend that as a classification you have extra ability over that subject than you have self assurance. given which you have addressed the subject concerns with the instructor already and he isn't keen to hearken to you out. You and your classmates could desire to write down letters to the Dean of your your branch. If thats him, then bypass in direction of scholar affairs. yet regardless of you do, please stick to protocol and detect sparkling subject concerns that have been addressed with the instructor and how it quite is affecting one and all of you. additionally, with issues pointed out, please proportion a answer which you think of might help in looking a decision to the difficulty to whoever you're writing your letters to. working example, detect having a survey or comments following the class or mid semester to debate subject concerns that is mounted. If it truly is in basic terms too lots and you at the instant are not too far alongside interior the semister, in basic terms drop the class and spot if somebody else is coaching. That, i've got self assurance must be your very final selection. yet being proactive approximately your guidance is important. you're paying him to benefit what he's conscious of and if he can't do this, then his place ought to be re-evaluated. i'm hoping this helps

Answer 6

what on earth is wrong with your parents??
the "grandparents" of these little children who just lost their mother?
get on the phone and call information and get the sister-in-laws parents names and let them know what happened and I bet you will get help from them.
this is so sad that all the responsibility has been put on you and you alone.
but God will bless you for your loving and caring for all the ones you mentioned.
if you can't find her parents number ..go to the police and tell them they need to be notified in CA....which I am very surprized that they weren't anyway.
God bless and take care ...keep us informed.

Answer 7

Drop that one particular class until things for you gets better. In college you cannot be late no matter what for grades. Failing then try shifting it over to a night class or try making it up in the summer months. Other than that get a live in sitter temporarly.

Answer 8

If you don't want to drop that class then you'll have to talk to your prof. in person during his office hours. If he decides not to cut you slack then drop it or go higher in the chain of command to the head of the math department, i.e. his boss.

(This is a sure way to get on his sh*t list, though)

Now that I think about it...it's best to drop it.

Answer 9

it is not the professors job to take second rate work because you're struggling in your life. you should drop the class. teachers sometimes excuse a little excessive absence or tardiness, but to pass is your responsibility.

Answer 10

eris go to the head teacher... or some one in charge .. quick.. do it today.. as it will help you.. and good luck..