i ******* hate my family!! esspasialy my dad all he does is eat, sleep and go to work and he barly does anything there! he is a ******* pervert he always thinks its ok for him to talk to me about certain stuff but its not! I hate him. iv told him that. iv ran away nothing seems to work its like hes out to get me or somthing. When he gets mad he chases, puncehes, or throws things...CHILD ABUSE and i told him that i wanted to talk to a councelior and say that what he does is wrong but no the moment i start saying i want to leave he gets all lovey dovey then the next minute he turns around and ******* gets all pissy its like everything i do around this house ill get in trouble for it. my parents say they want me to get my grades up or i cant do anything but its hard to focus on school when you have all these problems at home! sombody please help me!
2007-10-28 16:26:26 · 33 answers · asked by JessicaBomb[; 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
hating is okay in that situation it can provide the motivation you need to make things right! dont get so down about whats bad and try your best to change it, work hard in school and know that it will make a difference if not for them for you and your future
2007-10-28 16:29:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Girl... all the more reason to do whatever chores you got to do the second you get home, then bury yourself in your studies, and basically make yourself scarce around the house. Do what you have to do just to stay out of trouble.
Find a friend's house you can study at. See if you can recruit a few "safe houses" you can stay at among your circle of friends. In other words, play keep-away.
When you can, get a job and bank your money so you can get out of there ASAP after graduation.
The idea is to keep a low profile and not be a target.
It really sounds like this guy has mental problems. By all means, don't let your mom offer you up as a substitute if she doesn't want to be intimate with him.
You need to call the old pervert down on his behavior the second he starts up with it. This is about boundaries. When he makes with the comments, you say something like, "Whoa! Just who do you think you are talking to here, Mr. Pervert? Do you understand that there are laws against that?"
GET A KEYED DEADBOLT LOCK on your bedroom door. You may have to dig out the latch hole a little deeper, but it will help you sleep better at night.
Yes, a talk with a school counselor is a darn good idea.
2007-10-28 17:41:14 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should really ask a help from someone like the councilor or even a police if you really want a solution beause all the councilor does is bla bla bla and I dont think that your dad will be listening to the councilor. You should really complain to the police then the police will give him a warning about that child abuse thing and your dad will get scared! running away isnt really effective because your parents know that you will give up faster than they will. Or if you want to step up small then tell your uncle or your grandparents but never to your dads relatives because trust me, they will just protect your dad. This is what they will say "You need to understand your dad is just stressed!" Its very normal to do things like those if you really need to.
2007-10-28 16:34:48 · answer #3 · answered by lawrence 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is S E R I O U S. You have the right to feel safe in your home. I suggest you talk to your guidance counselor at your school. Your guidance counselor will take the proper steps to help you. You don't have to go through this on your own. And yes this is C H I L D A B U S E. God bless you.
2007-10-28 16:45:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Expect someday when you become a parent oneday and if having a daughter like you would someday stand rebelling against you and to your would-be-husband? What would you feel then as a parent? And now what would feel as selfish daughter of your parent?
Accept the fact that every generation have its own time and it is getting wilder and wilder. The old generation of youth long ago was not to hard to handle because they were more disciplined and if you compare to this generation of youth today there is too much big differences in discipline and maturity.
When you become parent one day, expect the worst experience to discipline a child!....
2007-10-28 16:37:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If i were you i would hate my family and even if he does get all lovey dovey when you want to leave you should still go and it is wrong to live with someone who is abusive and hits you I have been through the same situation that you have.
2007-10-28 16:30:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't kill anyone. Or yourself. Eventually you'll grow up and move away from them. See, there is a light at the end of the tunnel. "Hate" is a strong word that defines a tremendous rage you have toward them. Try to get out of the house and away from their sickness as much as possible until you are old enough to leave. Good luck.
2007-10-28 16:30:35 · answer #7 · answered by Sister Lourdes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not one of those lovey dovey people, but I usually only say I hate my family when extremely irate, even though My situation mirrors yours in some aspects. I have learned to tolerate it and tell myself everyday that when I am 18, I am so out of here.....
But everyones situation is diffrent....
my dads an asshole but I know he cares about me.....he just doesnt know how to convey that or help me, all he does know is to get pissed
but other truly have scum for parents, and i guess its ok to hate them as long as you dont act on it
2007-10-28 16:31:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is WRONG to hate your family. The best ting for you to do is just concentrate on your studies. Do not let all these affects you. One way of doing that is just let go your hatered and bury yourself with more peaceful thoughts. Sometimes if you have hateful thoughts, even though you did not speak, it shows all over your face. Someone will pick that up and quarell will start. So just be nice and remind yourself to be nice and not let these happenings affect you..
take care
2007-10-28 17:23:05 · answer #9 · answered by trymejames 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
being a parent can be extremely frustrating when your kids start to grow up.,
Some of us parents panic and do and say some of the dumbest things. Trust me.
When starting a conversation with your parents, try starting with the words.
" I have to talk to you and you are probably going to get mad"
somehow this statement defuses a parent in a mysterious way.
hope it helps
signed a parent
2007-10-28 16:33:40 · answer #10 · answered by mishpocha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its always wrong to hate your family because in the end they are the ones that love you no matter what, but the things you are describing are bad, you should talk to someone about it especially if he starts to kiss up only when you threaten him, that means he only acts good when hes under pressure so id say tell someone like a counselor if you have problems at home
2007-10-28 16:31:14 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋