well i was kicked out of my birth moms house and was adopted...i lost contact with her when i was 2...i am 17 right now and still havnt had a call or an email from her...i got into contact with someone on her side of the family...they told me she lives in korea right now...they say that i also have other family in korea..they want me to go with them to korea to see my other family....but if i go i might see my birth mom too...they told me that when i am ready to go that we would go...but i am scared that she is goin to hate me and push me away...another thing i found out is that i have another brother that i have never met b4...she gave up custody of him and left him behind to....so i am scared what should i do?
2007-09-16 15:31:56 · 3 answers · asked by HELPFUL 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
By all means, see if you can go visit her country of origin and touch base with those roots. Go with an open mind.
Your birth mom will most probably be pleased and relieved to see you at long last.
So far as I have observed among my many contacts, nobody's birth mom ever got hateful when their offspring looked them up.
In one case, a girl I know found her birth mom and current kids... after the introductions they all sat on the porch and enjoyed pizza and beers.
2007-09-16 15:46:49 · answer #1 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i were you i'd talk to someone close, maybe those who adopted you, your mother left both you and your brother behind for a reason. It would be wrong of you and hurtful to you, to show up uninvited. The fact that you are scared should tell you, your not ready. Your mother is there to start over, maybe to heal, she has that right, wheather you like it or not. Please try to get on with your life, there will be a time for you both, but let now, go. Take time in life to ready yourself, to present yourself and enjoy life until. Happiness is the success she will recognise in you.
2007-09-16 23:08:46 · answer #2 · answered by ferochira 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you were "kicked out" when you were a baby - and that makes it sound like you did something wrong, to deserve rejection. You didn't. Your mother is the one with the problems. Speak with your adopted family members and explain your confusion and why you are upset, and look for their support. Don't put any of the blame on yourself - you are not at fault here.
2007-09-16 22:39:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋