Family - September 2007

My mum is so fkn argh! makes me want to rip her head of sometimes. I'm a A student. I'm doing good at school. I'm 13 yrs old. My mum doesn't let me do fkn anything! Its like she has no trust of me going out with friends, or sleeping over at friends house or even sleeping over or going out with my closet cousin! She has some issue with my dad side of the family and she hates them. But I love them. She gets angry when I visit my grandpa. She dosent trust me so much that he takes my mobile phones (3 different ones) I use it for emergency use and family. BUT SHE WONT FRIGGING TRUST ME AT ALL!
She always start **** with my dad when his sick and he just had 2 surgery's from his back.
It just makes me so depressed.
I don't feel like a normal 13 year old. Never was and never will. Cos of my mum.
She even has more power than my dad.
I dont know what to do..
*tears*
One day I'm going to explode..

2007-09-16 20:43:03 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-16 20:39:38 · 6 answers · asked by ipod 3

I am pregnant now and these kids are going no where - we have custody and guardianship of 1 (they come from 2 different familys) and they are really worried that they will be sent away once the baby is born no matter how many times we tell them they won't. They are really getting quite upset and it is breaking my heart .Welove them as if they were my own - what can I do to make them see that having a baby in the family will not change our love for them? Baby is due in feb so we have alot of time up our sleeves.

2007-09-16 18:13:47 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

ok me and my sister fight all the time about everything she cuss's me out, beats me up and always does something to make me mad. i know that i kind of encourage her by antagonizing her but i really don't beat her up of like sufficate her...'cause that's some of that she always does....then she tries to make me feel really guilty about why she did it. i know that this sounds really bad...but i'm getting to a point now where i hate her and tell her to die....i know that that's not a good thing so could someone please help with something?? i would really appreciate it thanx

2007-09-16 18:10:58 · 5 answers · asked by will2improv 3

my son is 16 1/2 old.my mother has custody of him because we all moved out of the country 3 years ago,and he missed his grandparents a lot and i thought he was having a hard time adjusting to the new enviournment,so i decided to let him spend the summer with his grandmother.anyway,once i sent him she went to court and told them she didnt know where i was.they gave her custody because of that.now,i am back in the states and he is giving her a hard time,skipping school,drinking,ect..she wants him to return to me and i want it too.the only thing is we are almost 3 thousand miles away from one another.she has purchased a ticket for my husband to pick him up in a few days,but she has not had the custody switched over to me.i guess my question is once he gets here,can i then apply for the custody although we are not in the same state?

2007-09-16 18:09:40 · 5 answers · asked by healthnut05 1

My mother is depressed and clinically ill. She's been nonfunctioning since I was very small, so I'm used to her being like this.

Even though I'm in college now, I continue to live with her so she doesn't have to go into a home, and despite the fact that I do my best to help her, it's never enough.

At this point, not a day goes by when she doesn't tell me that things will never be good, that she never wants people to be happy, and that she's generally hard to handle and be around.

I know I should leave, but I feel tremendous guilt about leaving her alone. On top of that, my younger brother is still a minor, so he would be trapped with her on his own without me around to run interference.

Does anyone know of any social services or home health options that I could call?

Bottom line: What should I do??!?

2007-09-16 18:04:14 · 15 answers · asked by Bellicosa 5

I’m 17 and i have a problem with my stepmom. My step mom is loud, bossy, and rude without knowing it. I have a boyfriend, and I love to spend time with him. I’m not materialistic at all. i don't need gifts and pleasantries to make me happy but he likes to buy me stuff, even if i tell him many times not too. My boyfriend has a job and works for his money. Lately, my step mom has been an even bigger b.tch than usual.The other night, she tried to tell me that i USE my boyfriend, because he likes to buy me stuff, and that I should respect him. She says I’m taking advantage over the fact that he has money and that it's not my role in the relationship to use up all of his money. i don't ask him to buy me stuff. She's never around to see how we act, and how i reject his offers, and i made that clear to her. so is she wrong to ASSUME and tell me to my face that i'm using him? Read this to http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AidmdI_wvDt6SMaqarLsMxK.7BR.;_ylv=3?qid=20070916211551AAsVNWF

2007-09-16 17:36:45 · 16 answers · asked by RojaRego 1

My 15 year old daughter is now living with me. She lived with her father from age 10 to 15. Her father moved due to job reasons and sent her to me. I live in a different state.

She hates living with me and the state/ town that I live in. I don't know what to do when she expresses that.

I have found an apartment for us to live in because we were living with my parents and my mom did not want us to stay together in the family.

I don't know how to deal with the frustration and unhappiness that my daughter expresses. It will take time, I know. But, she keeps saying and I keep thinking that if I had reunited with her father, she would have been happier.

I don't know what else to do - she found a small part-time job with a local realtor, she is enrolled in an ACT review class and I am moving out. ]

I am at my wits end as to how to keep her happy?

2007-09-16 17:16:41 · 8 answers · asked by Stareyes 5

this is my story.there is a 3 storeyed house in which v live on the topmost floor.the 2 families on the ground floor & 1st flr noncooperate wth us in evry way pssible.no1 takes the charge of locking d main dooreven ven our vehicle is in 1st.if v r d 1st or d last even then v hve2 lock d door wth our own lock&they keep d common lock.they pester me at6am asking4 d key.pls sort a way out.

2007-09-16 16:24:19 · 4 answers · asked by hili 1

my mom and dad r divoced .im an only child.iv never even seen my dad .so i gotta hold of his phone # this summer and some women answered and told me he wasnt there .then she asked who i was .i choked up and she hung up on me.i was sooo scared thinking i might have a step mother .should i call him again ?but what if the women answered again ?if i do should i say who i am ?do u think is should tell my mom this ? i would but shes such a hard worker i dont wanna upset or disappoint her .i nkow i have the right to knoe my dad ,but its so hard and im really scared.

2007-09-16 16:15:25 · 9 answers · asked by SerENa 1

Heres the deal, I recently moved home after college. I am relatively a chill person that just goes with the flow. I have things that I enjoy, my brother has things he enjoys, and my dad has things he enjoys. Well thats great everyone has different interests. Heres the problem, my dad is one of the most controlling people and he questions everything. If you do something that isnt an interest of his then he downgrades it as crap and tells you to be more productive. He also works alot and tends to spend relatively little time doing anything for himself. Constant bickering.

One example, Fantasy Football - I play fantasy football religiously and really enjoy it. Games are usually only played 1 day a week so you have to update and on Sunday watch the games and stats as they progress. Today we were watching games for most the day and checking stats. All we heard all day was yall are crazy, whats the deal with this. Then by night he was ready to cancel the internet because of it

2007-09-16 15:56:45 · 2 answers · asked by Financial Guru 1

I'm 18 in 2 weeks. I plan to stay home till graduation in May. I plan to move in with my dad but my mom sead it's illegal for me to do so if she seads no. Is it? I personally don't think so

2007-09-16 15:50:57 · 19 answers · asked by Jason 1

It's 13 days until my birthday! SEPTEMBER 29th! but my parent's haven't mentioned anything.. and I want to tell them that they forgot my birthday last year.. It was my 16th.

The year before that they tried to celebrate it on the wrong day. It's also recorded on our health insurance and in the school system on different days.

I've got 3 other siblings.. So I know it's difficult to remember everyones birthday.. but it seems like they always forget mine.

Am I too old for birthdays? Is it whiny to remind them?

They celebrated my sister's birthday, and she's 19.. but she had just moved out.. So I guess she needed the pick me up.

Oh well.. It's probably just middle child syndrome.

2007-09-16 15:49:15 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok lets just say my new wife and ex wife do not get along. The problem is i share custody of my 8 yr old with my exwife, we have been divorced for 4 yrs.Hear are my 2 problems.1. My ex wants to have joint b-day parties for our son but my new wife wants us to have seperate ones(meaning my son has 1 with us and 1 with his mom) this is how we have always done it since the divorce but my ex want to combine them now to "share the work/expense" 2. My ex does not want my new wife to attend parent/teacher conferences with me.My new wife feels she should go as my son lives with us 50% of the time and my ex should not go with me since we are divorced and my ex should go on her own. I agree with my new wife but i want to do whats best for my son.

2007-09-16 15:43:02 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am 18 years old. I am currently pregnant. My mother has had nothing to do with me really that much when I was growing up.. She lost me and my sibling due to drugs. I am having a boy, his name is cadin. the thing is she wants to have like everything to do with Cadin and yet she did not try with us.. I was out of her care since I was 1 1/2 I have lived with my grandparents since then and sometime with my dad down in texas.. I just dont know what I should do so I am asking you for advice

2007-09-16 15:42:26 · 15 answers · asked by newmom022008 1

Hes not abusive, or drunk, or anything like that, my dad just likes to yell at me alot. For example, I went to do the laundry, and he started yelling "OH JEEZ NOW WHOS GONNA DO THE DRYER?? JESUS CHRIST.. ILL DO IT" Then I said "well i can do it if you want" or somethin like that and he yells "NO JUST GO AWAY ILL DO IT.. CHRIST...." And just yells at me for stupid things. He doesnt yell at my brother, or my mom.

Sometimes if he gets REALLY, REALLY mad, he will hit me. Not hard, but he will still do something. It really upsets me because I hate it when people yell, especially men, because they have strong voices and it just scares me. I'm only 14. What should I do?

2007-09-16 15:38:24 · 9 answers · asked by I'm A Fly (Top Contributor) 2

well i was kicked out of my birth moms house and was adopted...i lost contact with her when i was 2...i am 17 right now and still havnt had a call or an email from her...i got into contact with someone on her side of the family...they told me she lives in korea right now...they say that i also have other family in korea..they want me to go with them to korea to see my other family....but if i go i might see my birth mom too...they told me that when i am ready to go that we would go...but i am scared that she is goin to hate me and push me away...another thing i found out is that i have another brother that i have never met b4...she gave up custody of him and left him behind to....so i am scared what should i do?

2007-09-16 15:31:56 · 3 answers · asked by HELPFUL 1

I'm just so sick of the favoritism with my family & them honoring friends & hating me. If I died today or tomorrow, they'd joke about it laugh, but they're quick to run to a stranger's funeral & cry.

2007-09-16 15:21:49 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

This won't happen this year, but odds are, it will happen next year because I graduate college and move on to law school. My parents seem to be approvng of the idea as well as I am. What can I do now and leading up to that time in order to smoothen the transition between living in my house and living somewhere else where I won't have my parents to help me all the time?

2007-09-16 15:16:31 · 4 answers · asked by ravensfan172003 3

So here it is . . . I have just gotten married, again. And my hubby has two daughters {who have no contact what-so-ever from their biological mother.} We need something for them to call me other than by my first name. However, my daughter is not ready for them to call me Mom, or Mama. I have looked into Mother in other languages, but they all sound to similar to English for my daughters comfort.

Anyone have any suggestion of nicknames?

2007-09-16 15:15:58 · 17 answers · asked by dolli_t 1

every six months i move from tahiti with my aunt, 2 california with my dad. i've been doin this since i was seven, cuz my mom died, and now i'm 14. now i hav 2 choose rather 2 liv with my aunt in tahiti, or my dad in cali, so i can stop movin 4 good.
how can i possibly choose!
i luv both people,
and both countries!!!

2007-09-16 14:59:55 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

Just a quick back ground on me..but I grew up in abusive family where earliest memory was my mom punching my bro in the face. Then whining to my dad about how bad he was when Dad came home from night shift, I still wake up with those nightmares. It wasn't so bad for me but emotionally I suffered hugely and was sabatoged by my mom throughout my life and told I was never good enough.

When I had my children, she didn't like my daughter, I lost a child and yet again no support when you'd hope for it. I always swore she wanted me to be an Andrea Yates. Well, when my third child was born, she decided to dote on the first child and ignored my son. I kept up with it all b/c I believed Grandparents should have rights and maybe they would both be better Grandparents than Parents.

I am not going to go further into details as It's really personal but my wonder is why are there grandparent rights when , if you as a parent don't see a grandparent fit why should they have any rights!?

2007-09-16 14:48:13 · 5 answers · asked by Yummy♥Mummy 6

When you look into the mirror lately, do you see yourself turning into your mom/dad? How do you feel about that? How do you feel about getting older?

2007-09-16 14:31:27 · 5 answers · asked by WHOISTHEPUPPETMASTER? 5

Okay, this is hard for me to talk about because I'm so disappointed. I was using my step dad's computer the other day because mine wasn't working and I found in his history A LOT of porn sites, that might not sound that bad, but my step dad is a Pastor! Let me give you a little background of my family for a min. My real brother told my mom and step dad he was gay his junior year, and they were Horrible to him, most of that was my step dad's doing, they told him he was going to hell and it's sin ect...Then I told my mom about a year ago that my boyfriend and I had been having sex for about 2 years. And she couldn't keep it a secret and told him. He said he felt like a failure as a parent, even though they both had sex before they were married. There is also a girl 22, in my church that is pregnant, my mom told my step dad and he told EVERYBODY at church! She wasn't ready to tell anyone yet. And now just about every other week he preaches about sexual immorality, just throws

2007-09-16 14:25:03 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

My parents took away my phone and car because I didn't call them because my phone was dead..so now I have to suffer for a week?

2007-09-16 14:17:43 · 6 answers · asked by Caity 1

How can I ever forgive myself for having an abortion? I feel like if I didn't let my kid live, why should I deserve to live. When I was 19 my mother forced me to have an abortion. She raised me to believe in abortion. Whenever a cousin or friend was pregnant my mom would yell "She needs to have an abortion" So finally when I became pregnant she told me that I "better get rid of it" I listened and really regret it. I flunked out of school, now I drink and smoke and feel miserable and depressed. I wonder if I can ever forgive myself and move on to love a happy/ healthy life?

2007-09-16 14:10:18 · 23 answers · asked by luvme&hearts 2

I am staying with my Father son, but I am not happy. And I am trying to learn how to get over him but I dont know how. what do I do. Everyday he does something to make me mad and he never spend time with me and his baby.help me please

2007-09-16 14:07:04 · 10 answers · asked by LaBrittany J 1

2007-09-16 14:04:24 · 5 answers · asked by ♥.:cookie_monster/poptart:.♥ 1

that i want to move back to ukraine and live with my dad when i try to tell her she thinks im not serious but i am i want to move back how do i tell her

2007-09-16 14:03:27 · 5 answers · asked by lalcutiepie 1

I asked him why, and he said he likes it. I told him to stop and he said no. Should I tell my dad? I don't want him to end up with a bad crowd in school. My dad won't get wayyy angry, just talk to him about it. But I don't want my brother getting mad at me for telling. What should I do?

2007-09-16 13:43:46 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous