I really want a babybut im a teenager?

Question

i am 17. i dont have a boyfriend but all i want to do is have a baby. i live at home and both my parents would love a grandchild as they coulddnt have more children after me due to complications. we have a large beautiful house perfect to bring a child up in. i have £80,000 inheritance for us to live on.

what do you think is there any opinions about this.
i may wait about year im not sure.

Answer 1

Youre crazy.
I think you should get a babysitting job then you'll get a small idea of what it takes to look after children. Then decide.

Answer 2

I think this is not something to do alone, or at your age when you have some growing up to do and opportunities to do so much like travel, study, have some fun etc. while you don't have too many responsibilities. Are you sure your parents would want a grandchild now if it meant you had to make all these sacrifices. Also, would it be a good thing for a child to choose to do this, and where are you going to find a boy or man who will father a child just like that? I think you should do something wise with your inheritance so that when you do have kids, you will be able to invest more into your family. At least talk to your parents about it before you make this decision. Maybe getting babysitting jobs would let you be involved with and enjoy looking after babies and kids, but without the permenant responsibility just yet. Babies are a massive responsibility and require significant sacrifices, try to remember that. Good luck. Maybe when you meet the right man, things will fall into place.

Answer 3

Hi, I was just a year older than you when I had my first child, but I wished I had waited until I was able to take care of him myself. When you are that young, you can't take care of a baby by yourself. And that inheritance won't last long. If you really want a baby and know you will take care of it and always want what is BEST for your child, you should wait at least a few more years, just so that you can get your feet planted into what you will be going for the rest of your life. Do you want to go to college? How will you support yourself and a baby 10 years from now? There is alot to think about. Give it time, and when you are 100% sure you are ready with no doubts what so ever, then go for it, but being by yourself isn't the answer. A child needs a father also.

Answer 4

£80,000 really won't last you very long. The average person just starting their career only earns between £15 and £20k a year, which barely covers the bills, so 80k will only last you a couple of years. You need to get your education and start a good career so you will be able to support your child. Keep the money you have for emergencies, as there are always plenty of those when you can't afford to deal with them.

Money aside, your child needs a father figure in there life. Grandad doesn't count, even if you do live with your parents.

As someone else has suggested, get a puppy! That is quite similar in many ways to having a child, so you'll get a small taste of what you are letting yourself in for!

Good luck, and enjoy life for now!

:)

Answer 5

Everyone want to love someone.
Everyone want to be important to and loved by someone.
Everyone wants some worthwhile and important work in their life.

People forget these things and think that young girls have babies just because they are careless. But these things are important needs and having a baby fills all of them. IMO, it would be wiser to find other ways to fulfill these needs. Get yourself very involved in some worthwhile work or project, whether it's getting a degree in Chemistry, serving as a Hospice volunteer, or teaching adult literacy. To love and be loved, get busy transforming your relationships with relatives and family friends, start interacting with them as the young adult you are instead of as a child. And definitely share your ideas with your parents. This is a big decision and you should think it over for at least a few years; think of the obstacle a baby would be if meet "Mr. Right", as you probably will.

On the lighter side, get a week old kitten and get up in the middle of the night every 2 hours to feed it. After 8 weeks of that, send me an eMail and let me know if you still want a baby.

Answer 6

17 is awfully young to be making a decision that will effect the rest of your life. Once you have a baby, what you want or need and your dreams and hopes go on hold. I suggest that you take this time while you are young, healthy and free of responsibilities to experience life. Travel, go to school, do things you have only dreamed of etc..., Date, meet new people etc.., and then when you are older and have much more life experiences decide if you want to be a parent or not.
Also one day you may fall in love and that man may or may not want to be a step father to someone Else's' child. He may also treat any children the two of you have together different than your first child.
As much as your parents may like a grand child, they may also want you to live your life first. Also they may not want a child out of wedlock and may not be happy about that choice.

Answer 7

Been there done that and I can tell you it isn't easy, I didn't deliberately go out to get pregnant and had actually taken precautions but they failed me so I decided that if I was old enough to be having sex then I was old enough to accept the consequences.

My partner then was worse than useless to me, it was hard and became even harder when my son became seriously ill, even though I had the support of my family it was hard, his dad all but disappeared because he couldn't handle it. Life as a single parent is hard with or without money, your not allowed to think about yourself for the rest of your life you can only think of the child and their needs.

Don't deprive you or the child the chance of a loving partner and farther. Get out and live your life, get a job and be a good role model, you can't live off that money forever, when you have children you will be amazed at how quick it will be gone. By getting experiance you will become a better parent as you will be able to teach them more and show them the world as it really is.

Answer 8

You have created in your mind this wonderful picture of what you want. Think about the child for a momentt, . Will your parents have to raise the child? Will it be best for the child to be born to you just because you have a fantasy? No matter how big your house is or your bank account , you shouldn't have children until you are more mature, married, and can accept every responsibility that comes from the fun of having a child. This isn't like having a puppy or kitten.

Answer 9

You can't live FOR your parents, may be you're thinking you'd make them happier but I think that if they really would have wanted more children in the house they would have either had more or they would have adopted. I'm sure your parents would wanna see you grow and become a good woman with a good job being able to support yourself in a great loving relationship before you start having kids....
There is a WHOLE life ahead of you trust me, I'm 27 and wish I could turn back time, I love my son but I missed out on a lot of things.... you don't know it until it's too late and then you have to face and live with reality.... it's not as easy as it looks... trust me.
Hope you make the right decition.

Answer 10

Babies come with a lot of responsiblity, hon... and child birth takes a toll on your body...

You will have to remember that most of your time will be spent caring for the child, and you will be responsible for it around the clock, most likely. Which means, losing sleep, and having to get up and care for the child when you'd rather be doing something else.

I know many of us have maternal instincts, and it's not unusual to wish for a family; however, you have all the time in the world for that.

At your age, you have the opportunity to do and see things other kids may not be able to do/see. Perhaps consider filling your life with experiences, so when you do have a child, you will have something to tell them about your youth and experiences.

Take care.

Answer 11

You say you want a baby, but you only get that for about a year, then you will find you have a "toddler". Then you have a child for about 12 years, then you get a spotty, moody truculent teenager, who in a few years will be writing off to Yahoo saying they want a baby. So then you will be a granny in your 30's.

With £80,000, you will get no benefits (why should you?), until it is almost gone, ie in about 5 years.