I am torn between spending Christmas lunch with my family or my boyfriend. My boyfriend can't come to my family for Christmas, he needs to be with his family as his sister is coming over to the UK from Chicago and they don't get together very much. He has invited me to Christmas lunch too. We've been together for a year. Both our families are small, though mine is increasing as one of my brothers is now married with children.
However, my other brother says I am selfish as I should be spending Christmas lunch with my family and see my boyfriend on Christmas Eve instead. I can't make him understand that my boyfriend is important, he is the person that I am going to start a family with, and of course I want to spend Christmas with him.
Whatever I do, I can't win!
2007-10-31 01:20:40 · 11 answers · asked by Picky Bird 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Until this guy is your HUSBAND, spend the lunch with your family and Christmas Eve with his family. In Scandinavia the BIG day actually is Christmas Eve!!! Christmas Day is basically nothing. You can help with a wonderful dinner at your boyfriend's house on Christmas Eve. This will endear you to the mother.
2007-10-31 01:33:51 · answer #1 · answered by Alea S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello. why don't you spend Christmas morning with your family and have lunch with them .then go to your boyfriends house in the afternoon and spend the rest of the day with him....This problem happens in families every year but it is Christmas so do what makes YOU happy not your brother. my idea is just a suggestion that maybe will help a bit. i wish you all the best with this xx
2007-10-31 01:34:16 · answer #2 · answered by her with the mad ginger hair 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right - You can't make everyone happy and you are so upset you can't enjoy xmas dinner at either house. How sad. I was lucky my mother was good enough to have xmas lunch or supper which ever one my husbands (b.f.) family didn't. That solved the problem for me but I know sometimes that isn't possible. Try talking to your mother and see if she can work something out so you can attend both meals. If she can't I would have to say family comes first as you are not married to him. I am wishing you Merry Xmas where ever you dine and try not to let this dilemma wreck the whole day for you. Hugs
2007-10-31 02:02:38 · answer #3 · answered by snowflake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can win if you stop allowing others to control you and your emotions.
Your boyfriend is important, and if you decide to spend christmas lunch with them, well, you'd be getting to know them better. If there is time, you can pop over to your family's home to say "hello" and wish them a merry christmas. Otherwise, use the phone.
Your brother needs to control his own life, and stay out of yours.
2007-10-31 02:44:00 · answer #4 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps a different time of the day could be arranged for two separate lunches? I do this every holiday and end up enjoying three Thanksgiving dinners and four over the Xmas holidays.
2007-10-31 01:54:35 · answer #5 · answered by FRANsuFU 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in the same city as your boyfriend, then you should try and organise having Christmas lunch with your family, and Christmas pudding with your boyfriend. That is what I would do!
2007-10-31 01:36:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Christmas is just another day. There is nothing special about it, and nothing special about giving someone a gift on that day because it is expected. If you do some research you will find that it is a fake day made up to cover up the Pagan origins to make it "okay" for Christians to celebrate. Just like all holidays. Jesus wants all praise to go to God, I truly doubt He wants people to celebrate what "people think" is His birth day. (That time of year it was too cold for any Shepards to be out tending their sheep, and way too cold for an infant to survive in a mainger.) Anyways my point is, don't wait for some silly holiday to show the people how much you care. It is more special and meaningful if it is just out of nowhere.
2007-10-31 01:31:32 · answer #7 · answered by Snow 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have lunch with youre boyfriedn and tell your brother you thought about him during lunch and it's the thought that counts.
2007-10-31 03:14:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don,t you go to your boyfriends in the evening.
2007-10-31 01:32:21 · answer #9 · answered by antanddoc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. Make your self happy instead
2007-10-31 02:15:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋