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So here it is . . . I have just gotten married, again. And my hubby has two daughters {who have no contact what-so-ever from their biological mother.} We need something for them to call me other than by my first name. However, my daughter is not ready for them to call me Mom, or Mama. I have looked into Mother in other languages, but they all sound to similar to English for my daughters comfort.

Anyone have any suggestion of nicknames?

2007-09-16 15:15:58 · 17 answers · asked by dolli_t 1 in Family & Relationships Family

17 answers

First off, how wonderful that they are willing to accept you as a mother figure. I think the real issue here isn't a different name, but the placement of your daughter's comfort. Is she old enough to have a conversation with about the matter? Perhaps she feels like you may replace her with the other girls. Maybe talk with her about names or nicknames the other girls could call you. What is she going to call your new husband? Dad? Or by his first name? I know my girlfriend had her step children call her Tia Mama (auntie mom) Soon it just became Mom. As it probably will in your lives at some point as well. Good luck. Let your daughter pick a name she is comfortable with. :)

2007-09-16 15:23:11 · answer #1 · answered by Amy R 4 · 0 0

Is there a nickname or variation to your current name that they could call you? If not, i think you are going to have to go with just your name, at least until your daughter is comfortable with it. I doubt your daughter will like them calling you anything that means "mom", even if it is in another language, because its probably the meaning that mothers her, not the actual word.

2007-09-16 15:23:35 · answer #2 · answered by Kristi 5 · 0 0

My step daughter was 8 when I first married her dad. I didnt do anything as far as trying to decide on a Mom type name for myself, I let her choose and she chose my firs name which was fine by me. She is close to being 30 now and it fits very well. We are more like sisters anyway after all the years we have grown together.

However my grandsons call me Mamaw, the first born tried to call me grandma and that is how it turned out.

Good luck with this. My best advice is not to stress on this issue.

2007-09-16 15:25:01 · answer #3 · answered by ncgirl 6 · 0 0

Have a little chat with your daughter. Explain that the others need to feel like they are part of things, too. Tell her that if they want to call you Mom, you still love her as much as always. Tell the others, they can call you whatever feels comfortable for them---even if it's your name. In time, they will call you Mom when they feel comfortable with it.

2007-09-16 15:51:36 · answer #4 · answered by onyxchynah 1 · 0 0

Let the girls decide what to call you. Let them grow into it, whatever they decide. Your daughter needs to be comfortable with them calling you mom if they want to. They don't have a mother to love them like your daughter does. Did you and your husband not talk about this issue prior to being married?

2007-09-16 15:20:32 · answer #5 · answered by gma 7 · 3 0

Your lucky their calling you by your first name and nothing else, when you marry a man with kids you marry all of them, too bad for your daughter she has to share you, explain it to her and let her know she has to share you now and remember you have 2 more children too now! ask them what they would be comfortable calling you.

2007-09-16 15:27:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Hey, love

a name is just a name. I was foster mom to 15 kids and none of them called me Mom either. .."just" my name Jan...

They will call you Mom in their hearts where it counts....so use your own name. It's going to sound really sweet as time goes by.

2007-09-16 15:25:53 · answer #7 · answered by imask8r 4 · 0 0

My own daughters actually call me "Moe". That was my nickname in high school. (a shortened version of my last name) Is there any kind of shortened version of your name that they can use like that?

2007-09-16 15:21:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

okay.... you may not like this but mama shay would be one for me. you just fill in your name. or nanny. not pronounce like the typical nanny like a babysitter but more like mommy. (nonnie) grandma in spanish is nana and mommie. nanie. how ever you may want to spell it but it's pronounced like mommy with all N's. with all due respect to your situation don't ever try to take the place of their mother. just love them like a mother. they will grow to resent not you but that situation. i'm sure they will LOVE YOU. i don't care if there mother was one of manson's girls. never APPEAR like your filling that void of the real mommy. that's something only their imagination can fill even if you are the best damn mommy in the world. try to understand! good luck.

2007-09-16 15:28:41 · answer #9 · answered by Shay 2 · 0 0

I have been called "Mimi" by my god-children, friend's children etc. It is a nice term of endearment like mommy but not too close for comfort.

2007-09-16 15:21:46 · answer #10 · answered by Helen A 2 · 2 0

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