Ok...here's the story...my kid's have lived with their mother for the last 3 years. I've worked every Sunday for the last 5. I now have Sundays off, and I'm wanting to start going back to church. My kids want me to go to their's. I don't believe the same way they do...not sayin they're wrong, but I just don't believe that way. Anywayz...my kids are ages 7,6, and 4, and they're really into their church. How do I tell them I don't wanna go there without upsetting them? Please help me! I don't know what to say!!
2007-10-30 19:15:59 · 7 answers · asked by Ronnie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Tell them that you choose to believe in a magical invisible giant man, in a slightly different way to their magical invisible giant man. Therefore you go to a different building to worship your magical invisible giant man.
2007-10-30 19:20:53 · answer #1 · answered by ZCT 7 · 1⤊ 5⤋
I think it would be beneficial to the kids if you took them to their own church. They have relationships there already.
But if this is just not acceptable to you, find a church that is good for you and for children, and just tell them this is where you go and they go when they are with you. Try to emphasize the similarities between the beliefs, not the differences. You are trying to foster their spiritual development and faith at this point in their lives. Doctrinal disputes should be kept out of their lives at least until they are a lot older.
2007-10-31 02:32:40 · answer #2 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok! take an off from ur work, to tell them that you wanna spend a holiday with ur family and want to go for a picnic, but mind it -don't tell the picnic spot to them, take them to a wonderful park, garden or to their favorite place in the first half of the day, and when you feel that they have enjoyed a lot there, ask them to let visit to another place that is so much divine and holy to you.(express your emotions towards that place completly, at this time, ok!), just convince them positivly to go there, take them to your favorite church , your faith and affection needed to be reflected for that church, i know your kids might or might not be liking to be there, but you will have to do this for once, denying the kids' likeliness just for that time being.
then after that dau, don't you force or ask your family to go to your church,
certainly, your goal would be accomplished, you will see soon. (But till then, you will have to just wait, have patience!)
bye
2007-10-31 02:55:42 · answer #3 · answered by asha k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you 're going to a church that goes 100% by the word of God, salvation through grace, then you've got to encourage them to see that your faith is deep. that you know beyond a shadow of a doubt that You are saved .
. they'll see your conviction & maybe your concern &-- maybe --just maybe==you can reach them after all, they are your children too & y ou can take them to your church, when they're with you.
2007-10-31 02:26:11 · answer #4 · answered by Yotepha 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask to meet every Sunday after church; that way, you go to your church and they go -with their mother- to theirs. Explain to them that you attend mass at a different place and that you'll be happy to meet with them -whenever possible- right after.
2007-10-31 02:24:02 · answer #5 · answered by MiaMonique 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Approach it gently, let them know that God wants you to find him in another/different way than their church does, and make sure to offer to meet them after church for lunch/hanging out afterwards.
2007-10-31 02:22:41 · answer #6 · answered by dlb_blair 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
tell them that you like this other church and would rather go there. but obviously on importan t dates go to their church as you are needed to. they will apreciate it quite a bit.
i like michelles answer
2007-10-31 02:24:36 · answer #7 · answered by tom5251972 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋