I met my in laws last year for the first time. Everything was good untill I saw pic from my husband and his ex- girlfriend in there house. I thought thats was so disrespectful.
2007-10-30 21:27:07 · 22 answers · asked by Key 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
it happens. it is their right to put her picture in their house if they want to, but i agree it is very disrespectful. don't make a big deal out of it because it'll cause a rift and tension between you and the in-laws. you should give your in-laws some of the wedding pictures you have copies of and any holiday pictures of yourself and your husband, maybe then they'll take a hint and replace the picture of her with yours.
2007-10-30 21:31:49 · answer #1 · answered by vixen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh honey your just entering hell, if this pic was an important date pic such as graduation or prom or homecoming chalk it up to memories and take no disrepect from the action however if you see more pics and they continue to talk about the ex as if she was he one true love , or have pics of her and only her like say an 8x10 of her joyous face looking right at you everytime you enter the house while not a single pic of you and your honey reside anywhere then take offence and take drastic measures such as buy a nice frame have a pro pic of you and your honey made and give it as a christmas , birthday, or mothers day gift. If mom in law is old fashioned at least the appearance that she accepts you will be there when you visit her home.(because it was given as a gift it must be displayed when the person visits) However if she is not or if she is truly evil as the ones Ive dealt with then you will have to wait till grandchildren enter the picture for then she will see it is the hand that rocks the cradle that decides how often the grandchildren visit, and how often their daddy and your hubby do also. In essence dear you may have to fight fire with smoke screens and water.
2007-10-31 04:39:44 · answer #2 · answered by pinkleo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a parent an in-law a daughter a granddaughter and sister I can tell you there is nothing about that picture that is meant to be disrespectful (unless of course they are always talking about the girl) they have a picture of their son that is how they look at it. I have pictures of my soon to be husbands Ex wife from when they were together, some are with their kids together and some are of just him and her I kept them for him and for the kids. If you love and trust him you should have the green eyed monster over a long gone Ex sweetie!
2007-10-31 04:36:10 · answer #3 · answered by bethany b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why? They made her part of the family as they will you too. Just cause they didn't make it together doesn't mean they don't like her. If your boyfriend loves you then you shouldn't let things like this bother you. Go with the flow. Ask about her, maybe she's a really nice person and you just might like her too. And do Remember... This is not your house to judge what goes on there walls. You get to do this In your own home. Sorry but this is a true story
2007-10-31 04:33:08 · answer #4 · answered by sunnydays 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we had people in our lives who our parents cared for. Just because our relationship ended and our feelings changed doesn't mean our parents feelings for that person changed. When that happens, it's quite common for us to expect our parents to turn off their feelings and that's not fair to them. What I would say is this. At this point you do not know them well enough to have any idea what these people are like. I'm not seeing anything in your message that indicates these people were rude or mean to you in any way. It sounds to me like they are loving and kind and open. There is nothing wrong with that. I say befriend these people. Get to know them. Invite them into your life, share yourself with them. Respect them. I like the idea of giving them a picture of you and your husband. Your husband has a past. So do you. Let it go. Our past helps us become who we are today. She might have been a lovely person. Take the high road and don't submit to jealousy it's not pretty and a total waste of energy and time. You sound lovely. Let these people get to know and appreciate you. Celebrate your husbands past, it's what brought him to you.
Good luck.
2007-10-31 05:12:54 · answer #5 · answered by oh_my_its_linda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree, that is totally disrespectful! I have been there. what I would do is first of all expect my husband to speak up and then if that did'nt happen I would make sarcastic comments about the pictures. Just politely let it be know.
2007-10-31 04:41:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not disrespectful at all because you do not know what kind of relation exist between them and the ex girlfriend..can you honestly say that you have nothing left of any of your old boyfriend hidden somewhere? its their house so i don't think you can go tell them who/s picture they can and cannot have.
2007-10-31 04:43:13 · answer #7 · answered by axc772000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps its the only photos your in laws have or he has his best attires wore on that pics.
or why not directly asking them...
perhaps you will get a good answer.
get along with them could be a benefit as well as to know each other more
2007-11-04 02:13:39 · answer #8 · answered by dessa w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is and you shouldn't have to look at that.
I had the same problem and I told my spouse if the pictures don't go then I don't feel comfortable in that environment and will not go back. They went.
2007-10-31 04:59:09 · answer #9 · answered by LC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you, you have nothing to worry about. Just mention to him that you feel a bit uncomfortable seeing that picture, and ask him if he would ask his parents to put it away. Don't get nasty about it, just let him know that it makes you feel uncomfortble. They may have forgotten that it was there.
2007-10-31 04:31:52 · answer #10 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋