well if youve read my other questions then you know what im talking about. if not then let me summarize it for you. i moved to minnesota from texas to live with my dad, stepmom, and little brother so i could attend highschool. i thought i would love it up here but my dream did not turn out like so. i have come to the conclusion that i belong in texas and i am going to move back after i complete my freshman year. my dad has even stated that i can move back if i really want too. i probablly dont want to confront him untill after new years that way i can focus on school work. so how should i go about confronting him? im really afraid that his heart will be broken cuz him and i are like best friends. what should i do or say???
2007-10-30 16:01:08 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I would wait till summer time and see how it goes if you still can't adjust let him know in private that there are these reasons I really would rather be in Texas, personally I have lived in both and I just plain HATED the winters there, there are good and bad sides to both but for weather I liked it better here in the west also. Let it be clear to him that this is in no way a reflection on him and his new wife, but that you just don't feel the connection here with people as you did bask home. It does take time to adjust and probably more than year but more like several, but I totally know where your coming from. If your family enjoyed camping I WOULD STAY IN MINNESOTA!!!! If in deed your dad loves the couch MORE I'd go home to Texas! He doesn't seem to take advantage of the time he has with you all and time is everything when your a kid! But keep in mind he also needs time to relax after working all day and when both parents work it is HARD!!!! Hang in there hunny!
2007-11-01 03:12:48 · answer #1 · answered by darlin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would explain to him how much you love him and that Minnesota is just not for you. You gave it a try and really appreciate him taking you in and opening his home and family to you and it is nothing against him and your family its just that your heart is in Texas. I am sure he will totally understand if you sit down and have a heart to heart talk with him. Dont do anything behind his back because that will just hurt him. I had the same situation and it was hard really hard because you really dont want to hurt your dad but if its not working its not working. The thing is you cant bounce back and forth....like if things dont work out in Texas and you want to go back to Minnesota. Tell him you want to come up and visit on holidays and vacations and such. Its not about the confrontation if you guys love each other and can sit down and talk to each other. Good luck!
2007-10-30 16:19:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a rough one. There is no easy way and yes you are going to break his heart. "Confronting" his,as you say, I think is not the best way to go about it. Having a long heart felt talk may be a better course action. If you guys are as close as you say talk to him about what it is that is bothering you there. Tell him how you feel without casting blame on others. Be open and honest and maybe you can work it out. I bet he will do anything for you. Good luck.
2007-10-30 16:21:18 · answer #3 · answered by J. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sound like you are dad has done more confronting of this that you. Of course if you and your father are close you both will miss the other but every man must journey down the road of his own path. Your Father knows this but you have yet to fully comprehend this. The are plane, trains, and automobiles so it is not like you and your Father will not see each other ever again.
Good luck in life.
2007-10-30 16:12:59 · answer #4 · answered by T-Rex 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not giving it enough time. Do at least a year. If not for yourself, for your Dad. You did say "you are like best friends". Life is full of changes, give it another 6 months for the both of you. Think about it hon - Nancie
2007-10-30 16:13:42 · answer #5 · answered by nancie_usa 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
the fact that you and your dad have a great relationship, should not stop you from being truthful with him. he'll understand. it's hard to move to another state/province, even though you have your family around...it doesn't compare. i'm sure you'll dad will be fine with your decision,provided that you'll be in a stable situation in texas. good luck
2007-10-30 16:17:30 · answer #6 · answered by monroe2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well explain to your dad the reasons why you want to leave if he's understanding he should let you go back. just stress to him the fact that even though you love him you would be better off back home.
2007-10-30 16:33:04 · answer #7 · answered by cutie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As a parent I can tell you there will be some hurt feelings involved but your father also wants you to be happy. so when the time is wright just tell him and make sure you let him know you love him.
2007-10-30 16:16:28 · answer #8 · answered by Wendy79 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your father to sit down. Then explain to him that you are a grown man and that you want to move on to your personal life.
2007-11-01 12:26:50 · answer #9 · answered by Yesenia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him straight out that you want to move back.
2007-10-30 16:15:25 · answer #10 · answered by DEF LEPPARDS GIRL™ 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋